This is one of my first videos, circa 2007…

Today I was talking to someone, the conversation was so hard but very important to have. I sat there on my end of the phone feeling horrible as I tried desperately to communicate while being interrupted, challenged, deflected, defended against, taken off topic, etc.

“You should talk to me more,” he said.
Continue reading Saturn In Virgo: If You Make It Hard For People To Talk To You…

Comments regarding Saturn in aspect to Mercury aka having control of your mouth and your mind.
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Some people notice hands, I know I do. It’s one of the first things I look at on a man. “Do I want those hands on me or not?”

Anyone who has Mercury emphasized is going to have prominent hands, or hands that grab you attention. My friend Ben also notices hands and my ex-perennial boyfriend, Scott has extremely prominent hands.
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Tam asks on Manipulation And Astrology Consulting in regards to various comments about my regret of using the word, ‘manipulation” and my distaste of political correctness… :

(snip) “Does anyone really hear/comprehend what others say?”

Great question. I think sometimes they do. Sometimes there is a direct line of communication but I have had things people have said to me take 10 years and more to register. Matter of fact I wrote a conversation I had with my sister (have not finished and posted it yet) that we had almost 15 years ago and it just registered… now. This is uncanny. It is indicative of what a poor listener I am or at least that I was.
Continue reading Saturn In Virgo / Mercury In Capricorn: Time Wasting vs Working To Understand

Mercury in Capricorn in mutual reception to Saturn in Virgo continues to encourage people to take a hard look at how the communicate… what they think about, what they are interested in and so forth.

Today I had to critique someone’s letter applying to business school. I also did several consultations, taking care to offer something valuable in the time allowed. A few days ago we had the Sagittarian who has to learn to let her partner talk or else and I continue to defend / support my status (or lack of it) behind the scenes.
Continue reading Mercury In Capricorn, Such A Lowly Planet In Such A Lowly Sign

I started to write about Notions and the People Who Have Them but got off track. I want to get back on track because I think this is such an important topic and rarely (if ever) discussed in life or in astrology.

noâ‹…tion
   /ˈnoʊʃən/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [noh-shuhn] Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun
1. a general understanding; vague or imperfect conception or idea of something: a notion of how something should be done.
2. an opinion, view, or belief: That’s his notion, not mine.
3. conception or idea: his notion of democracy.
4. a fanciful or foolish idea; whim: She had a notion to swim in the winter.
5. an ingenious article, device, or contrivance; knickknack.
Continue reading Astrology, The Mind And Communication: Mercury Trumps Pluto? Yer Crazy, Elsa P!

The first time I spoke on the phone with the soldier after 25 years, I was taken aback by his (southern) accent. He had this profound twang and when I heard it I burst out laughing. He asked if I did not remember  his accent and I did remember his accent it was just nowhere near as pronounced which made sense once  I had time to think about it.

It’s because when I met the soldier he’s not been living in the south, he’d been living out of the country and had lost his accent to an extent. But here’s the thing, it’s like a phenomena.

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“Well just tell me this,” the soldier said. “When do you not think about sex?”

I was stunned by the question. “Well…” I said, stalling for time. “I don’t know,” I blurted.  “Let me think about that.”

He laughed. “See?”

“Well wait a minute, let me think I said.”  I stopped to think, letting my mind scan over a typical days thoughts. “I don’t know but I am sure I think of something besides sex.”

He stared.

“Occasionally, I think of something besides sex. I get on the crosstrainer and think about what I am going to write,” I said but as soon as I did I realized sexual thoughts interfere with that probably every few minutes if not every few seconds.  “Okay, I do think about sex a lot. Oh my God, I think of sex all the time… I really do think about sex all the time, sorry!”

This was stunning to me. I don’t think I go five minutes without a sexual thought… quintessential Mars conjunct Mercury.

 What dominates your thinking? Where is your Mercury?

The soldier’s thoughts on failure being predictable have proved seminal in that they have provoked my own analysis of my own thought process and what I observe around me.

As an example, we recently noticed the business of someone we know was beginning to smell as if it might be failing. The owner of the business is quite bright so it was hard for the us to believe this person could not see what was coming. It was possible but hard to imagine as probable but as days and weeks passed the scale continued to tip in the wrong the direction.
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