My scooter and I went to see Denis from Cameroon and his autistic charge, 23 year old Brad, who Denis calls “Brat” because of his accent. Brad is not actually a brat though. He is a happy young man who cannot talk, but can get his point across. For example he stomped his foot down HARD and Denis said, “That means Brat is hungry.”

Denis cooked Brad and I his home food, which was rice, ground dried shrimp, ground beef and onions all tossed into a pot and cooked in coconut milk. I’d never had anything like it, but scarfed it down as did Brad.

Denis’s house was immaculate and I watched as Brad, who can dress but not bathe himself, carried his plate and his glass into the kitchen when he’d finished eating.

“Is he a picky eater?” I asked.

“Brat? Not so much,” he said. “But sometimes I fix something he doesn’t want and he let’s me know about it.”

“How’s that?”

“Usually he just picks up the plate, walks over to the trash and dumps it.”

I laughed, as Brad came back in the dining room and picked up the two wooden coasters from his place setting, one for the glass, one for the plate and tossed them into the sideboard cabinet next to the table and took off. Denis and I talked for another half hour or so and then he wanted to ride the scooter. I picked up plate and my glass and Denis took them from me.

“I know where these go,” I said, picking up the coasters.

“See, Elsa? Brat taught you that.”

I grinned. I like how Denis is. “Yep, I learned this watching Brad…”

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Yesterday I was on my way home from the gym and I was thinking about the food he’s served me. His home food. And I was remembering the taste that was so distinctive and I realized I felt very nurtured by this gesture. It makes you feel good when someone invites you into their home and serves you the food they grew up with, whatever that might be.

When you have guests do you serve them home food, or company food? Where is your Moon?

I consider myself a massive, and complete man’s woman and I don’t think many would argue. But I am also a feminist with serious credentials. But this blog is not about me. It’s about I woman I know who fascinates me because she has such little use for men!

Now she’s a married, heterosexual but her husband is a complete afterthought to her. She’s pretty much disinterested in sex. What she loves is her sisters… which is basically any woman of any age who lives on this planet.

And she spends most her life supporting other women by being politically involved and planning or participating in women’s groups or circles. And she is always trying to get me to come to one of these things to which I respond… “Why would I do that? There are no men there.” I’ll say. To which she roars laughing. Continue reading Pluto Transit to the Moon - Mine: She’s a Woman’s Woman With Sisters All Over This Land: One Of Them Is Cheating With Her Husband

Yesterday, I was talking to a pal. Her mother stopped in at her job. After she left, a young girl she works with asked, “Is that your Mom?” She had a lilt in her voice.

“Yes,” my friend answered. ‘That’s my Mom.”

“She seems sweet,” the girl said, chirping.

“Well she’s not. Be careful. I love her, she’s my mom, but she is definitely not sweet…”

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My friend has her Moon (mother) in Capricorn which no one would describe as “sweet”.

Her Moon is square Venus which is supposed to be sweet… but in this case Venus is in Aries (war) so maybe this is why she comes with a warning!!

What is your mother, not? And where is your Moon, and how is it aspected?

A few blogs back, the solider was talking about how you can’t shake your upbringing. He was raised in a conservative family, steeped in tradition, his family and his roots where as I was raised by progressive, eccentric and ultra-detached, Aquarians. And with the Pluto transit (uncover what is hidden) to my Moon (roots) these things have become center stage.

Now when we were kids, this was one jacked up relationship! Because coming here from South America, a quarter Italian himself, he took one look at me… we were the same color, and he assumed that I was just like him. You know. He assumed I was Catholic, for starters! And I never did disabuse him of this notion. Continue reading Pluto Transit To The Moon: Mine… The Family Legacy

When I was in New York, HQ’s wife, the mega-Scorpio mentioned something her mother told her which I thought was very potent. She said whatever a person’s age is… this is the speed their life is traveling at. You know. The older you are, the faster your life moves. 10 years old? 10 miles an hour. 54 years old? 54 miles an hour.

I thought this was very astute and I mentioned it to another friend who liked it a lot. And today is occurred to with my Pluto Moon transit, to come on the blog and ask what your mother told you… and invite people to share so others can benefit and I’ll go first.

My mother told me, “You know you’re in big trouble when decent people wanted nothing to do with you.”

Being highly Capricorn I took that at a definite warning. I was very afraid these “decent people” wouldn’t like me, but Capricorn outgrows that stuff, thank God and these days I know I am “decent people” defined. And there are people I want nothing to do with!

