Dear Pisces.

It sounds to me as if you are serious and it also sounds as if you have a chance to win your wife back - but you are going to have to revolutionize your way of being. And if you are not willing to do this, I am sure a separation is in both your best interests. But so long as you’re willing to really change, here is a map. These are the steps you can take and and with a Capricorn Moon and rising I am sure you know how to follow a plan.

First withdraw the petition for divorce if you can. If she wants a divorce, let her file it. You don’t want a divorce, so what are you doing getting one?

Next, whatever the issues of abuse are, solve them. Don’t care what she did to you. That’s her problem to solve. But you’ve got to stop hitting her, yelling at her, or whatever else you are doing - and you have got to stop it completely. If you find this a challenge, get a therapist and figure out why but you must do this 100%. This is non-negotiable.

You must also use your dick! For Godsakes you cannot let your wife languish and go without sex for 4 years! Are you crazy? Are you drunk? Whatever you are, fix it! Women need sex from men to thrive! PERIOD. You are in your early forties for Chrissakes. There is no excuse!

So there you go. If you hit your wife and deprive her of sex, as far as I am concerned she ought to go find another man! And so she did. But in this case, even though she may love him, she apparently doesn’t want him or she would be gone! So it does seem she may be trying to make a point and you may have a chance… and if so I hope you use it.

But from one Capricorn to another, I can tell you right now: if you keep doing “the wrong thing”, you’re going to do nothing but continue to roll down the hill.

Good luck.
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More chat re: the way up there, elevated gal who hit on the soldier…

“So why do you think she did that, P? Do you understand? I mean I guess she’s horny and I don’t blame her for that but why me? We’re friends. We have been very good friends and why would she mess it up like this?”

“Oh, I am sure she’s got a whole fantasy,” I said.

“Fantasy?”

“Yeah. You know how men are visual?”

“Yeah.”

“Well women, we like to dream things up. We like to imagine how things would be, or could be and you are perfect for this.”

“Why? Why am I perfect? What did I do?” Continue reading The Soldier and the Gal Who Hit On Him: The 8th House, Scorpio and Attraction to Taboo

Today I saw a man in the gym so obviously horny to the point of abstraction I thought someone ought to volunteer to take care of him. Not me, but someone.

And now, twelve hours later it dawns on me I bet I look just like him at least from time to time if not frequently or even daily! Yipes!

Where is your Mars?

Dear Betrayed,

I am inordinately sensitive to pregnant women. I think that making a baby is one of the most demanding things a woman can do, so I take great care when I get a question from a gal carrying a child. And when I read yours I was hoping there would be some way to softpedal or ease an answer in your direction; but as it turns out, your chart is so extreme I am just going to have to come from an odd angle and hope I do a good enough job of making sense (without causing any harm).

Now it seems clear to me that although the porn is very hurtful, you do love your husband and would prefer to keep family together. And I agree with you. Your husband is honest, he is there and he has been there for eight years. So is there a way you can react differently to this situation? I say there is.

Now you are 26. And while that’s no baby, I am a lot older than you and can tell you that you are going to find out all kinds of things about sex… if you’re lucky! For example, while I do think men are more visual than women, when it comes to an ability to fantasize they’ve got nothing on us. And with as chart like yours, this is particularly true. You would be hard pressed to find someone who would be able to out-fantasize you so I have to think this whole situation is leading you to discover your own sexuality.

See, we start out with all these rigid rules. Won’t do that. Can’t do that. But the best lovemaking occurs when these walls come down. You can’t keep them up, anyway. You’ll kill yourself trying. You cannot expect a man to lie on top you and focus his mind on you, you, you, you to the exclusion of anything else. It is not realistic but it is also not desirable.

Because if turnaround is fair play, then you’re going to have lie beneath him and think if him, him, him, him and I am sorry… but that is freakishly limited, don’t you think?

