Last night I asked the soldier if he’d ever known of someone who could not say, “I love you.” I explained that occasionally I got a question from someone with this problem and I had known a good number of people who struggled with this and eventually suffered.

“You know. They’re with someone for years even and the guy or the gal won’t say, I love you. They just can’t bring themselves too,” I said.

He said he never heard of anything like it in his life… but then consider his life. Because I do think this is common, er… isn’t it?

When it comes to saying, “I love you”, what is your style? Are you forthcoming about your feelings or more cautious? How does this compare to Venus in your chart?

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Dear Elsa,

I am constantly asking questions no one seems to know the answer to? I cheated on my Aquarius boyfriend. I love him very much and I feel like I ruined something that had the potential to be so great. “I thought you were doing it so I did it too” was my logic but its proved to me how much he loves me. I heard its just in a Pisces nature to seek more is it true?

Restless Pisces (She states that “The Young And The Restless” was on when she was born)
United States

Dear Restless, I think it is everyone’s nature to seek more and I think your behavior has little to do with your Pisces Sun.

For example your chart indicates a person with an attraction to taboo as well as someone interested in experimenting sexually - breaking rules in this arena.

Anyone else?

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Speaking of pulling in people who have qualities you lack, I am attracted to Taurus. I am completely surrounded by them and it is hard to deny the impact they have on my life.

I have learned to commit from them.  I have learned to take my time, to feel good about myself and to just plain last.

Taurus is sturdy. I used to react to flies buzzing ‘round but I have learned to disregard as  flies have such a short life span.

Basically I have learned that the solid chocolate Easter bunny has appeal and sometimes change is really overrated. Most amazing, I have even learned to covet a possession (those dog tags) so how about that?!?

Do you attract people who are remarkably different from you?  What have you learned from them?

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Kingsley writes on People You Know Or Think You Know

I would be interested to know how you would like to be seen by your readers Elsa.

Perhaps the missing part of really “knowing someone”, that is, the lack of body language over the internet may have a different result when standing next to the person.

Idiot savant?

That’s an interesting question, Kingsley and I don’t think I care.  With Saturn and Neptune mashed, I don’t think I have the ability to care what the public thinks.

I like the idea people are provoked and/or challenged, moved and/or soothed by my work and beyond that I don’t think about it much. I very much have a ninth house perspective about my writing - I put it out here and then whatever.  It is up to the fates how or if it is received.

The problems come when people try to interact with what turns out to be my hologram.  At that point there are problems for them and problems for me.

The problem exists backwards in my real life where I am routinely misjudged and problems are created when my “voice” does not match what they see or think they see in real life.

How do you want to be seen by the public?

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Abe Lincoln, picture is a Capricorn Moon and rising known to be concerned about their public image.

Dear Elsa,

There is a woman who just got “freed” from her dad in Austria. She was abducted on the first day Pluto made its second entry into Scorpio in 1984. So she was in the family cellar for all of Pluto in Scorpio, and all of Pluto in Sagittarius.

What do you think is this woman’s purpose, or what’s the message with her getting out just when Pluto goes into Capricorn.

Curious

I think it speaks to the shadow side (Pluto) of the father (Saturn) in the plainest way possible.”

Anyone else?

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Dear Elsa,

I’m trying to plan an informal wedding for this year and the two months we’re looking at are June and October. I’ve looked at the calendar and it looks like Mercury will be all wonky all through both of those months. My question is simply, is it insanity to try to plan for a wedding during a Merc retro period? Are we begging for the cake to go missing, the minister to be hijacked, and all the guests to get lost? Should we consider a different month or go ahead as planned and keep a sense of humor about whatever happens?

Engaged

Dear Engaged, this is absolutely not my area of expertise so you should take what I say with a grain of salt. I am posting this as an open question so others might chime in… but since you asked me, I would never ever get married with Mercury retrograde. ::smiles::

That said, it sounds as if you are drawn to and even may relish the upside-down-ness of it all, so whose is to say?

Further you are talking to someone who got married on April Fool’s Day and yes… that marriage was a joke so it seems to me it is all in how you approach the idea of your marriage. If you are looking for something solemn - well Mercury wonky sounds all wrong to me. But not everyone wants something solemn.

Anyone else?

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It was at my Saturn return I really became aware of how unconscious I was of my own motivations. I have significant Capricorn so discovering this was harrowing. It was also horrifying because say what? What do you mean I’m not in control!? I better damned so be in control.

But I learned that not only was I partially being driven by my subconscious, I was primarily being driven by my subconscious and when I really came to know this as a fact, I made friends with the idea.

I realized I had navigated pretty damned well for someone who doesn’t know what they are doing which meant I did know what I was doing, it simply was not in my conscious mind. So now all these years later, if you know me you hear me say things like this:

“I don’t know what I am up to but I am obviously doing something…”

I also say this all the time:

“Let my subconscious take care of it, see what it wants to do.  I am just not going to worry about that at all.”

I have learned to trust my subconscious implicitly because what else am I to do? I become conscious when and if and in my case if the when comes, it usually takes about 10 years for me to really understand what I have done and that is at best. 15 or 20 may be more realistic but anyway, here is my question:

See that graphic? I think that’s about right. I think 90% falls below the line in my case. But I want to know if others agree. Is it due a packed eighth house - so much depth it takes this long for things to surface or is the 90/10 thing universal?

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There is a discussion worth scanning on What Kind Of Person Tells Someone’s Secrets around whether or not it’s a good idea to apologize to someone for some betrayal or hurt inflicted many years prior.

Personally if someone had really jacked me up, I would appreciate an apology 10, 20, 30 40 or 50 years after the fact provided it was clean. Clean meaning the person just wanted to express their regret without expectation but there are exceptions to that.

Occasionally someone writes for advice about contacting a lover they dumped years ago. Invariably they are alone and getting older and while they claim to just want to apologize, it is clear that conscious or otherwise the person would really like the dumped party to come back and love them again. I think this is almost always a bad idea. The contact is rarely welcome and to me it seems very unfair. It’s very simple:

If you like your bridges, then don’t burn them and if you do burn them, then deal with it.

I can think of one person who I really ought to apologize to if not for the fact I think she’d be well advised to punch me in nose if I had the audacity to approach her.  Yeah, I think I’ll just leave that debt for next life but I surely know I have incurred it.

Would you appreciate an apology 10 or 20 years after the fact or would you prefer to let sleeping dogs lie? Can you see your preference in your chart?

Today I was talking to the soldier as he sent a short message over the satellite. He read it back to me and I laughed.

“I bet he likes working with you,” I said.

“Yeah, right.”

“No, he’s going to like that message and laugh when he gets it. Not many can be that funny in 3 words…”

Later I was thinking about it and people like to work with me too. People in the world may or may not like me but if you work with me it is almost guaranteed you’ll enjoy it and I wonder if this is due a well-aspected Saturn. What do you think?

Do your co-workers enjoy you? How is Saturn aspected in your chart?

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This is am amateur music video produced by students at MTSU (Middle Tennessee State University). I think it’s great and reflects the Virgo / Pisces axis. That is Virgo always wants to gather more evidence and Pisces and movies… enough said. Enjoy Cake - End of the Movie… and check the question below?


Do you leave before the end of the movie?