With all the sex talk around here it seems ironic that I attract clients who are virgins but I do. I guess it makes sense I would deal in the extremes, I know I like to deal in the extremes but I just thought it would be interesting to throw a post up on the topic.

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Dear Unsure,

I think I can make this very simple for you, so I’m going to do that first and then I’m going to make this hard. Here is the simple solution: Leave him! Could you do it? I’m guessin’ you’d be cryin’ for this guy within a week and crying even harder six months down the road.

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This has been a topic of discussion in my circle recently. What do you do if you’re an expressly loyal person and your spouse cuts you off sexually? What if they deprive you of physical contact for a month, two months, three months or a year and this becomes a way of life?

And what if you can’t leave the marriage for financial reasons, at least not in the short term without total ruin? Is there a point at where you are justified to go outside your marriage for sex?
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Reader, Hiro asks:

Who’s the least complicated, sexually? Who’s the sexiest? Who stays hard well into old age? Is sexual vitality different, astrologically between men and women?

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Dear Elsa,

I was wondering if you had ever done a blog on MARS SQUARE, OPPOSITION OR INCONJUNCT PLUTO? This has been my most interesting find to date in this subject. All the men so far with this aspect are congenital adulterers and the female counterparts have been abused physically and sexually molested in their lives. I know of a few women with these apsects who go through one man after another and never learn to be faithful until late in life..and some never do.

One I know who is in her 60’s constantly has at least three men she is seeing (if not more) and this has been going on for since her teens. She travels and has a man every port waiting–and she isn’t a beauty to behold either. Sexual Karma - This info comes from PLUTO-THe Evoutionary Journey of the Soul–Volume 1–by Jeff Green.

Astrology has been a research project for me since the late 60’s and the karmic and spiritual parts have been the most rewarding as it gives us reasons why we are here and what for to overcome…

And here is the question from the researcher:

Do you have Mars in aspect to Pluto? Have you experienced sexual obsession or or have you been sexually molested?

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We just finished watching the Departed and regardless of what he says the only movies the soldier really likes is war and/or G-rated stuff.

“Why did it have to end like that?” he said.

“What do you mean?” I asked.

“Well I’d have liked to see the nice guy end up with the nice girl at least.”

“What nice girl? You mean stupid girl? You mean Miss Ineffectual who lies and manages to do nothing throughout the entire movie? What was nice about her? I wouldn’t wish her on my worst enemy,” I said.

“P!”
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Dear Virgo,

With Mars conjunct Pluto in the first house and a stellium in Scorpio I am sure you give off nothing but energy… energy that attracts and repels. And there isn’t a damned thing you can do about it except for gain awareness so you operate more consciously.

Now brace yourself because this next is going to sound like criticism when it is anything but. I am trying to free you here, I swear it. And the only way I know to do that is too offer insight so here goes:

Virgo has a vested interest in being seen as innocent and virginal and if you read your post up there, you will see what I mean. You’re not flirty. You’re not cheap! Why are they bothering you? You don’t want them. You didn’t do anything. Why bother the nun? Why not leave the librarian alone? But this keeps happening so it must have something to do with you and it does. Get this loud and clear:

You exude sex.

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I ran across this thread on Maurice Fernandez’s message board:

Pluto in Capricorn - New Trend?

AquariusMoon posted:

“It’s just a promise I made until I get married. Where I’m at in life, the women have got to come with something else, not just the body, but the mind and the spirit. It usually trips them out, but that’s the way it’s going to be. I’m looking at the big picture,”

Lenny Kravitz tells Maxim magazine on giving up sex ~ “
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Dear Scorpio,

I am not sure you’re broken so I would take care in trying to fix anything. No you are not “blocked”. It is exactly opposite that. You are an exceedingly ethereal and float-y person and it may be that physical sex is somewhat gross to someone so transcendent.

Basically here’s your deal: You have a packed 12th house, and Neptune (dissipate) conjunct your Mars (sex drive). Your whole chart is beautifully strung and this is reflected in the fact you are so comfortable with what you are. It’s very, Alfred E. Newman, famous for his line, “What? Me Worry?”

And if you re-read your post you will see it is almost as if you are trying to “get it up” and concern yourself with what others think you should be concerned with and you can do this if you want. Part of you likes to experiment so go right ahead. I would only warn you not to take on someone else’s idea there is something wrong with you because this is not the case.

There are men and women out there who eschew sex and feel perfectly fine. A Catholic nun would be a good example of this… she simply has other (larger) things on her mind.

And just remember this: Scorpio wields power. But sexuality is just one expression of that.

Good luck.

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Regarding this soul merge thing (Merging Souls? Who Would Want To Do This?) I think the concept is ethereal but the mechanics behind it are not and I thought I would record some of this stuff. For you, because I think it’s interesting and for me so I can have more clarity.

Now the soldier read my book which is about my life or at least part of it and the book ends at a Fleetwood Mac concert. I didn’t intend it to end there… it was HQ’s genius that ended the book there but in whatever case, I would describe this day as significant in my life. And I wrote the truth of that day as I understood it but then the soldier read it.

And some months later he was doing his psychic thing… he had his antenna and he (for the time ever) tuned into me on this specific day in my life and he could feel my feelings.

So he told me about this. He told me what I felt… what was going on inside me that day and the fact he was right was undeniable. I do think people know the truth when they hear it but beyond that, once reminded the feelings came back in a rush. And this was hard for us.

It was hard for him… very hard for a plethora of reasons and it was hard for me because here is someone poking around gaining access to information you didn’t know was there. And we related this to sex at the time.

If you’re our type you can and do stumble across things about the partner during sex. In fact when I was young and more cowboy I used to say it just like this:

“You don’t know anything about a person until and unless you sleep with them, yep! If you want to know someone, get in the bed otherwise you have no idea what you’re dealing with.”

I will come back with this story, but do you agree with this?

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