Introduction to the introduction of my idea that parenting is in crisis, to be exposed by Pluto’s transit through Capricorn.

Understanding the basis of the Saturn return can go a long way towards easing fear… the first Saturn square.

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spinner wrote on Judging A Person’s Saturn Return…

“Hi Elsa- The shoes that fate wore when he knocked me to the ground and ran over my back during my Saturn return were more like football shoes with spikes. It might have helped if I was not standing on the thirty yard line yelling threats at my opponent. Any way the scars healed in a few years and I learned a lot of things about myself and life.

More to your point… I think? I thought that I was a very mature young man, but it didn’t matter, I was blind sided by a steamroller. Is that what you are talking about?”
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Dear Wife,

I feel very sorry for you and wish I had some magic remedy but I think you’ve got this situation figured correctly except for the idea this other woman is your husband’s true love. She may be, but it is more likely they are making you (and her husband) pay - and I mean pay in spades - for your affair.

In fact, the chances are if you were to pull out and walk away, their relationship would crumple as it would have outlived its usefulness, which is to punish you for as long as you allow.

Now this does not excuse you. You are absolutely culpable for the state of your marriage however I see no reason to berate you because you have already been and continue to be punished by the universe, the powers that be or whatever you want to call it, by this little thing called, “reality”.

Reality is a Saturn concept and with Saturn in Virgo set to transit your Venus in Gemini and Moon Jupiter in Pisces you can expect to become more and more aware of reality over the next year which will be a curse… and a gift.

A gift because you state you are falling apart. Well, you will not be allowed to fall apart during a Saturn transit. You will be pressured to act as an adult and take responsibility for your emotions, your beliefs and your actions in relationships which is exactly what you are doing. And that’s it. From here you just keep doing what you are doing - doing the right thing while letting your faith support you.

You have an innate knowing that things turn out for the best, so keep that in mind. Hold that perspective as you go through this process, which does look to be grueling and protracted - but hey. Is there any other way? There is not, and one more thing:

On your friends telling you to leave, never mind them. You will leave when and if you leave on your own terms, under your own conditions and on your own timetable. This is another Saturn lesson, see? Boundaries. I get so sick of people telling other people what to do. They don’t have to live with the result, you do. So make your own decision and take your time to do this because when Saturn is around, slow and careful beats impulsive action every time.

Good luck.

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Dear Father,

You are a double Gemini and having a Saturn transit which will pressure you to do the right thing. The right thing is to take responsibility for your children in spite of more childish impulses. It seems you have figured this out so now what?

Well you can’t be in three countries at once and you probably can’t be with either of these women, however you can support them because look here: They are raising your babies for you and this is no small favor.

So that’s what you do. I don’t care what happened. I don’t care what he said, she said or who did what. You have two children that other people are taking care of and if you begin to pitch in, you will begin to feel strong rather than weak. Here is how:

Write or call the mothers of your kids and ask them, “How can I help you?” And listen to what they say. Say things like this: “I want to help you with the baby… I want to know my child, I care about my baby and I care about you and I care that you have assumed all the burden for this child we made together.”

And not things like this, “Well it’s your fault! If you’ve not have done blah, blah, blah…”

Do this. Grow up and do the right thing to the best of your ability and you will be feeling much better a couple years down the road when Saturn winds up this transit. Don’t do this and you will feel shame. And pain.

Wouldn’t it be better to try to heal this? I think so. And give the women time. It is very hard to care for a child alone. They are probably very angry but if you are consistent and sincere… well this is all the universe wants, you know? And one more thing.

With a Leo rising and a 10th house Sun, you are a natural father and I don’t think you can deny it. Bottom line, your kids need to know they have a father somewhere in this world… someone they can point to and say, “That’s my dad.” You’re him so for Godsakes, stand up.

Good luck.

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Dear Retired,

I am sorry you are hurting and I wish I had better news. I think things will get worse before they get better, but there are still some things you can do. For one, adjust your sights.

You’re heading into a Saturn transit which will be hanging around until mid-2008. Depression is common during Saturn transits but it is something that will run its course - like winter. And if frame it this way it may help you to deal. This is a season not the rest of your life and it will end.