This is not a male/female issue. I am a woman and I think about all kinds of things during sex. This does not mean I don’t know who I am in bed with. I am so grateful for a partner that gives me freedom. Because we are all interested in taboo, consciously or otherwise. I want to explore my sexuality utterly and completely, don’t you?

Think about it. Do you want to color between the lines this time, next time and the time after… until the end of time? I don’t think you do. Your chart says otherwise. Your chart says, this girl is boundless. This girl can travel. She has an imagination that can take her anywhere. So let me give you a “for instance”.

What if the next time you have sex with your husband, you imagine that teacher you had a crush on when you were thirteen years old? Think that might raise your temperature? Try it. And with that in your mind, let it go if it wants… your husband’s face is transposed with this other face… and then another and another.

If you did that, would it mean you do not love your husband? No. It would mean you are a vitally alive sexual being - and if he is same, then you can be set for life. Nobody likes a rut. And here is the newsflash: especially you!

I’m going to say it again. You have a Sagittarius Moon conjunct Neptune. You have an exact Sun, Pluto, Black Moon conjunction in the 12th house… in Scorpio no less. You have a Mercury Uranus conjunction in the 1st, also in Scorpio and puleeease… let your dogs out to play, I think you’ll be very happy if you do.

The baby growing inside you? He or she is a product of your powerful sexuality. Feel it and rejoice.

Much love and good luck to you and your family.
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Just back from a workshop with Glenn Perry PhD… sort of a spur of the moment thing. Since having children, I don’t attend local astrology meetings so I am out of the loop as far as what is going on locally but I happened to hear of this workshop and couple days ago and immediately decided to attend.

I wanted to go very specifically to see Perry and I could have cared less what the workshop was about. Reason being, the chapter he wrote in, "Sexuality In The Horoscope".

I read that book when it first came out. I went clambering for it actually, considering I am me and I was treated to his bold treatment of Venus and Pluto in aspect. Continue reading Glenn Perry PhD - Sexuality In The Horoscope and His Workshop On Psychodynamics of Aspects in Astrology

These are my thoughts around how I would define a “sexual person” as prompted by the questions on this blog.

If you have a motherlode of Scorpio in your chart, or a packed 8th house, or Pluto in close aspect to a bunch of planets…etc. In short, if you are a Plutonian, you are going to see and feel and think virtually everything in sexual terms.

In my case, I have a packed 8th house and when I get on the crosstrainer at the gym, I think about sex. I put the thing on the highest level possible, which is like a slow grind. And it is not possible for me to do this without sexual thoughts coming into my head. Continue reading All the Scorpio / Sex Questions on the Last Blog: Pluto and the 8th House

Dear Scorpio,

I don’t think you could be asking a better question. No, I don’t think you are a lesbian! I also do not think you are not a lesbian. I think what you are is super, super, SUPER sexual and there are no lines. Here’s the astrology:

You are a double Scorpio. Your Sun and Ascendant are in Scorpio, but you also have Venus, Mercury and Pluto in Scorpio and all of it in the 12th house! You also have an 8th house Moon (more Scorpio) but never mind that!

Anyone with this much Scorpio is going to be enormously interested in sex, period! To someone like you, everyone and everything is potentially sexy. Anything that stands upright is a phallic symbol, yes? You are going to see and feel sex everywhere you look because this is your nature. Sex and I mean, any and all sex is instinctual to you. It is inherent to you, as is an interest in anything that is taboo and forbidden.

And when you consider the 12th house, this is where the dreams and fantasies come in. So I am here to tell you: no, you are not a lesbian. I can’t imagine you would ever narrow yourself like that, can you? So don’t worry about it. What you are doing is living and the things you are exploring are completely normal for someone like you. And you don’t know where this is leading.

For example, you are 20 years old. You may wind up a renowned sex therapist! We don’t know. And if that is the case, then this experience is part of your research. So please just carry on. You are doing nothing wrong and although you may be afraid I’m sure you are on the right path. We are what we are and this includes you!

Good luck.

