Elena also asks: “How do you deal with you chart Elsa? Do you accept it a fate? A problem to be worked out?

Elena - I don’t deal my chart. I deal with my life and astrology helps. I never look at anything in my chart and think, oh that’s a problem and I don’t understand people who do.

For example, I read around quite a bit. Message boards and I have scanned the astrology mailing lists for a dozen years and it’s very common someone will be going off on something in their chart, an aspect or a transit coming up and invariably they will be asking what it is going to do to them. What doom does this portend?

And I will tell you the truth even though it’s embarrassing. When I come across something like this John Prine’s song, ‘Dear Abby” plays in my head.

Prine sings (in Dear Abby’s voice):

You have no complaint
You are what your are and you ain’t what you ain’t
So listen up buster, and listen up good
Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood…”

You see? I think people take astrology and look for problems they are not even having and there are probably any number of reasons why. But I don’t operate like that. For me it is life first, astrology second. And no way am I going to spend time looking for the doom in my chart. Astrology should help solve problems, not create them.

How do you use astrology in everyday life?

Regarding the burdened man, Elena writes:

Reading posts like these scare the hell out of me! You seem so insightful, but in the same time a bit fatalistic. Are we really doomed to carry the burden of our charts forever?

Elena I am sorry the post scared the hell out of you. Fact is these blogs are about a specific individual and they represent my opinion of this one specific case, based not only on his chart but on my observations of him over the course of a couple of years. So my read on this should not be enlarged or projected or assigned to other people in any way.

As for being doomed, people are absolutely doomed if they have no drive or desire to change their lives when evidence suggests things aren’t working. But I never said this guy’s life was not working. It may be working perfectly for him! I am in no position to judge.

I can however offer my insight to my friend who prior to this conversation was operating under the illusion that this guy did not “pick her” because of some personal shortcoming. Well hell. This guy doesn’t pick anyone! Women pick him and they do so at their own peril.

So with this information my friend was able to get some clarity and let go the idea it was the shape of her butt that was the problem, and the illusion that some other differently shaped butt could come along and allow this guy to be a different human being. And this has been a great relief to her, you can imagine. Her butt is fine! She can think about other things now, and I decided to post this so others could hitchhike because this scenario is not exactly uncommon.

Dear Mourning,

What an excellent question. I am very sorry for your loss and first need to tell you I have no ability connect with someone who has passed and transfer information. So I can’t tell you what your mother or your aunt may or may not know but I still think I may be able to help.

Having encountered more than my share of death in this life, I’ve been forced to develop some kind of philosophy about this because my natural reaction to loss was very similar to what you are experiencing. I just could not parse the deaths in my life and resolve them in a way that could bring me lasting peace. And part of the reason was that like in your case, the deaths came one after another, my feelings cascaded and I could not keep up.

But eventually I did find a way of seeing things that brought me a calm understanding around death that has held for about 15 years - so I’ll share it with you in the hope it helps.

You say you want some kind of connection with these women and with Venus (love/female) in the 8th (death/inheritance), the fact is that their energy flows very naturally to you. People with planets in the 8th house inherit the energy of the dead and carry their legacy whether they are aware of not. And since this is exactly what you’re seeking, this seems a fairly easy thing to resolve. Their energy is with you and I only need make you aware of this.

See when someone dies, that’s their body. There goes their body; they can no longer use it, but what about their energy? Their energy is still with us. And if you wonder if this is true, just think of a writer. The writer is dead, but their book is with us and anytime someone reads that book, they access the dead person’s energy. Their energy is right there, in their hands. So how can you say this person is gone? Their body is gone, their energy is here.

But what if the person did not write a book? No problem. They did something.

In this case, your mother had a baby: you. You are her energy. She made you just like that writer made that book. So how can she be gone when you’re still here? You are wearing her face, don’t you know this? Go look in the mirror and see your mother.

Further, I happen to know that you write. And don’t your mother’s words come through you at times? Don’t you use her phrasing or rephrase her ideas at times? If so, how can you say she’s not here? She is coming through you all the time. You express her energy… constantly. People who knew your mother look at you and see your mother so how can you say she is gone?

