I wanted to come back on the Triple Pisces. I rejected that woman, hard and I wanted to explain what drove me mostly because although the story stands alone, things are far more interesting when you’ve privy to more of the root.

I try to expose the roots when time permits which is why I think I so many Scorpios read here. It makes a nice meal. It makes things more satisfying but anyway, I went to see Double Aquarius, Angela Davis speak.

You can read her rich history but I saw her about 15 years ago in the early 90’s which was post her history, history when hers was a household name circa, 1970-72. In whatever case someone invited me to hear her speak (about rape) and having nothing better to do that evening, I showed up and was completely taken with her. Continue reading Rape And The Triple Pisces - Standing On Principles, It’s All Due The Double Aquarius, Angela Davis

Breakfast this morning. We were talking about I don’t know what. Death and murder, I guess. 8th house subjects.

“Well most people never go to that edge,” he said. “But I’ve been there and I am telling you when you get all the way out there, self preservation kicks in.”

“I don’t know if I agree. If that’s true, then what about these women who don’t fight a rapist? Why doesn’t their self preservation kick in? They just get raped.”

“It does kick in but it’s too late. It does kick in but they wait too long. They wait until the guy is on top them, he’s got her pinned and when he starts choking her… now he’s going to kill her, then it kicks in but by then it’s too late. She’s thinking I’ll just let him do this and it will be all right. But then he starts choking her and she starts fighting at that point. And he gets his jollies from that and then she gets killed. And this is what the military trains you for. To self-preserve in time. You have to have that instinct kick in while there is still something you can do.”

We discussed suicide in relation to this rule and later, this:

“What about a guy who remains defiant while he is tortured to death?” I asked. “I know for a fact this happens.”

“It does happen. Yeah, that can happen.”

“So how does he break the rule? Why doesn’t his self preservation kick in?” I asked.

“Because it’s different. That’s a guy who is going to fight. That’s a fight to the death.”

I could not argue with any of this. You?

Regarding the 6 year old hero who fought off her rapist or whatever happened (there is no link to the story)…. I wanted to make another point. I have already made it but I want to make it again.

If you’re 6, and you’re effective then I guess that is fine because you are cute and you make a good story. But if you are 35 and effective this is a different story.

Because now and then a rapist does pick the wrong gal to victimize. Like the gal I heard of when I took a self defense class. She had some training so with the intruder on top her, she reached down, grabbed one his balls and squeezed hard enough to pop it which cause egregious injury to a man. And that guy did not die but let’s say he did.

That would make her a women who had a man die in her bed! And can you see how everyone would take a step back?

2 women, equivalent in all ways. One of them has had a rapist die in her bed, the other has not. Who do you think the man is going to ask out? Can you see how the first gal might have fared better accepting the rape? She’s now marked.

The point here is you cannot win. If you are the type that carries the shadow then you are going to carry the shadow. Because let’s go back to the first gal and let’s say she did NOT pop the guy’s testicle. In that scenario it sounds like this:

“I don’t know why she didn’t pop that guy’s nut. She had a self defense class and she knew what to do. There was this 6 year old I heard of and even she knew better than to blah, blah, blah.”

And it’s back to Elvis Costello… “Nobodies fault, but we need somebody to burn…”

Who in your life wears your shadow?

Neith writes: “There is this whole dynamic w/Mars in Scorp particularly, that attracts the submissives looking to get walked on…”

Neith, thanks for writing that on my blog! I have said many times if I were a man I would be very wary of being accused of rape… ala Kobe Bryant. Did that girl go to his room looking for sex but wind up getting more than she bargained for? I have no idea, but I do know there are men (usually black men) who spend their lives in prison for rapes they did not commit.

Every once in awhile we hear a story of someone exonerated by DNA after spending decades imprisoned and I relate to those men. I can (easily) see how this could happen and I think if you have this kind of energy you have to beware who you share it with because if they are unstable, you’re going down.

This type thing has happened on this blog, though not recently. Someone will come along with some post so stupid; anyone who reads here just knows there is going to be a bloodletting. So of course I do my job. My work is out here for anyone to peruse so people should have some idea what do expect. So I cut them as they’ve asked me to and then the person cries “victim’.

Having had this happen a few times, these days when I get a spectacularly stupid question I take a pass. Because you can imagine how it goes. “Look what she did to that poor girl…”

But fact is that poor girl is going to die of her (metaphorical) cancer if someone doesn’t cut her. So I am doing a favor but at times this is a thankless job and sometimes I get a wholly negative return for it. And having tired of this I try to screen the questions and I have put it in exactly these terms to my inner circle:

“If you don’t want to get laid, then you probably shouldn’t get in a bed with me.”

