Do people change? We have discussed this a few times on my blog and I find myself in the minority - I don’t think they do. The vast majority do nothing new ever. They run the same game over and over and over and over and over.

If their game works, they run it. If their game doesn’t work, they still run it.

You find these things out as time goes by, especially if you maintain your relationships. Leon at 25 years old is still Leon at 50. I haven’t changed since I was 5 years old as far as I can tell. Even when it seems I have changed it’s not authentic. I have just gone back to something I used to do that I’ve not done in awhile.
Continue reading Everyone Out There Is Running Their Game (Conscious Or Otherwise)

From the comments on Astrology and Short-Sightedness Redux, I wrote in response to AnaBanana:

“I see people doing things they don’t realize they are doing all the time.”

kashmiri wrote:

“…Do you see this as 8th house/scorpio/pluto energy? I’ve heard my sister speak of this.”

Yes. People are not conscious of their unconscious and this includes me. Liz Greene said it best, consciousness is a struggle” and I would add that people in general have no interest in struggling.
Continue reading “Consciousness Is A Struggle” Liz Greene

Lisa Martin Molinari commented on the Gaslighting video (on youtube) regarding people who come on my blog to criticize my (happy) relationship:

“Why do people do this? Is it an insecurity? I would think if they are criticizing your relationship when you are obviously happy, then they must be jealous. I have just gotten rid of several people in my life who are toxic like this. And, I do not miss their friendship…”

Lisa, what a great question. I talk to my friends about this a lot because it happens to me so frequently. Jealousy is one explanation but we have come up with some others. First, I don’t necessarily think the attacks are conscious. It’s very hard to tell. A person pointing out a flaw may actually think they are doing a service and not perceive their comments as an attack. It may be a pure lack of boundaries. On the other hand it could be completely malicious but designed to look otherwise.
Continue reading Open Question: Gaslighting Redux - Why Do People Attack Or Undermine Someone’s Happy Love Relationship

The day is bound to  be difficult with the Moon is in Pisces post the lunar eclipse, opposing all the planets in Virgo.  It’s just a lumpy bumpy rife and the temptation to project today is sky high but should be easy to spot.

Someone is the victim (Pisces Moon) or at least feels they are.  This leaves the other person to be the critical, exacting oppressive Saturn / Virgo figure stomping on the sensitivities of Pisces. Thing is, it doesn’t work that way because the victim has a million tricks of their own. “Hey! They were insensitive and cruel so now I’m going to be insensitive and cruel…”

If you mean to navigate this one with some degree of consciousness you will have a real challenge on your hands, and if you put forth an effort you are very liable to act (Mars) unconsciously (Pluto) so lets just hope you murky bits know what they’re doing!

Post your observations of this phenomena…

Last week’s Mars Uranus opposition is now a T-square involving Pluto so things take on a lot more depth and action and communication for most is driven by the subconscious. To be conscious of being driven by your subconscious makes great study… or is that just me?

In whatever case, tomorrow the Moon in Sagittarius gets involved in this mess so expect the next 24 hours to be even more complex the the 24 just passed. Best bet is forget the other player(s) and attempt to set up a dialogue between your gut and heart and mind.

It was the strangest thing. I was out walking as I’m prone to do. I walk around the neighborhood and on the trails in the nearby park when weather permits just to clear my head and never give it much thought. But the other day I was out there and as I walked by 3 boys / men, I felt afraid.

The men were maybe 17-20 years old and doing nothing to threaten to me. They were just standing alongside the path chatting but I could not stop the reality from dawning on me - I was at their mercy.
Continue reading Astrology And Trends: Pluto In Capricorn And Unconcious Fear In The Collective Ready To Erupt

I agree I am strange unless you understand astrology in which case it can be made apparent I am merely a grand example of a packed 8th house. I am someone who consciously uses the energy of others and offers energy so others can do same.  It is in this vein that I post so much about the soldier who is a rich source of energy of various types.

Now he’s got a Cardinal T-square involving Mars, Mercury, and Saturn which he puts to good use. He is phenomenally studied and disciplined and if you’ve need to focus your energy; your skills can only improve via exposure to him. (swearing below break)

Continue reading Astrology, Power And Using Other People’s Energy To Achieve Your Goals - My 8th House And Pluto In Capricorn

Dear Aquarian,

No you don’t suck but I think your problem is complex and beyond what can be resolved in this format.  But I can give you a few tips to which others may relate.

Regardless of its nature, when you have a pattern this well established it’s a safe bet you are going to have to work very hard to change it. It’s as if you have cut a path and you can be sure to fall right into it every time… if a struggle for consciousness is not made. As to the specifics of what is driving all this, I can see a couple components right off the bat.

First you have Venus in Capricorn, which gives an innate feeling of unworthiness as well as both a fear of failure AND success. This is probably subconscious to a degree but you can see it play out in that you make sure one way or the other that you do not hold that top position.

Now you also have Mars in aspect to Neptune, which tends to dissolve the drive when a person does not act consciously.  For example, your music did not arrive on schedule, but why not go hunt it down?

If you can focus on and resolve just these two things, you would be well on your way to solving your problem and I can also tell you that that victim position will never, ever, ever  work.  In other words, your “close but no cigar” pattern is not due an oppressive force outside yourself.

I hope this does not strike you as harsh or critical because it is not meant that way.  Personally, I would like to see you in the first chair and I am pretty sure this is the path to take to get there.

Good luck.

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SaDiablo writes on Saturn Forces A Hard Look At My Writing:

“…but maybe I wasn’t giving you enough credit for sneakiness, E. ”

read the rest…

SaDiablo - I don’t know but I will tell you what I do know:

To the best of my consciousness this was not about M. I was already having conversations about this with friends at least five days prior.

In reality, there is a much MUCH larger problem than people who storm off on my blog. As always I put it right out here. The cost to publish here is rising and that it is rising dramatically. It is rising exponentially I would say and is far more pervasive than people who get pissed.
Continue reading The Conflicts On This Blog, People Who Hate Me, Subconscious Attacks, My Guess At Reality And A Whole Lot More

goddess write on How Much Of What You Do Is Subconsciously Driven

“I get feelings, and try to act on them. I don’t usually know where they come from, and even when I try to figure it out, it takes SO much more energy to try and logically explain them-and even then, I’m not sure if I’m coming up with an explanation or rationalization-it’s much easier to just listen to them and go on. And they’re always right, so why fight it?”

Continue reading Astrology, Neptune And Pluto: Acting On A Feeling vs A Primal Drive