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Because I am so oriented towards relationships, oppositions are by far the most interesting component of astrology. If you get me started I can go on ad infinitum but I will try to be concise:

If a person has an opposition in their chart is is impossible for them to act both sides of it simultaneously. Reason is the energies are opposite each other so this would be akin to being generous and cheap at the same time. It can’t be done!

Continue reading Demystifying Astrology: How Do Oppositions Work?

The other day I disagreed with something someone said and they came back quickly, “Well, that’s because you’re uniformed.”

A day later someone else told me I didn’t know “shit from shinola” when I disagreed with them.

I ended both these conversations quickly and I realize these people sound hideous however they are not hideous so it just goes to show what can suddenly (Uranus) be come out of your mouth (Virgo) if you are not careful (Saturn).

Personally I am trying to avoid brilliant, progressive, ahead of their time, humanitarians (Uranus).

I am also trying to avoid people who oppress via criticism (Saturn in Virgo)… and so often they are the same person.

You really have to stay vigilant to not fall prey to this one. Find something positive to do with the energy…

Hi Elsa, here is a question that is all about me but I thought other Cancers/Cancer Rising/moons and their friends might be interested too. I was thinking about your discussions about oppositions; they are pretty interesting, and about Pluto in Capricorn. This puts all Cancers heating up at one time or another in the next 15 years, with Pluto opposition Sun. I would love to hear any thoughts on how this plays out.

Curious Cancer
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Curious, I would treat and interpret the transit of Pluto opposite your Sun (or whatever you may have in Cancer) the same way I would interpret the aspect if you had it natally.

In short, Cancers will be meeting Plutonian (intense) types upon whom they will project their shadow like crazy which will get them burned.

Once burned they will stay that way and fester unless they want to dig in their own psyche, a painful process with reward in proportion.

Anyone else?

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The soldier was yelling, he’s got that crew cut now you know and I was taken aback.

“Oh my God,” I said. “You are a butchy, butchy man. How did I end up with someone so butchy?”

He made a butchy noise and gesture and I gasped.

“P! What do you mean what are you doing with a man like me? I am an extreme man, you are an extreme woman. We’re attracted like moths to a flame.”

I gasped again but he’s right and that right there is the opposition. It is also evidence of my Uranus in the 7th - I am shocked at my partner. He has Venus in aspect to Uranus so I imagine it goes both ways.

Do you ever look at your lover and wonder what the hell?

There are hot comments on Gaslighting Redux regarding people who hate me or get pissed off at me due this blog and May writes

“What if you’re just a naturally disruptive person? Like you just have this Uranus energy?”

Well I might be but I think it is more likely it is other who is naturally disruptED and disruptive. Because no one is contained here. It’s a big world and a big internet and if you come here every day or three times a day, you are CHOOSING to be disrupted. (swearing below the break)
Continue reading Want To Understand The Saturn Opposition, Oppositions In Astrology In General? Check The Dynamics Of The “Disruptions” On This Blog

The day is bound to  be difficult with the Moon is in Pisces post the lunar eclipse, opposing all the planets in Virgo.  It’s just a lumpy bumpy rife and the temptation to project today is sky high but should be easy to spot.

Someone is the victim (Pisces Moon) or at least feels they are.  This leaves the other person to be the critical, exacting oppressive Saturn / Virgo figure stomping on the sensitivities of Pisces. Thing is, it doesn’t work that way because the victim has a million tricks of their own. “Hey! They were insensitive and cruel so now I’m going to be insensitive and cruel…”

If you mean to navigate this one with some degree of consciousness you will have a real challenge on your hands, and if you put forth an effort you are very liable to act (Mars) unconsciously (Pluto) so lets just hope you murky bits know what they’re doing!

Post your observations of this phenomena…

It’s been interesting watching the solider land here. People have their natures and within 24 hours I could see he was plotting his empire and his various operations and we have had a big fight about this.

At one point he wanted me to plan with him. This was his move cross country specifically and I tried to indulge him but every time I offered an opinion he had a better angle.  It did not take me long to see it would always be this way so I wound up telling him to count me out.

Continue reading Oppositions In Astrology And The Division Of Labor In Relationship

Dear Elsa,

I know. Another sex topic but you can’t say I’m not consistent. Plus Scorpio moon is coming.

What common aspects in our charts would signal meeting a new lover?

All the yearly horoscopes say for Virgo’s this is the year for you to find new love etc. How do they know that? Obviously not everyone in that sign is going to fall in love. So.. it must be certain planets knocking boots with other planets and passing over your chart right?

Wondering Virgo

Continue reading Open Question: Why Do Astrologers Say All Virgos (Insert Other Sun Sign) Will Find Love In 2008?

On the drive to New Mexico, I was thinking about Kate (Kate Mulvey Can’t Get A Date And It’s Because Of You!) and trying to fathom her and people like her. People who project their shadow onto others, that is. How do they get that way? Better yet, how do they stay that way?

How can a person be faced with overwhelming evidence there is some problem (such as every man they meet runs for the hills) yet continue to deny any culpability or wrongdoing? This is baffling to me. And it made me think of when I was a kid, playing cards.

I used to play cards like crazy when I was a kid. I played with adult men and I was fiercely competitive and ambitious. I wanted to win everything, every time and played those cards with every cell in my body. And here’s the thing about projection:

When I lost a hand, I did not imagine it was because the person across from me was inept in some way. Or better yet, that everyone at the table was flawed!

But this is what Kate and people like her do. And maybe via this analogy you can see if you do this, it is going to be absolutely impossible to progress. You simply have to deal with yourself.

We all project to some extent all the time. If you have oppositions in your chart (especially to personal planets) you are going to be far more prone but no one is immune. We all have a 7th house which is routinely projected. And if we’re talking about the shadow… well that’s Pluto, but any energy can be projected. Your anger for example and even your desirability!

What do you project? What’s in your 7th house?