::laughs::

Maybe Kobe ought to pick up on that…

satori and I, still talkin’…

“Well I have taken out more than my share of perps,” I said. “But in a lot of the scenarios I can think of I am pretty sure I would be struck, frozen in fear with the rest of the masses. And I don’t have any judgment about that. It just is. Some people are cut out for acting in these… ways that are valiant, I guess you could say. And others not. I’m not.”

“I am,” she said.

“Yeah. And I admire people like you who take action. And I pay a lot of attention to this and I think people like you pay a high price for their prowess.”

“What do you mean?”

“Well if you manage to defend yourself against a violent person… if you have an effective defense, you wind up getting dirtied by it.” Continue reading Violently Attacked? Defend Yourself Effectively At Your Own Risk: Scorpio, the 8th House and the Shadow Side of the Collective

On the Mars in Scorpio gal, here’s the story…

She’s a hairdresser. She also does waxing and she does a good job. She’s a Pisces with magic and she makes people feel better, regardless of how she feels herself which is often not that well considering she has a Capricorn Moon. And she is just starting out. So when one of her clients asked her to wax this guy… a nudist, she agreed to do it.

So now she’s in a room with this guy and she’s waxing his back. Lying on his stomach, she did not expect him to quietly have an orgasm, however when he got up it was obvious this is what happened and she was shocked and not sure what to do. Should she confront him?

Women don’t really like to confront men. We’re threatened with good reason. She decided to ignore this. Basically she transcended her uncomfortable feelings and tried to be professional. She acted as if he had pissed himself by accident or something and did not draw attention to this. But as she continued to work on him, it became obvious the guy had a kink. And she just wanted him out of her salon. She wanted to get through this ordeal and get this guy out the door but it proved to be very challenging. And at one point he took her hand and placed it on his crotch.

He had a sophisticated diversionary tactic to maneuver her into this. The guy was slick as snot. And feeling she had missed her chance to confront over the semen, she was compliant.

By the time they left the room together, she was completely terrorized so when he casually asked her to book another appointment on his way out the door, she again complied, in shock and on auto-pilot.

Now it took her some days to tell anyone what happened. Because she’s a Pisces, right? And a Capricorn. She was injured but she was going to pretend otherwise. And she was embarrassed over what had happened. And when she did try tell someone he did not her seriously. As a matter of fact, he laughed at her and called her a perv.

More days passed and then she started mentioning this casually to me and eventually I smelled trouble, big time.

“Look. You don’t have to say anything if you don’t want. But I’m getting the strong impression something has happened to you when you were in that room with that guy. And if something did… it did, didn’t it? Well, I think you might want to tell someone because you’re walking around with whatever it is and it seems to be having a bad effect. Um… it seems to be you are walking a little sideways…”

She talked.

And this whole thing was a trespass on her boundaries. This was this guy’s gig. He was sneaky. He was masterful at maneuvering himself well into her un-comfort zone, but not so far that she would freak and scream or something. He was able to control her using classic techniques.

And the sneaking was part of his turn-on. She was supposed to be waxing this guy and all the sudden she’s a sex worker, unbeknownst to her! He was not supposed to get off on what she was doing, for chrissakes! She never dreamed…

So anyway, after this came out, she canceled the appointment she made, etc. She actually took responsibility for him:

“I thought I would be comfortable with this, but I’m not,” she said. “I have to cancel… blah, blah.”

And you’d think that would be the end of it. He got his and now he’s going to go away. But noooo…

After a series of emails turning him away, this guy showed up at the salon.He ambushed her. Knowing she was uncomfortable and unable to defend herself, he showed up to make her more uncomfortable by trying to get her to cut his hair! And she made the appointment for him too! Can you believe that? Intimidation.

So anyway, there were more events. And she has Saturn transiting her first house which indicates it is time to learn to defend yourself against just this kind of thing. Boundary violations! And she’s got this Scorpio Mars. So what do you think? Think she ought to use it?

He manipulated her beyond belief. He was able to read her and exploit her weaknesses. He was able to victimize her. And not only did he molest her, when she reacted in a passive manner, he continued to victimize her. So if you’re me….

Well I had to talk to her. I had to get her to see she had a problem. I had to get her to see that she did not have to cut this guy’s hair!

And this was a job, people. She’s sweet, I said. So when I saw her finally spring into action and become willing to use her Mars (her male energy and ability to fight) I was beyond merely thrilled. And I’ll tell you what she did.

She dissected this guy. There is nothing she doesn’t understand about him or what happened in that room. For example, the guy is not a “nudist”. That was part of his ploy. He has no hang ups, so why should she?

You have to admire his skill, really. He was playing a very sophisticated game and has no doubt victimized scores of women, but once she had him sliced open, exposed and sorted, the power shifted. He became transparent and she became the one who was unpredictable.

This story is still unfolding but I will leave you with my friend, astrologer, cf’s words…

“If you don’t use your Mars it will be used against you.”

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Do you use your Mars?