My grandfather (Henry) haunts this blog. When he died, I nearly died. But Henry has gone nowhere. Oh, his body is gone but he lives through me. I would not be me had he not been my grandfather, and I am here impacting people everyday - empowered by Henry who is dead. I am Henry’s legacy. And when I die, Henry will still live through my children and through the people who have read here and been moved by what I have to say which originated in Henry… and the person before Henry and the person before him (or her).

So this is my advice:come to see the truth. You are your mother and your aunt. You are an amalgamation of them and others and none of these people can ever leave you or you them, and mad?? You think they may be mad because you were not there when they died?

How do you know you weren’t there when they died? You may very well have been the last thing that crossed their minds. You’re the man with Venus in the 8th. You may have kissed them both sweetly right before they died. The physical body is joke. We are dealing with souls here.

I say, go live. You are what your mother has left behind to carry her energy and her message forward. You can honor the dead by living the best life you can on the on the energy they’ve bequeathed you. How can you love your lost ones and do anything less?

Much love and good luck.

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“After you left? Well I was screwed,” I said. “But I didn’t know it right away. I told myself… well I was hoping you’d be back. I kind of thought, how could you leave me. I thought you might be back and on some other level, knew otherwise.”

“I’m sorry, P. I wish I’d have never left. I sure never wanted to.”

“Well, it’s not your fault. I could have called you at any time and I am sure if I would have you’d have come back… done whatever.’

“You got that right.”

“But I didn’t see how I could do that. If you came back on your own, then okay. But I could not call you back because I just thought for sure… I had to let you go because you were starting to fly. You were really gaining momentum then. You were picking up speed. A lot speed at that time.” Continue reading The Soldier and P - 30: After You Left?

“So, P. Why do you think we didn’t marry? Why do you think it worked out the way it did?”

“Oh. Well I can think of more than one reason. There are a lot of reasons.”

“Tell me one of them. Shoot,” he said.

“Well there are a lot of them, but here’s what I believe.”

“Tell me what you believe.”

“Well take your son.”

“Yeah.”

“Think about who he is. He’s a big deal. I mean you have to know he is… he’s one hell of a human being. All flattery aside, because that’s not what this is. I am not flattering you. Obviously your son is a powerhouse and I would have to say this is a person who wanted to be born.”

“Yeah?”

“Well, yeah. He wanted to be in this world. He wanted to get in here and live and here’s the thing: I am not his mother, did you notice?”

He laughed. “Yeah, I noticed.”

“Well there you go. So he wants to be born. I am not his mother. But you are his father. So obviously you are going to have to go find his mother and go be with her and the two of you make this kid.”

“I see. Well that sounds right, P. And I know things happen for the best so maybe that is one of the reasons. And your kids too.”

“Yep. My kids too. I mean it’s not like these people are here by accident. They want to be born and the people who can make them have to get together and that’s all there is to it. So it’s hard to look at your kid… just try to look at these human beings we made and imagine something has gone wrong.”

“It’s not wrong.”

“No, it’s not wrong.”

Do you agree with this philosophy?

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A reader from India asks:

I just want to know that, are marriages really made in heaven? Is it fixed from before who is going to marry whom astrologically or some times marriages can be made and broken by human choices?

And if this is possible then what will happen to the girl who was going to get married to the boy C??

I don’t think our lives are pre-destined. I think we’re constantly presented with choices and the choices we make lead to other sets of choices and so on.

So in the example you present, I would say girl A is not made for either boy. She may be better suited to boy B, but if she marries boy C, the world is not going to collapse. In fact, she may very well wind up with Boy B, further down the road after other things fall into or out of place. We just don’t know the future!

I think the universe is dynamic and the plan grand. And I have a very hard time believing one person’s bad choice will mess up another person’s life… over the long term.

In other words, you may think someone has wrecked your life but I think most people realize eventually, the things that have happened to them have served them in some way and research bears this out. Because most everyone, when asked if they would trade their life for the life of some other another person, say no.

What do the rest of you think about Girl A and her two boys?