And whenever I run across someone like this I always think of what my mother said. “That person is up a creek!” I think. “Because I want nothing to do with them and I am a decent person…”

And I truly think this is worst thing that can possibly happen to a human being. To have decent people turn their back, I mean. How can you possibly be more screwed? Can you imagine? Decent people want nothing to do with you so all you can so is powwow with the indecent people, like yourself! To me this would be a fate worse than death!

Your turn!

Dear Adrift,

I am sorry for your loss. You have Neptune in hard aspect to both your Moon and Venus which essentially means you idealize love and women in general. There is tendency to deceive and or be deceived in relationships, a tendency towards escapism and extreme susceptibility to addiction (escapism) of all type, including love.

So this is who you are. It is a natal condition. And there are positive ways you can work with it, but you are going to have to find a way to overcome your inertia.

Now that may sound stupid. But if you equate what you are doing to someone who is drinking heavily, which is a fair comparison, then obviously that person needs to get to sober. And no one is saying it is easy. However there is very little anyone can do until and unless the drinker… or in this case, the “piner” decides to clutch it up and go cold turkey.

Because the the fact is, this woman is no longer your woman. And repeatedly falling on a knife (or hanging from a cross) is not changing that and it never it will. Matter of fact, it sounds as if she had one foot out the door for awhile there - and I don’t say that to hurt you. I just want you to face facts. Like drinking all day is not a good idea, stopping your life over a woman who hasn’t thought of you in months is not wise and I think you should stop.

Quit going back and dreaming her up! To quote Reverend Ike as mentioned in Caroline Casey’s book “Making The Gods Work For You” “If you can dream it up, you can dream it down.” And this is what you need to learn.

It is your imagination making this mortal woman into the be all, end all. Try very hard to assimilate that because it is the key not only to freedom from this situation but to the rest of your life.

Because you are an inspired, creative man. And you are currently wasting your energy keeping a hologram of a dream relationship that never was, alive. Stop it! Although your nature may dictate you dream something up, surely you can come up with something better than this woman who is gone. Try to redirect your energy… your imagination this is towards something that is creative, as opposed to destructive.

Good luck.

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Dear Mistress,

Obviously your man is a deeply disturbed liar and I don’t think he needs love and understanding but a swift kick in the ass.

As for you, you sound like a heroin addict. And as long as you want to stick that needle in your arm, there is not much anyone can do for you.

It’s obvious you like your pain, because your post makes it clear you do not want to stop this behavior. With your Moon conjunct Jupiter in Pisces, it seems you relish this masochistic relationship and your dissociated state.

You’re watching a movie? Come on! This is real life and you’re screwing some pregnant woman’s disturbed husband.

And I have to tell you, I think you’re well matched with him, like two drug addicts or two hopeless alcoholics. But please understand if the rest of us shake our heads and walk away. Because you’re the only one who finds this interesting or fascinating in some way. The rest of us think you need to sober up, and the sooner the better.

Good luck.

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Dear Helpless,

You may be in momentary shock… this would certainly be understandable but you are not helpless. In fact your chart is strongly Cardinal (commanding) and I have no doubt you will ultimately assimilate this information, decide what you’re going to do and then execute as if a general in the army.

So just know that. Know you’re in there somewhere and you’ll be back. And what I’ll do is parse this situation for you, feeling confident you’ll find your way once you have the information ordered.

Now regarding your husband, obviously he is a liar and a very good liar at that. He has Neptune square his Sun (and his Moon) and he successfully obscured the reality of who he is. And you should probably brace for more information to come to light, because this is usually what happens in a situation like this.

As to what is driving him, I can’t say for sure. But he has a Leo Moon and he clearly needs SCADS of attention. Because he sounds like he gets a good deal at home, yet it’s no where near enough. And based on this, I would say there is something pathological about his behavior. He’s driven, you could say.

You could probably compare this to a drug addict or a drunk. A drunk drinks and in the throes of their addiction tries to convince others that ‘everybody does it…” Everybody gets falling down drunk. Everybody cheats. Which is erroneous of course.

So here’s the thing. You really are a competent person to the extreme. And I think you’d be well advised not to allow him to drag you into his skewed perception of reality, which he is clearly trying to do. And I’ll give you a hard core example of this for reference.

Last week I saw five minutes of the Oprah Winfrey show on NAMBLA (North American Man Boy Love Association) which is all I could stomach. These men who want to have sex with boys have a club. And they actually believe that 8 and 9 and 10 year old boys are out there, just dying to have sex with them… a bunch of pot-bellied pimply pig men in their 50’s, if only parents and the government weren’t so damned oppressive. And they meet with each other and reinforce this freakishly distorted reality.

