Dear Ready,

There is not something in your chart that “makes” this happen. Our charts do not run our lives, we do! That said, the potential for this to happen shows up very clearly in your chart. And if you can get a comprehensive understanding of what is going on with this, you should be able to get a new result.

So here are the nuts and bolts of your problem: you have a packed 12th house, which equates to Pisces (giving and self sacrifice). And when you go to these jobs and do a super duper job, this is what you are doing. You are giving.

But please be aware that you are making the choice to be a super-producer. And at first people are astonished and grateful. But it doesn’t take long for them to take you for granted, does it? And next thing you know, you’re a stereo-typical Pisces doormat!

So how to change this? Well first, just forget about relying on anyone outside yourself to solve this. You are not going to find a job where everyone appreciates your sacrifice and expresses it to you in the way you want!

So you know how they say, “Don’t lend money you can’t afford to lose?” Well you should apply the same principal to your giving… to your super-producing. If you can’t give without expecting something in return, then don’t give! Get it? Boundaries!

Take responsibility for the choices you make. And if you are going to go to work (or anywhere else) and give more than your share, then you’ve no right to call foul when people take you up on that. And I’ve got one little story for you, that just might kick you into taking the cure.

I once knew a gal… she was a friend actually. She was a lesbian with a mouth on her. And one day she told me, “I love meeting co-dependents. I have them do everything for me. They deserve it! Anyone who is going to lay down like that deserves to be taken advantage of.”

So think about that the next time your people-pleasing Libra Sun in the 12th house decides to stay late at work, so someone else can go play…

Good luck.

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Dear Pleasing,

I really had to think about this. I can tell you why you want to please people easily enough, but the twin thing threw me. Because you and your brother would have charts that are essentially identical. I had some theories about why you might suffer this way while he doesn’t, but felt uncomfortable with the idea of me (a non-twin) telling you what it’s like to be a twin.

In a bid for clarity, I emailed a friend of mine who is a twin. He said it helps to think of twins as “siblings”. One of them is older than the other, even if it’s only by six minutes! As he put it, thinking in these terms “helps unlock a lot of twin mysteries.”

That was interesting, but I still had to mull. See, you’re a Libra, and Libras are the people-pleasers of the zodiac. But it’s very superficial. In fact, the sweeter Libra is, the surer you can be that they want to smash you with a bat. But this is more complicated than that.

Because the other thing Libra does is balance. When you go left, Libra has no choice but to go right. So this is what I think is going on.

First, you try to please by your nature, to an extent. But secondly… you brother is not so willing to ingratiate himself. He acts yang, so you go yin to compensate. And the idea that you’re the little brother would support this theory.

But this is no good for you. Because you’re more than just “Libra”. There is tremendous fire in your chart. And anger!! And if you don’t find a way to express this, eventually it will make you sick. Or cause an accident! Are you reckless? I bet you are.

Anyway, I’d recommend you turn the tables on your brother. Do it like an experiment, because he’s Libra too! Assert yourself. Turn the heat way up (I know you can) and just watch him. See what you learn, because I bet he moves to make peace…

And beyond this just imagine Libra’s symbol: a scale. You have been living on one side of it. If you internalize this, it will cause you great distress, which is the point. Because once you see you’re out of whack like that, you will automatically move to balance.

Pretty cool, huh?

Good luck!

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