The Moon in Pisces is in opposition to Mars Saturn in Virgo. Whenever planets oppose people project and I am not too keen on this at the moment having suffered wildly this weekend due the phenomena.

When there is focus on the Virgo/Pisces axis, service is always the ticket out of suffering but few will take it because there is a path of lessor resistance.

Some may be harshly critical (Mars Saturn in Virgo) victimizing the other (Pisces Moon). Others will hide under the bed, get drunk or otherwise escape and evade (Pisces moon) leaving the other responsible for all the work (Mars Saturn in Virgo).

Dear Capricorn,

First, your problem is common and congratulations on articulating it so well.  Not too keen on how you berate yourself but you do have this situation very well described and defined which is always at least half the battle.  You know it is you not them and to have this delineated at 24 years old is impressive so now what to do?

Well these tendencies do show up vividly in your chart so you while you will not be able to rid yourself of them you will be able to find other outlets and ways to channel your energy.  It’s no different that having a knife. You can stab yourself with it, you can stab others or you can carve a bar of soap into something beautiful. Learning to do the latter or something like it would be my recommendation and since you are you are a Capricorn, I’ll provide you a plan:

1. Quit berating yourself. Calling yourself “pathetic” does not help. Crediting yourself with having figured out your problem will. (Use your Capricorn to support rather than punish yourself)
2. Recognize you have a (Pisces Moon) need to serve and sacrifice and this is in effect what you are doing in these situations. There are other ways to serve and causes worthy of sacrifice, for example a mother who raises her children sacrifices herself on a daily basis.
3. Recognize that you have an attraction to pining (Pisces on the 7^th) and also to being terrifically critical of yourself (Virgo rising) and commit (Capricorn) to working on these tendencies.
4. Start to slowly work on your problems and expect success to come in small increments.

Last, astrologically it is a Saturn transit forcing this issue. You can take heart in that, it means you are right on schedule.

Good luck.

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Dear Moon,

You have a lot of planets in Libra which makes you a natural peacemaker. It also indicates a strong desire to be partnered although you don’t necessarily want someone on top you 24 hours a day.

Besides this, you have a twelfth house Pisces Moon which needs significant time alone to throw off the energy you absorb so readily so in this way your Aquarian man’s habits serve you.

As to your specific question: no it is not normal for the woman to apologize but it is normal for the Libra to apologize.  Do I make sense? This is your nature and while it may or may not be fair, his nature is not like yours.

His nature as an Aquarian is to be exactly as you describe him… detached and unpredictable. So what this leaves you to decide (something difficult for Libra) is if you can stand it.  Because you are not apt to be able to alter this situation much and I would add one more thing:

The confusion and fatigue you feel is also shown in your chart (the Pisces Moon again) which means you will suffer this with or without him in one form or the other.  You will see your energy deplete, that is.  So one way you might handle this is to let him go when he goes… forget about controlling him and use the time when he’s out of pocket to refresh and replenish yourself.

Good luck.

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Dear Challenged,

Yes, I have ideas. I suggest you adjust your perspective. Making a baby is an enormous task. My sister (a Pisces) told me once that she thought pregnancy was an 18 month thing, not 9. It takes 9 months to make the baby and another 9 to recover! And if you can embrace this idea, I imagine you will see immediate relief from some of the pressure you are putting on yourself.

Now astrologically, Pluto has just crossed your ascendant and squared your Moon Mars conjunction in Pisces. Pluto going over the ascendant like that is a once every 240 years event, and it appears you know enough astrology to glean this is a major, MAJOR life-changing transit.

This marks the birth of your child, but also the death of the woman you were before you had a baby… and the rebirth of you as a mother. Now doesn’t that sound like a lot? Think you might be busy processing on a very deep level? I do.

And when you are breastfeeding, your baby is FEEDING off you. You are literally donating your energy to feed your child. And this is intensely demanding! So do you think you need to be up and around and making art? Why?

As far as I am concerned, making a child is the ultimate creative act. You just made the greatest thing you will ever make, outside of your next child (if you make one). So it may help to attune yourself to these kinds of concepts, and give yourself a break. And trust that your life and life of your daughter will unfold on time, in a way that is perfect as well as perfectly unstoppable.

Good luck.

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Dear Neglected,

You’re really very sweet, with your loyalty and your integrity. These are two qualities I admire and value very highly and I don’t think you should compromise them. That said, you really need to change your life, don’t you? So I’ll tell you how I would go about that, if I were you and then you can do whatever you want.

First, with the Scorp, having decided I was not going to screw him, I would ask him directly to take his energy off me. He won’t like it, but it will solve the problem and it’s possible you can remain / go back to being “friends”. Because as it stands now, he is a ’sink”. He is sucking your energy and diverting your focus.

Next, I would take this whole episode as a ‘wake up call”. I would take it as proof that as a matter of fact, I am not dead and I do want a lover. And since my husband has not touched me for five years, I would start looking at what I was going to need to do to become financially independent from my him so I could leave him, and hopefully go on to live the rest of my life with physical contact. Last, I would execute my plan.

Now on the astrology, what you have is a Uranus transit to your exact Moon, Mars conjunction in Pisces exactly opposed Jupiter in Virgo and I have to bet you are going to get free by 2007 when the transit it completes, sort of like this:

“I’M FED UP AND I’M NOT GOING TO TAKE IT ANYMORE!”

And screwing some guy 12 years younger definitely fits with this transit. I totally recommend it - but find one who is single, and tell your husband that you’re out of there first, okay? Because you’ve waited this long and it doesn’t sound like you want to compromise your standards or your integrity.

Good luck.

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