And you get the idea. Don’t let your husband sell you a NAMBLA type reality. Fact is, what he is doing is wrong and I expect he will need copious amounts of help to stop. This is assuming he wants to stop, which it does not seem to be the case. I’m sorry.

To answer your question specifically, you did nothing wrong and as for my advice… if it were me, I would be looking for the door and once I found it, I’d be through it just as swiftly as possible. And don’t worry about your ability to replace him either, because women who treat men the way you do are always in demand.

Good luck.

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So personally, I have Saturn transiting the 7th house which suggests I would be learning via relationships. And to facilitate this I am in contact with two ex-boyfriends from 28 years ago… the last time Saturn was in Leo. In other words, it’s a complete Saturn cycle.

I also have Mars conjunct Mercury in Libra, so a constantly hotted up mind. I talk (Mercury) about Mars things (Sex, war, men, etc). Especially when my conjunction is being transited as it has over these last weeks.

I have an 8th house emphasis, in general (intense, taboo) but beyond that Pluto is transiting in aspect to my Moon.

So what feels like “home” to me? In what ways am I subconsciously driven? What is my family legacy?

With Pluto transiting the Moon, these things are all on deck and you can see how it all comes together… how incredibly incredible the universe is when it comes to delivering experience via a conversation I had earlier this week.

I was talking to my Ex, the Special Forces guy which is very handy for Mars Mercury. Talk to a soldier? Perfect! He rang.

Briiiinnng! Brinnnnng!

“I was just talking about you,” I said.

“To who?”

“Scott.” Scott is my other ex from the era. “I was telling him… well the thing is, I saw Scott in July. And of course I saw him for 17 years on and off. But I hadn’t seen him in a long time and what you find out is nothing changes. Not one thing.”

He was listening.

“We were driving around in a car when I visited and you know… well I am a very visceral person. I am freakishly sensitive; there is no way to stop it. And I’ll tell you, it was exactly the same. We drove around and the feelings were exactly the same as they always were. How I felt in July was the same way I felt when I was on my first date with him, when I was 15 years old. There was no difference at all.”

“Uh huh.”

“Uh huh. It was identical. And it makes sense. Because think about it. He’s the same person. He has the same gestures and the same face with the same looks on it. So we were driving around and he’d glance over at me with the same look on his face from a million years ago. That Scott look. And I would have the same feeling, exactly. You know. I’m in the right car. I know I am somewhere I belong which is how I felt from the first minute I met him. So you see what I mean. His energy is the same obviously. It just doesn’t change.

“No.”

“So I have my energy and you put us in a car together, which is sort of close quarters and you can really feel this stuff. And it’s overwhelming. It’s overwhelmingly good, for that matter. Because it’s just so large. You just can’t compare this sort of experience. There is nothing like seeing something go all the way around like that. Thirty years and it means nothing. Time and space mean absolutely nothing. They have no effect at all that I can discern.”

To be continued…

Dear Sister,

Your problem is terrifically complicated but also very simple. First the conundrum: Mercury rules “siblings” and yours is highly stressed. It’s involved in a T-square with Uranus and Saturn which plays about million ways. Like this:

Rebel (Uranus) against your siblings (Mercury)… and vice versa.
Oppressed / Restricted /Rejected (Saturn) by your sibs (Mercury)… and vice versa.

And I could go on and on. These things go ’round and ’round, bing, bang, bing like a pinball machine. And although there are positive ways for these energies to express, this is an advanced game, beyond the scope of what can be addressed on this blog. So leaving that be, I would advise you to focus first on something much simpler. The basic way you’re living that is, because this is what is causing most your symptoms anyway.

See, you’ve got a Capricorn Moon. And Capricorn cannot thrive until and unless they are living completely above board. You must live with integrity or else… well in the case of the Sun in Capricorn, life without integrity is a dismal failure. In the case of a Capricorn Moon, you are going to be depressed! So you get my drift. It is you responsible for your depression and you who can fix it.

And your Sagittarius rising echoes this theme. Sagittarians are all about what they believe. And who are you if you are concealing your “religion” (or lack of) courtesy your fear of being rejected (Capricorn) by your family (Moon)?

I vote that you express yourself. Live free and let the chips fall. Because I’m telling you, your relationship with your sibs is going to be taut regardless. But at least this way you’ll have integrity, and with your Sagittarius standing proud I bet your mood improves.

Good luck.

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