Dina asked on the Saturn Return… Culmination video:

“What was it like for Vidroid at 8?”

Dina, that is a great question and I decided to answer though people may flip. Vidroid went to school to find himself “partnered” with authority figures. Keep in mind, he has his Sun, Moon and Ascendant in the Venus signs.

Further, Venus is on the MC so there is an authority figure thing going and I am not kidding you… his teachers treated him as a peer and a partner and all I have to say is we found out he is the kind of kid who could easily wind up dating his teacher in high school. (8th house Sun, Saturn)

Now I am pretty sure this will not manifest because I will make the whole situation conscious to him (and have already started this) but long story short, he had to beat off his teachers with a stick.

How’s that for being made to grow up and defend your person hood? Defend (Saturn) your right to be a child (Sun).

I actually had to go to the school and tell one of his teachers that he was 8 years old. I wish I was kidding but no.

Dear Mom,

Yes it can be explained.

With natal Saturn @ 8 degrees Gemini, your daughter is having her first Saturn square Saturn transit. This sets off the whole configuration… Saturn trine Neptune and Mercury in Aquarius which essentially creates irrational (Neptune) eccentric (Aquarius) fears (Saturn) in the mind (Mercury / Gemini) and while I think it is fine to tell her it is okay to be old, I am not sure how helpful it will be to a 5 year old.

Reason being it is too far off and away and out of realm. Think of it as being extremely top down where I think she’d fare better if you worked bottom up.

To work from the bottom up I would teach(Saturn) faith (Neptune). I would try to reassure her that everything comes out okay in nature and I would also watch my language. When you tell her what she “should or should not” think or feel she almost has no choice but to #1, rebel, and #2, feel like crap for fearing that she has thought wrongly. It sounds worse than it is. She’s got a trine there so work with it. Teach her magic and brilliant, innovative thinking. With this tack she can and will become masterful over time. Good luck.

Anyone else?

click to see the chart full size

submit your own open question

Dear Man,

Well you’re right on schedule. You have Saturn in Pisces at 0 degrees, about to be opposed by Saturn in at 0 degrees Virgo in September - and here you are taking a look at the structure and the reality (Saturn) of how you are living in relation to your age. The point is to take stock and make corrections as needed and in this case it seems a correction is going to be necessary. Because bottom line, you want to grow up and she (probably quite rightly) does not!

So there are issues of control (Saturn) here, in that you want her to her to conform and show up for your relationship… as if it were a job? I’m not saying it’s like this but I would not be surprised if she thinks it’s like this and you start to get the idea here.

It seems this gal likes you just fine. She likes to dance anyway. But as far as settling down, this is obviously is not her priority and I don’t think that’s likely to change.

I don’t think it’s likely to change because people rarely get more enthusiastic over their partner in year 3 or 4 than they were in year 1. Also, as people settle into relationship they become more “themselves” not less, and it seems this gal is and wants to be a free bird.

So this leaves you with reality. You have a girlfriend who has limits and those limits are very likely to constrict not expand. How you weigh this and what you do about it is going to be up to you.

Good luck.

~~
Have a question? Need advice? Ask here!

Interested in a personal consultation? Click here for more info…