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Aries Girl Foolin’ Around With Neighborhood Virgo Boy…
Dear Elsa,
I am an single Aries mom in a little bit of an emotional mingle. Life is complicated for me now. I just moved a couple hundred miles with my son, we now live with my dad. I have made only a couple friends here… One just happens to be a gorgeous Virgo boy that lives right down the street. He is 23, and also new here. We started foolin’ around a couple of weeks ago and have some kinda super intense sexual chemistry - I’m getting caught up already.
Today someone sent me a text message that said “boo” I thought it was him, so I asked and his response was “well now you have another boyfriend” so my response was “I didn’t know I had a boyfriend, you wanna be my boyfriend?”
In return he said to me, “I’m not looking for a girlfriend right now, I have to get my stuff together, but I still wanna be friends, and I like you”
Well, the thing is that I really enjoy him. Maybe too much for my own good since he’s not on the market exactly… and I’m a little offended. I wasn’t mad yesterday that he wasn’t my boyfriend but since our little accidental conversation I’m really bothered.
I still do want to hang out with him, I like being with him. He makes me feel like a princess. But what about when he gets his stuff together, and he is looking for a girlfriend? What will I be to him then: the girl down the block he used to mess with…???
Elsa, I’m having a hard time determining what to do here. Everything I’ve read about Virgo / Aries is bad… What do you think?
Aries Girl
United States
Dear Aries,
What do I think? I think you don’t like to lose! I think I like your phrase “emotional mingle” and I think you should not worry about what astrology says about compatibility between sun signs. But most importantly, I don’t think you like to lose. And with a Leo rising, you definitely don’t want to be disrespected or ditched for another. So what to do?
Well here’s the dilemma: with Venus in Aquarius, part of you is perfectly content having an affair without rules. But the rest of you wants total control and this conflict is embedded in you. In other words, it has nothing to do with the Virgo down the street. You are going to create this scenario with anyone you get involved with over and over, until and unless you can figure out how you can reconcile these two parts of yourself. The side that wants security versus the side that wants to be free that is.
If he finds another girl, then yes. You will be the girl down the block he used to mess with. But if you find another boy, what will he be? He’ll be the boy down the block that you used to mess with! Or you could marry him but how fun would that be?
Marry him and you win, right? This way he’ll be yours not hers but then you’re stuck with him. The point being that the challenge and the lack of commitment is part of this guy’s appeal.
Good luck.
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