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Pluto (sex) with God (Sagittarius)? Sagittarius makes fun…

Comic Sarah Silverman depicted in carnal relations with Almighty…

From WorldNetDaily.com:

A partial transcript of the morning after the holy sexcapade is as follows:

God: I had a really good time last night. A really, really good time.

Silverman: Thaaaanks (in a disdainful tone). Me too.

God: Come to heaven with me today.

Silverman: Today.

God: You’ll see the past and the future. You can fly, and I will introduce you to Thomas Jefferson.

Silverman: Oh, awesome. I told my friend, Natalie, I’d help her move, though.

God: I can stop time!

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Dear Scanning.

Yes, absolutely. The astrology is very clear. Uranus transits bring impulse to experiment. The 8th house in a birth chart represents sex among other things and Uranus is currently going into your 8th house. On top of that it will conjunct your Mars (more sex) in Pisces so you’re going to try some new things!

But I don’t want you (or anyone else with an impulse) to worry one bit. So I am going to tell you a story about how this works. Because I have Uranus tied up with the 8th house in my natal chart, and I would know.

When I was 17, I was already a very sexual person. This is my nature. And one day the No-Tel Motel opened in my town. It was a motel where you could rent a room by the hour and it had these porn movies piped in. And this was unheard of back then! This was a pure scandal and the motel was on the news, morning, noon and night. People organized and began to picket the place and when they threatened to burn it down, well that was it! I had to go there. I just haaaaaaad to.

See, I was curious. I was from the desert and I had never seen porn or movies or anything. I grew up without a tv! But also I just wanted to cross a picket line! Uranus wants to defy! Uranus wants to do what Uranus wants to do so after three days of watching this on the news, I couldn’t stand it anymore, so I called up the soldier.

Briiinnnnng! Briiiiiiiiing!

“Hey, man. You know that No-tel Motel?” I asked. “Have you heard of it?’

“Yeah.”

“Well I’m going. Wanna come?”

“Do I want to come? Did you just ask me if I want to…”

We roared laughing and a few hours later we met outside the motel and crossed the picket line together, me with the biggest grin you could possibly imagine. And we rented this room. And you know what?

We turned on the porn and it took me all of two minutes to decide it wasn’t for me. Borrrrrrrrrring! Why would I watch other people have sex when I could have sex myself? That made no sense.

But anyway, here’s the point and it’s a good one. I was 17 when I did that. It was an experiment and anything could have happened. I could have gotten addicted to porn. I might have learned I was a lesbian. I could have turned into a porn star, starting having sex with animals, etc. etc. etc.

Instead I found out via this experiment that while porn is uninteresting to me, taboo is. I also learned that I preferred to focus on an actual flesh man and would be having sex with anyone, anywhere and any time I wanted… picket lines or otherwise, and I remain this way today.

And this is the purpose of Uranus transits. You are supposed to try everything so you can find out what you like. So please. By all means get out there. The only thing that’s going to happen is you’ll find out who you are and this is the best thing in the world. So I say, go out and play! No sense wasting another day.

Good luck.

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When it comes to attracting sex there seems to be two kinds of people. Everyone has heard of the guy who lacks for dates. He just can’t seem to find a women, right up until he marries! As soon as someone puts a ring on his finger, women show up in droves and this a story as old as time. The fact some woman wants this man, makes other women want this man.

Now I am in the opposite situation. When I am partnered, men take one look at me and seem to know I am unavailable. There are exceptions (like the Salesman) but they are few and far between. For the most part, men (and women) look at me and can tell there is nothing there. There is no void to fill so they take their eyes off me and continue to scan the room for someone who is “open” or unfilled and unfulfilled.

But as soon as there is a void, LOOK OUT! My pheromones start to build up and it doesn’t take long. A week? Two weeks? Next thing I know I am crawling with prospects. Men, women, librarians of both sexes, small animals, you name it. Continue reading Astrology and Pheromones, Sex Appeal and Attractiveness: Venus and Mars In The Natal Chart