I am working with a gal right now, via email. I have been working with her on and off for months on the phone and otherwise. At times during some of these months I have been in such crisis with my daughter I could not do the work she wanted me to and though I am pretty sure that conditions that extreme have passed, this gal is still conditioned to asking me if I can do x,y, or z, rather than assuming I will be able to accommodate her.

So this will serve as notice to her that things are not as difficult and restricted as they were but also something hit me. She wants me to examine something very closely for her. It is a time demand and she asked me if I were willing.

Well, I have worked with her extensively and I am not about to quit on her now so I posted back, “In for a penny, in for a pound.”
And it occurred to me this is a good philosophy to apply to love relationships in that if you’re going to love someone then love them!

This reminded me of what the soldier said he intended to tell Vidroid when he got around to asking. “Kiss the girl you like. No sense kissing the girl you don’t like. Find the one you want and put everything you have into it…” He’s been this way his whole life and I think it has served him.

“In for a penny, in for a pound.” What do you think?

Heather M. writes on the Fix Yourself bit:

“I thought that people should shore up their weaknesses until the past month has passed and specifically the last 48 hours. Because my weaknesses have been highlighted in major ways recently and I am so f*cking tired of feeling bad about myself because of them.

So I am completely inspired by this idea that you don’t *have* to. It’s so simple but like a news flash to me and it makes me feel relief and relaaaaxed.”

Well, Heather I think some people are born to specialize and I am one of them. If your chart is bunched up, well this would be strong indication of this.

Am I really interested in anything other than sex and psych, relationships and philosophy? I’m not! So why would I learn to read a horary chart? Surely someone is going to be (naturally) better at that than I am so why not leave this work to them?

Meanwhile if you are stressed out of your mind, bleeding from every orifice, you should probably come see me because I can speak that language and not only will I not blink, I will most likely have you patched up and back on the road in no time. You may even laugh through your surgery, so I think specializing makes sense for many.

Degas could paint and sculpt but most of us do have something we are good and fare well if we stick to it.

Are you a specialist of a jack of all trades?

This is another post, its sole purpose to reassure.  About 25 years ago I was leaving the city where I grew up for a small town of 35,000 people. I had some concerns over finding people I could relate to in such a small pool but the Aquarian I was dating at the time reassured me in this way: (This is from my book by the way)

“You miss me? Then why do you think I should go?”

“So you can be happy,” he said.

“There won’t be anyone there like you. How am I going to laugh? I’m not going to have any Capital F F fun.”

“Elsa, that’s not true. Of course you’ll have Capital F F fun. You are Capital F F Fun. I’m going to be stuck here with Cousin…”
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shell writes on Will It Take 10 Years To Assimilate:

“Is that kind of like when something happens in your life that is painful, and you think you’ve learned a lesson and will be better equipped to handle it the next time around; yet when it happens again, it still hurts like hell and you have a brain fart as to how to handle it productively? And the second time around, you have baggage from the first time which only adds to the backache? Yeah, I could see how maturity would be the only thing to help. But that only goes so far, huh?”
Continue reading Pluto Transit To The Moon - Mine: My 8th House Puts A Fine Point On Trauma - Specialists, Audiophiles, Bliss, And A Perspective On Death And Multiple Lives

The order of the zodiac… it’s not like it’s random!

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This will be an experiment. Last year the soldier and I really started drifting together and eventually the thing gained momentum and then became magnetic the way it is now.

We are both pretty sure once we get together there will be no separating us. I am committed but he thinks this will be true for many, many lifetimes and also that we have nothing to say about it. (A Pisces Perspective)

I don’t know but can’t say I disagree considering I am willing to clobber anyone who gets near him and I am not sure how that feeling would ever stop it is so strongly constellated.  If we had met when we were 4 and 5, I am sure I’d have been kicking sand in the sand box, threatening people with my pail.

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Dear Elsa,

I’ve read a lot of books on spirituality and find that there’s a lot of passivity that comes with this whole idea around new age spiritualism. There’s a lot of “be the bigger person” and “everything is a mirror to teach you something” which are really “turn the other cheek” re-written and delivered with a peace sign and stick of incense;-)

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Elsa, I’ve been hearing rumblings that the upcoming eclipse on the 20th will be a bad one. The planets have pummeled me this past year…should I hide under the covers on or around the 20th?

Wondering
Canada

Dear Wondering,

I would not bother. For one thing, look at that chart. It’s beautiful. (Click to see full size) See the Mystic Rectangle? When I see something like that, I figure by and large, things are going to take care of themselves but in a broader sense when it comes to day to day astrology, I think this:

We have a lot to say about what kind of day we have. It is true that events occur that are outside our control but so? The odds a bomb is going to land on your head are very, very low so it makes no sense to concern yourself with something like that. It takes energy and for what?

Now I will note it when the sky is horrific but only with this ambition in mind:

“We all live amid surfaces, and the true art is to skate well on them” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

So if the day looks trecherous I will have this is mind. I will “pack my lunch and bring my friends” as they say but worry? No way. Here would be my motto:

“See surface, will skate.”

Anyone else?

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Randamandar writes:

“From Desiderata- ‘Avoid loud and aggressive people as they are a vexation to the spirit.’

I can hear the Soldier now, You don’t know the meaning of vexation, I’ll show you vexation.”

I called him.

“What do you think of this?” I asked, reading him the quote.

“Well I think that those who are weak, mindless, spineless and never question authority are a vexation to the spirit. What do you think, P? What do people like that do for the spirit? I think I have a lot of spirit and I am loud, aggressive and spirited.  Where is that quote from?”

“The Desiderata.”

“That poem they found in a church in the 1600’s?  Well that’s one of my favorite writings. I don’t recall that part.  But anyway, you have to take that in it’s entirety.  They are probably talking about boisterous bar types.  Blow hards. You know the type. So that’s my interpretaion of that. That’s a different kind of loud and aggressive, I’d say. What do you think happened with that?  The person wrote it and thought it was nothing?”

“Yep, probably wrote it and thought it was nothing…”

Do you think loud and aggressive people vex the spirit? 

Dear Stalemate,

I am not sure you will like my read on this because it definitely reflects my bias but  considering you are Sagittarius I know you appreciate other perspectives so here is mine:

I would let this go. I don’t think you can force someone to learn something or have an interest in something they don’t have an interest in. For example, I always wind up with engineers… people like math and like it a lot. My first husband actually stalked me with a math book. He followed me around the house with the book cracked open, he just wanted to show me how interesting this all was and when he wouldn’t stop, I took off out the front door and headed down the dirt road with 5 planets in Scorpio in pursuit.

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