It is also common to reflect on your life and to come up with things you feel you could have or should have done differently… but don’t stop there. Use these things to motivate yourself towards positive change.

So with this model, you are now slugging through the snow in winter, thinking… why did I create these circumstances? But if you keep yourself moving and moving though, you will eventually be moving away - albeit with some hard lessons learned.

I think the volunteering is a good shot. You’re a Pisces with Venus in Pisces and for you it is “serve or suffer”. And on your marriage, time will tell. You have Pluto transiting Venus (relationship) and it may end. If this happens, you can be sure it is for the best so the bottom line is this:

You are going to be in very rough water for the next year, so you do what you need to do. You may need an anti-depressant for example but if you do, don’t worry about it. It will be short term. This may be prolonged but it going to pass.

Much love and good luck.

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Dear Man,

Well you’re right on schedule. You have Saturn in Pisces at 0 degrees, about to be opposed by Saturn in at 0 degrees Virgo in September - and here you are taking a look at the structure and the reality (Saturn) of how you are living in relation to your age. The point is to take stock and make corrections as needed and in this case it seems a correction is going to be necessary. Because bottom line, you want to grow up and she (probably quite rightly) does not!

So there are issues of control (Saturn) here, in that you want her to her to conform and show up for your relationship… as if it were a job? I’m not saying it’s like this but I would not be surprised if she thinks it’s like this and you start to get the idea here.

It seems this gal likes you just fine. She likes to dance anyway. But as far as settling down, this is obviously is not her priority and I don’t think that’s likely to change.

I don’t think it’s likely to change because people rarely get more enthusiastic over their partner in year 3 or 4 than they were in year 1. Also, as people settle into relationship they become more “themselves” not less, and it seems this gal is and wants to be a free bird.

So this leaves you with reality. You have a girlfriend who has limits and those limits are very likely to constrict not expand. How you weigh this and what you do about it is going to be up to you.

Good luck.

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I chose the charity walk-a-thon analogy because Virgo is a do-gooder. But I thought I might point out some other things…

For example when you get to one of the water stations along the route, you are given water and nothing more. In a Dixie cup, no less. Not much is it? There is no foot rub, no applause, no massage and no one fawning over you. Just the bare minimum you need to keep going, water and a perhaps a smile or slight word of encouragement.

But as is the case with all things Saturn, once you accomplish something like this it cannot be taken from you.

To this day I can say, hey! I walked 20 miles for MS when I was six years old. And because we did this every year for at least five or six years I have always known that if I had to walk 20 miles, I’d be able to do it. And if I can walk 20, I am sure I could walk 40 because all it would be is more of the same and I have proven my ability to persevere.

And then someone comes along to tell me I suck and I get to think, “Whaaat? I don’t suck. I can walk 20 miles in the sun without a blink, you foolish fool.”

Or to quote my sister, a Capricorn rising dancer, once some gal with a privileged background was condescending towards her because of her late start in training. “What? I broke my back and I can still dance better than you,” she said. And it was a fact.

Don’t mess with a Capricorn who has paid their dues, that’s all I can say. Character is one heck of a commodity and I only know of one way to get any.

How did you earn your character?

Okay you Virgos, curious about Saturn’s transit through Virgo, today’s advice blog is a perfect (Virgo word) example of how this is going to work… Continue reading Saturn’s Transit Through Virgo - Since You Asked, Here’s What’s Coming!

“Without ego, there would be no entertainment.”

That right there is one of my favorite things to say. I came up with it some years ago when someone came on my blog to complain about my ego. I couldn’t believe it. I was entertaining everyone. What would they have me do? Go sit in the corner and hang my head in shame? It was ludicrous.

Some of us are going to hold our heads up, see. Do you mind? If you do mind, why? What possible problem could you have with someone feeling good about themselves?

Saturn is direct and leaving Leo for Virgo in September. It begs you solidify (Saturn) your ego (Leo). Define (Saturn) your creative self (Leo). In other words, carve out your stage!

You’ve got four months. Are you going to do the work (Saturn)?

Yes/No