Denis from Cameroon is a mega-Capricorn with a Sagittarius Moon. Capricorn supports and the Sagittarius offers perspective and an optimistic philosophy. This stuff is textbook.

My friendship with Denis continues to grow and he calls me pretty every day now. I’d call him except I’ve had a supremely lousy week and have not felt inclined to get it on people. But if you call here on your own volition? Well, then you take your chances.

And he always asks how I’m doing, or what I am doing and I always tell him because I know intuitively this is what he wants. He’s not asking to be polite. He’s asking because he has a Scorpio Mars and he knows if he probes (me) he’s very likely to hit pay dirt. Now I’ve got several kinds of dirt that pays for Denis and I’ll leave that for another blog, because this one is about him and his attitude.

“How are you doing, Ilsa?” He calls Ilsa because of his accent.

“Like crap, Denis. Very low energy. My daughter is sick.”

“She’s still sick?”

“Yes. It’s been 8 days now and it keeps getting worse. It’s just… it’s become something off the page by now.”

“Oh, I bet that’s wearing on you.”

“Yeah. I feel very low energy. Very low.”

“I’m sorry. But there is an old English proverb, Ilsa. A man who is down can fall no further.”

I was out of my body, so he had to repeat that. His accent is heavy and I have to concentrate if I want to understand him. He repeated his statement.

“Yeah I get that. Denis. But I don’t think I’m down like that. It’s more like hovering 8 feet above the ground and thinking you’re going to drop, BAM! Crash to ground,” I said sounding very Capricorn.

“Ah, but then you have to bounce, Ilsa. You must bounce back up.”

As soon as he said this I knew this is exactly what would happen so I shook my head and chuckled. “You’re right again, Denis. I guess that’s what I’ll do. I am sure I know you.”

“You do know how, Ilsa. You are a person who knows how to bounce”

Are you bouncy? Where’s your Jupiter?

“But I sure was glad when your name came up in my email, I’ll tell you that. I was thrilled. And I knew that whatever you were going to have to say would be good. I knew it would be something nice and I also knew it would to be something. I knew it would be significant because you aren’t going to show up in my mailbox after three years and have nothing to say.”

“No. No, I wouldn’t.”

“Yeah,” I said. “So although I’m sorry you went through all that stuff with me dying, I’m glad you did because it got us back in contact and after that scene in 2003, I thought we never would be. I thought we were cooked for good. This life, at least. I figured I would see you in another life for sure but that’s a long way off so this is much better. And it’s one of the reasons I did not want to pick the scab… contact you. Because although it ended bad it ended clean. It was a clean kill. That’s what one of my friends said. She said I was the master of the clean kill and I’m glad about that. If you’re going to do it, do it. And this way when we meet next life it’s not all jagged and confused and I think a lot easier to go forward because everyone knows what happened. You know, it’s very clear.”

Do you believe relationships persist across lifetimes? If so how does this influence you?

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I was on the phone with satori…

“Well I don’t know about learning more astrology. I’m not sure I have any interest and that probably sounds weird. But take my sister. Now she’s psychic. I don’t care what anyone says. The fact is she is psychic, and this is beyond dispute. And she can also read a chart. But after awhile, she decided she really didn’t need any more astrology. I mean she uses it. If she gets something psychically, she will always look at the chart. Because if it’s not in the chart, she knows she’s off base but beyond that, she really doesn’t need astrology. There is just no need for her to study any more because it’s much easier this other way.” Continue reading Jupiter Transit Through Sagittarius - Expand Your (Astrology) Education?

The soldier is a Pisces rising, so Jupiter ruled. He has Jupiter in Sagittarius, its own sign, so maybe this is why he’s alive after all those years in Special Forces. The rising, or the ascendant rules the physical body and Jupiter provides protection.

Jupiter also looks for meaning and eyes the big picture.

“I can’t believe we didn’t spend our lives together, P. Do you ever think about this? Why do you think this happened? Why did we separate anyway? Why did God make it this way? We’ve had to spend our whole lives apart, so why do you think that is?” Continue reading Jupiter in Sagittarius - The Soldier Wonders What God Was Thinking…