Dear Moon,

I don’t think the problem is in your chart, it is in hers. You are dealing with someone who is significantly paranoid which is not the fault of the Moon in Pisces. I don’t know what this woman’s problem is but the fact you are feeling the problem is caused by you reflects your own problem and the proclivity to this is very apparent in your chart.

With your Sun in the twelfth house, part of a stellium there it’s a challenge to know where you start and others begin. Virgo Moon is often very self-critical and the fact yours is opposed by Saturn does not help. I would guess this girl has her Pisces Moon on top Saturn in your chart and this leaves you feeling you must be making some kind of error but I am pretty sure (we’ll see by the comments) that it is clear (to others) that this girl has a problem that is completely independent of you.

I am sorry this is probably not much help as it does sound as if you love this girl very much but if she is not willing to discover what is driving her intensely jealous and paranoid feelings then I am afraid you are simply going to be up a creek.

Good luck.

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Dear 12th House,

I can’t tell you what will happen in the future because people have free will, but I can tell you your situation makes me uncomfortable for a long list of reasons. I’ll lay them out with this caveat: I am not you. So we don’t have to worry about my comfort with your relationship; however, you’re asking for an outside perspective so I am going to oblige.

First, just in general, I subscribe to the “If you have to ask…” idea when it comes to relationships. If you have to ask if the relationship is good for you, it is almost guaranteed it is not. But beyond that, I want to point out a few things.

Your whole mail is about him. You are waiting to have feelings based on what he feels or he does. For example, how do you feel about being called a ‘good friend” when you are in fact a lover? How do you feel about dating and sleeping with someone who’s told you he cannot marry due his customs? How do you really feel about the fact he lies around and watches TV a lot?

You have a 12th house Sun, and planets in Virgo and I feel you are in sacrificing yourself to this man. You are in service to him, which is fine as long as you are aware of it. You also have a Cancer Moon and I suspect you are doing a fair amount of mothering.

So what do you think? Does this sound like the life you want? Because people don’t change their natures all that much. Matter of fact, they tend to become even more the way they are which means this guy is going to be on that couch for a very long time.

Good luck.

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Dear Girlfriend,

I have to say your last sentence is very telling. You’ve left your serious boyfriend for your friend. He has left his girlfriend and no doubt these two felt injured.

You friend/new boyfriend is confused and crying (he’s probably wracked with guilt) and you want to know if you should chuck them all so you don’t get hurt. Excuse me?

Further you blame the ex-girlfriend and her phone calls for all of your problems and I think that’s pretty convenient. I suppose she should have no reaction whatsoever to all this, right? Are you aware of your ego? With your Sun in the 12th house, I don’t think you are.

But you asked if this “thing” can work and my answer is no. No, I cannot imagine a scenario where you are going to live happily ever after with this man. As long as you blame the lack of perfection in your life on other people and deny all wrongdoing, I think the die is pretty much cast and failed relationships will be the norm.

Good luck.

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Dear Sun,

I don’t think you are working against your nature but I do think you need to work your nature. And if you were 20, I would answer this question in a different way. I would say you’ve got time to discover how you operate but you are close to 40… you know how you operate and if you want to get anything done, you have to work with what you have and who you are.

And I realize this is what you’re writing for, so please don’t be insulted. I am just trying to lay this out for you in a way that is distinct. Because you have a lot of Pisces/Neptune energy, contacted by Saturn and basically you are struggling (Saturn) with inertia (Neptune). So I’ll tell you how you can work this and I think if you try it you’ll find it’s effective.

Consider yourself a boat on the ocean. It’s a big ocean and you’re trying to get to that island over there in the distance. So what you have to do is try to get yourself to float over there. Because you can’t walk, see. Why not? Because you’re a boat.

So you point yourself towards your goal, say a bunch of prayers, and get yourself in a stream or current that seems to be headed where you want to go.

And once you find one, understand that it is still an ocean you’re in. That means you are going to pitch this way and that at times. There may be a storm and you may be thrown off course. But as soon as you can, get ahold of the wheel again and get back in the stream that is going in the general direction you think you want to go and beyond that… have faith.

Faith that the universe will take you where you best belong, whether it be that island you had in mind or another you never even thought of.

So there you go. You don’t walk, you don’t fly, crawl or teleport. You do float and your job is to guide the vessel the best you can - and realize that you must get out of bed to do this.

Good luck.

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Do you feel that things have energy? For example my friend, Alexa, a full blown eccentric raised in a commune holds what she calls “Switch and Bitch” at her house a couple times a year. She invites a group of women to her house asking them to bring the clothes they have outgrown in either size or style.

The women then pick through each other’s stuff. They “switch” while they prattle on (bitch) about whatever and this is a grand idea because everyone arrives burdened and leaves lighter.

Alexa is very sensitive to energy with a 12th house sun and a Cancer Moon and tells me she feels fantastic wearing her friends clothes. She wears mine when she wants to have an “Elsa day” and she combines her friend’s clothes to swirl things up.

Do you like wearing other people’s clothing?

pictured… that’s Alexa, she’s glorious!