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Her Boyfriend May Move Cross Country After Graduation: Pluto Transit, Venus and the 7th House
Dear Elsa,
My boyfriend and I have the most beautiful relationship we have ever experienced. He is 26 and just graduated from college in December. He is now faced with the problems of entering the real world and finding a job that he loves.
He has all these friends in California that keep taunting him to go out there to start their own music business and he has now been debating this for months. In this time I have been tossed back and forth thinking we have a future, and then thinking that the most important person in my life is about to move 3000 miles away and we may never be able to be together again.
The problem I am having with this is that although I support him and want nothing but for him to be happy,.. it makes me wonder why he has been lazy about finding his music career here in NY where his family and I live. My dad just got a job at MTV and has been helping him get connections but at the end of the day his decision is always swinging towards California.
Should I be offended that he could make his life here but is choosing otherwise? He tells me that if he left and lost me it would be the biggest regret of his life… so where do you go from there? Do you take that chance or do you try your hardest not to let that happen? I don’t think he’s trying his hardest to stay, I think he’s running off to his friends that are unemployed but have a pretty state to offer to him as opposed to regular old Jersey.
What should I feel, what should I do… if I lost him it would be a terrible shame and I don’t know that I can accept this loss if we both love each other this much.
Jersey Girl
United States
Dear Girl,
Wanting to see exactly what was going on with this guy, I wrote you a couple times to request his birth data but you did not respond. Since the mails did not bounce, I assume they were caught in a spam filter which happens now and then. It’s been a week so I decided to work without it.
At 26, your boyfriend has another year or so before his Saturn Return comes in and he is really forced to buckle down. And it sounds to me as if he would like to play a little and after 16 years of school, I can’t say that I blame him. Now I know this is not what you want to hear but you know you can’t hold him if he want to go. You can’t and you shouldn’t because regardless of how you feel it is his life and as they say, ‘Work to get, work to keep.”
I also question the depth of his commitment when he has kept you in this limbo for six months. I don’t think this is a good sign and I also don’t like how he is sending you mixed messages, “If I lose you, I will regret it… but by the way, get ready because I am leaving.” None of this is optimistic, see?
As to your chart, Pluto is poised to cross your descendant, oppose your Venus and and transit your 7th house (relationships) which strongly suggests the loss of relationship… at least temporarily. By that I mean he may get out there and decide he can’t live without you but I am sorry to say that a void period is virtually guaranteed.
Here are the answers to your specific questions:
Do you take that chance or do you try your hardest not to let that happen?
You take a chance. This is not the kind of thing you can stop from happening.
What should I feel?
You feel what you feel but what I would feel is devastated so if you are anything like me… I have much sympathy.
Much love and good luck.
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pictured - Pluto, Agostino Carracci, 1557
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