Let’s say you are in an exclusive relationship of many months. How would you feel about your lover maintaining contact with an ex?

How would you see this in your chart?

Kingsley writes on Men, Women. Venus And Mars In Nature:

“Jealousy is the anger about the prospect (scare) of being rejected. It could be a way in which you keep together Elsa. It would be very easy for either of you to get each other angry if you needed to do that. When I say angry, that could mean passionate too; to constantly live in the “now” of the relationship. In a way that may help to reinforce your attachment with each other. I can’t see a problem with that, its just that when the relationship is going through growing pains it will helpful for the both of you to be aware of that happening.”

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I think I am about 18 in this story, making the soldier about 20. We were continuing to discuss our break-ups. For the record, I was dating Sadisimal John at this time.

“Yeah, we were broke up about 3 months that time,” he said. ‘You had a boyfriend up until you got sick of him and then you came looking for me.”

I didn’t say anything because that is exactly what I did.

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The soldier on the phone last night…

“Yeah, I gotta get you to the desert and find you a women-only gym,” the soldier said. “Since you don’t want to work out at home the way I think you should.”

“I’m not going to a women-only gym. There’s no way!”

“Yeah, I’m going to find a woman-only gym with a crosstrainer that you like. If they don’t have a crosstrainer, then I’ll bring ‘em one. I’ll say, here. Put this in here for, P so she can get on it.”

I laughed. “No women-only gym. No!”

“And when you go in there and see no men, I’ll tell them to tell you, oh. Yeah, men come here. They just come in a little later.”

“Oh brother.”

“And the women-only sign in the window? I’ll tell them, you take that sign down when you see P coming.”

“You’re a dumbass. First time you go for a ride on that burro of yours, I’ll be out the door so fast. And I’ll go straight to my gym with men like I always do and you’ll have to just survive, I guess. No women-only gym. That will never happen so just save your breath. Save it or use it for better purposes than this.”

Just a sigh on his end.

Dear Jealous,

I do have ideas and they may surprise you; they sure surprised me. When I looked at your chart I expected to see all this twisted stuff but that’s not the problem here. You are almost purely projecting.

With your Sun, Mars and Neptune in Sagittarius, it is you who is the flight risk. It is you who scans the horizon and wonders what else is out there.

With Venus in Aquarius and square Uranus, you are the one highly prone to commitment-phobia and sudden attractions, relationships that start and end very quickly and there are other things all indicating the same flavored thing. So it seems to me what you’re dealing with is fear. Fear these men feel the way you do, which I can pretty much assure you they do not.

I say this with confidence because I look at charts all day and have for about 35 years and it’s rare to come across one with such a prominent theme. It’s like being a redhead, for example. You stand out. And your experience supports my findings. The men don’t cheat and you leave. So how to fix?

I’d say you’ve got a real challenge but the first step would be to realize it is you, not them. Make yourself conscious of your own freedom urge and propensity to look around and see tasty things. And when you see how extreme this is in you, then start coaching yourself to understand that while others feel similar urges from time to time, they feel them at a level of 2 to 3, where you experience this stuff around 8-9 and I can tell you how this works first hand.

I have sexual impulse allllll the time. I literally see men walk by and want to mount them, right there and right then. My drive is fierce. I see sex everywhere as well and I assume men experience this too, which of course makes me feel like you do. Jealous!

But over the years I’ve come to realize that I’m actually more inclined to experience these urges than the average man and hey. I manage to control myself so maybe they can too. Armed with that understanding, I just pick men who are like me - not inclined to betray people - and this works out.

So I think if you increase your awareness and own what is happening inside of you, you’ll have a similar reality emerge. Whatever he may be thinking you’re thinking it times 10 so do you really have to worry about him? Probably not. You can probably stay plenty busy just trying to police yourself.

Good luck.

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