“You’re going to be a decent person, when?”

I recorded this in 2008. With Saturn going into Libra it is newly relevant. Does the manner in which you leave one relationship impact the next? Does the trail of bodies behind you mean anything?

So when I met HQ, I was incredibly miserable although no one had any idea of this. It’s a quality about me. It’s called Jupiter… I mean, “Dimples rising”. When you grin all the time and have dimples no one imagines there is a problem, never mind a serious one but HQ eventually learned that this was the case.
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I almost never come across a book this good. Though it is rated 5 stars in 4 reviews on Amazon, I think it’s pretty scarce. They did not have a copy in the Denver Public Library system but I was able to borrow if from Denver University Library and I was surprised when I got the copy because it was written in 1996 and appears to have never been read.

Just the title should have sold this thing, you’d think. Gaslighting, the Double Whammy, Interrogation and Other Methods of Covert Control in Psychotherapy and Analysis by Theo. L. Dorpat so I will leave others to explain that and just tell you this is an extraordinary book.
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Hi Elsa,

Relationship Challenged
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The other night, “closure” came up and soldier said something unusual which he does from time to time.

“I don’t know what closure is,” he said. “Who gets closure? You almost never get closure. If you do get closure then fine but I’d never go looking for it. I’m going to try to get some closure. The concept makes no sense. I don’t know who comes up with this stuff…”.

Now as a Venus Neptune type, I know exactly what he means. Nothing ever ends. There is no way to close anything because you never know when a person is going to pop up in real life, your thoughts, your dreams, in conversation, in a poem, in a song…

But I had never heard it stated so plainly and thought it was a boon so I’m sharing the bounty. It seems that looking for “closure” is aka wasting your time so I am done with that as of today.

“Just what do you mean when you say, project their shadow?” the soldier asked over the weekend. “Exactly what do you mean by that?”

“Well take these women, they have a falling out with their man. And they say blah, blah, blah he did all this crap to me. He’s this rotten guy.”

“Yeah, they do that.”
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Mercury is opposing Pluto and potent words are the theme of the day…

I mentioned the soldier and I reconnecting with his old pal from 30 years ago over the 4th of July holiday weekend. The man is an empath (I think). He is quick and he is kind and he has a really terrific wife and family. He loves his wife, she loves him, the 18 year old daughter is close to her mother and her father and when to witness this gives you hope. In fact, this is exactly what the soldier expressed to him via email when we got home. He told him that reconnecting with him gave him a feeling of hope.

I mentioned how quickly he was able to catch on to the situation with my daughter and respond appropriately which I thought (and still think) was remarkable. But anyway, we were standing in the backyard where he was barbecuing when he said something that just stopped me cold.
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Recently we’ve been talking about attraction and repulsion and also the rising sign, a person’s first handshake or their veneer as I say. I have been talking for 20 years about the problems I have on this front as my appearance is somewhat incongruous with my actual personality. Basically, I have dimples which attract people but I try to warn them - Beware the undertow.

“Well it just happens sometimes, I told the soldier last night regarding someone who approached me in friendship but has now retreated. “People see me, think they like me but find out they don’t. I mean look at me. I have dimples or whatever. I am always smiling so people think things when they see me. They think they want to know me. Other times they think I am some kind of mess they are going to save so they come in to do that but then they get a little closer in and change their mind in a hurry.”

The soldier stared.

“It happens to you too. Say you’re wearing a long sleeved shirt and you get a date. Then you take off your shirt and the person sees your tattoos and says, oh no! I didn’t know this - I’m out of here!’

That he understood.

Is your veneer false advertising?

It’s been interesting watching the solider land here. People have their natures and within 24 hours I could see he was plotting his empire and his various operations and we have had a big fight about this.

At one point he wanted me to plan with him. This was his move cross country specifically and I tried to indulge him but every time I offered an opinion he had a better angle.  It did not take me long to see it would always be this way so I wound up telling him to count me out.

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Jupiter, Saturn and Pluto have recently moved into Earth signs. What have you noticed post this shift?