It’s my daughter, she’s ridiculous. She’s 11 years old but in 7th grade so with older kids and today I dyed her hair jet black (it’s usually dark brown) to go with her new emo haircut.

She’s also got her fingernails painted black and she is writing dark poetry… lots of death and knives and suicide in it, however she can’t seem to read it without grinning.

I told her to go ahead with her black eyeliner when she reminded me, “you had fads when you were a kid” so here she is all decked out, stack of suicide poems in her hand, looking as morose as Pluto in Scorpio rising can look which is pretty morose. But it only lasts a few seconds.

Because my daughter has a 9th house (happy) Moon trine Jupiter (happy) in Sagittarius (happy). And I’m sorry but I don’t care how deep your soul is, with a configuration like that you are only going to be able to dip down so far and for so long.

So this morning, she’s got her look together (her costume, because her Moon is in Leo) and I find her in her room with her brother watching this: “Tickle Me Emo” which mocks the whole emo movement. And they’re both laughing their heads off at Elmo, who has gone emo. I watched this with them… it’s funny and clever. He lives on Depress-esame Street.

“Yep, that’s what happened to your sister,” I said to my son. “Tell everyone your sister has gone emo along with Elmo and you’re sure to follow because black hair is just so nice.”

They both roared.

“Okay,” I said as I stood up to leave. “I’ll help you two out of your depression and your suicidal tendencies (my son has the Moon Jupiter opposition… he ain’t going down either) just as soon as you quit laughing. Call me if you need me, I’ll be around. I’ll be here and catch you two right before you hit the grave so if you get close, you just let me know.”

Two snorts.

Isn’t astrology a trip?

“Oh, she gave me a dirty look,” my daughter explained. She’s an 11-year-old, 7th grader.

“She did.”

“Yeah, but I don’t care about that.”

“Why not?”

“What’s a dirty look? I’m the one with the reeeeal evil eye,” she said with a chuckle.

“You think that?”

“Yes, Mom. I’m the one with Scorpio rising. I’m the one with Pluto on my ascendant.”

“Okay, well that’s true. That girl has nothing on you, does she?”

“No. If you want to see a real dirty look, you ought to see mine.”

I just laughed. “Did you give her a dirty look back?”

“No. I could have but I just didn’t feel like it.”

“Having a good day?”

“Yeah. And I just don’t care about her.”

Can anyone relate?

Dear Torn,

I would take her at her word. She is telling you in plain language she is going to do whatever she wants with her body so there should be no confusion here. If you marry her, the odds she is going to be loyal and monogamous are roughly 0%. And all the reasons why are really superfluous to my mind. The only question you need to answer is this:

Do you want to deal with this? Can you?

You have an Aquarius Moon, which indicates a man who would attracted to a independent and somewhat detached woman. And to a humanitarian, which this woman obviously is. And you have Neptune conjunct your Sun, which gives you the ability to transcend when victimized. So you can see that you are living your chart here.

She, on the other hand, has Pluto rising. She’s a lone wolf in many ways. She also has Venus and Mars in Aries and it’s her needs first, got it? She’s going to look out for number one.

So do you want a woman like that? Well, yeah. In many ways you do. Is she going to cheat on you? Of course. So do you want an open marriage? If not, get out. If so, go forward but keep your eyes wide open, ”kay?

Good luck.

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