It’s been interesting watching the solider land here. People have their natures and within 24 hours I could see he was plotting his empire and his various operations and we have had a big fight about this.

At one point he wanted me to plan with him. This was his move cross country specifically and I tried to indulge him but every time I offered an opinion he had a better angle.  It did not take me long to see it would always be this way so I wound up telling him to count me out.

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Synastry techniques are useful but they are like paint. Everything relies on the ability of the astrologer

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Catch up here -> Part one - Elsa P on synastry

Since we are on the subject of synastry (or at least I am) I have thought about this:

The soldier has his north node in Libra in the 7th. With Aries south node in the first… well he is very good at being a soldier. He claims he has been at it for many, many lifetimes and his claim is credible so what’s it going to take to move him towards evolution?

Well my Mars Mercury conjunct lands on his node and what do I do? I constantly yell about manners and being civil, which I admit is ironic since my yelling is beyond merely RUDE. However he is a soldier and he thinks yelling is a fine way to train men.

Continue reading Astrology And Relationship: Nodes In Synastry - Subtlety Counts: In Fact It Makes All The Difference In The World

Introduction to a series on synastry: Techniques astrologers use to judge compatibility between charts - Do they work. Theory vs fact.

Skip to part 2 - Painting vs Painting By The Numbers

max writes on Mismatched Love Natures video:

“My question is: if you have Venus/Neptune and AMF had Venus/Saturn, what happens with the Soldier since he has Venus/Saturn?”

max - I dunno. The situations are very different. The AMF had Venus conjunct Saturn in Scorpio in the 8th. That’s pretty severe. Also his Venus Saturn was in hard aspect (wide orb) to my Venus in Leo.

In contrast the soldier has an inconjunct from Venus to Saturn which is much milder. He also has a sextile between Uranus and Venus and an opposition to Jupiter. His Venus is also tightly sextile mine. So how’s this for an interpretation:

The Saturn plays in that we were separated for an entire Saturn cycle - 28 years. Is that enough delay for ya? Also the commitment we have is profound.

His Venus/ Uranus aspect suits my Uranus in the 7th house(Venus) and Jupiter? Well I was going to make a video about that but suffice to say we both “believe” in love.

Couple this with the easy aspect between the two Venuses and I think we’re looking pretty good.

This is going to be my next topic by the way. Synastry!

If you are an astrologer who uses synastry, what approach do you take? Classic chart comparison? Composites? What?

pictured - Venus and Mars by Sidney Harold Meteyard. Oil on canvas

What happens when two people love each other but have love natures that are not compatible?

Alma writes, quoting something I wrote in a comment about my rudeness:

very funny - “I am not a dog that you can carry around in your purse!!”

Now see, that is the kind of thing I would yell at the soldier and he would not know what in the world I was talking about. Seems perfectly obvious to me what I am saying but he would be standing there as he says, “like a hog looking at a wristwatch”. And it would progress like this:

“A dog? What do you mean, a dog?”

“A dog! A dog! I am not a dog you can carry around in a purse! I am not civil. I am NOT!”

Continue reading “What &*^$# Word Is Giving You Trouble?”: Mercury In Aspect To Saturn In Synastry

I never finished writing about the big fight I had with the soldier and the truck wash and the gay man and the blonde but we were talking about it a couple days ago. Mercury (communication) in aspect to Saturn creates difficulties in this arena.

If you have this in your chart you may feel something is wrong with how you converse. The soldier has these planets in aspect along with Mars (that’s the fight part) but we also have Mars, Mercury and Saturn mashed up between our charts so this is always, always our number one challenge and actually the only one we face…

“Why do we fight like we do?” he asked.

Continue reading “We Fight Because I Am Stupid” - Mercury In Aspect To Mars And Saturn, Natal Chart And Synastry

I have heard (and agree) that if you pay attention the first time two people meet, the whole relationship can be told. The energy between the two people mixes that fast and here’s an example.I just found out I was yelling at the soldier on our second date as well. We met for about 10 minutes, I left then sent my roommate to invite him to dinner 10 minutes later.

2 hours after that he was at my apartment eating dinner and 10 minutes after that I got pissed off and kicked him out of the apartment.

Continue reading Astrology and Synastry: Some Of These Relationship Patterns Are Just Plain Hardwired

TripleCappy writes regarding an astrological formula for finding love:

“I just think it’s interesting that if you’ve ever seen Indian marriage ads for arranging marriages (don’t ask me why I have!?!) . . . up there with caste and income/job is the astrology. It’s *highly* important.”

TripleCappy - You will definitely do better matching people using astrology then you will without it but we are talking about finding THE ONE (I think). And one quirk throws the whole thing off. For example, say there are two astro-twins with whom I am highly compatible. They are exactly the same except for one has dark hair the other, a blonde. Well guess what? You better give me the dark haired one or I am going to pine into eternity so you can see astrology only goes so far. And there is also free will to consider.

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