Second question… Catch up here: The Aries Mother And Her Son

“With my boyfriend. Well. Our synastry and our composite are both kind of messes. I think most typical astrologers would look at them and tell me we’re doomed. Yet this relationship has lasted five times as long as any other one in my life. I’m happier than I’ve ever been, feel more supported than anyone (even my family) has made me feel, and just plain think he’s a good, admirable man (which aren’t so easy to find.)”

(swearing below the break)
Continue reading Clearcut Astrology: The Aries Mother And The Boyfriend

“P, some of this women aren’t telling you the whole story. Some women… I’m telling you if you’re not going to screw them, you’re not going to screw anyone.”

“I know. I know that, I know what you mean.”

“Yeah, they get pissed and get it all wrong… go tell everyone in the world a bunch of shit about you, none of it is true. I mean they call your sister, your mother, your friends, your boss, your cousins… they’ll even tell your dog about you if they happens to speak English.”

I snorted.

This is true of course but why? Why is there a saying, “Hell have no fury like a woman scorned…” but no equivalent saying regarding men?

“I said I was a man’s woman,” I told the soldier.

“You’re a woman’s woman,” he said.

“You think?” I said, because I think I am a woman’s woman too. I help women all day long never mind I sued a man for sexual harassment when I was 17 years old and the concept of sexual harassment was on the absolute fringe of society. What is that if you a woman’s woman?

“P, you’re a woman / woman. You’re just a woman all the way around.”

I was pretty sure I knew what he meant. Women are nurturing. They are caretakers. We may be able to do all kinds of other things but at the heart of it, there is estrogen in the equation and I don’t think it can be denied.

a asked: “Can one learn to be a man’s woman?”
Continue reading Venus vs Mars… Men and Women - Can They Get Along? POLL

From the comments Voice Of Mars (With A Scorpio Moon) On Women, I wrote:

“He means the women deliver more pain then they realize… the men keep a straight / poker face.”

dukkha asked

“…is the straight poker face a ‘male’ thing or a ’scorpio moon’ thing?”

dukkha, it’s moon for sure, but I think this may apply to men in general in large part. You just don’t see many men don’t see many men crying (overtly) about a women who is going or gone. The soldier talks about this a lot, he has definitely seen his share of men broken up over women men and when I hear these stories I get the distinct idea the women have no idea they have delivered such a punch.

Continue reading Venus vs Mars: How Men And Women React To The Loss Of Love Relationship

“Well he likes us,” I told the soldier regarding Vidroid. “He likes being around us, I think it is because we are both inexhaustible. There is always more you can glean from either one of us.”

“That’s probably true.”

“I think it is and I think he’s figured this out so he wants to spend as much time with us as he can. He wants to learn everything he can. Like how to get a woman, and how to keep one.”

“Well you better teach him how to get one because I have no idea. I have never been able to figure out how these guys do it. The only time I have ever got a women it was because circumstances through us together and kept us there long enough for pheromones to start working.”
Continue reading Bridging The Gap: Men And Women (Venus And Mars) Working As A Team

Daemoness writes on the Gaslighting bit regarding the various attacks against me on my blog:

“From my perspective, I believe that a lot of people are still very hung up viewing or dealing with a strong woman. Have you ever wondered if you would be getting this kind of reaction if you were a man posting what you do? I would bet it wouldn’t be happening or very minimally at least.”

Great question and no I have never wondered this buy I am wondering now. What if instead of Elsa P, I was Frank L? Would this change your perception of what is written on this blog?

And here is the burning question:

If your perception would change, how would it change?

“Tacoma? Yeah, I’ve been there,” I said.

“Me too. In the truck,” he added.

“Yeah, I went there to see a friend. Supposed friend. It was a man. He was supposed to be a friend but then you get there and they try to stick their dick somewhere.”

He laughed. “Well of course.”

“What do you mean, of course? You think I’m stupid?”
Continue reading Men And Women (Venus And Mars): Planet Reality vs Planet Unrealistic

Today I complained about how the men around here don’t do their share (I mean they don’t do anything) around keeping the house up. The soldier listened carefully and then told me it was entirely my fault for not commanding my troops well enough… or for that matter, not commanding them at all.

“You can’t expect a man to know what to do if you don’t tell him what to do,” he insisted. “There is no one here who won’t do whatever you want us to do but you have to come up with what it is you want us to do. Write it down! Then if it’s not done you can say, do it motherfucker, it’s just job! It’s says so right there,” he said pointing his finger at the hologram lists of chores. Now get off you ass and do what you’re supposed to do!”
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satori (a Pisces) writes:

When life throws you Virgo– and you’re feeling averse to actual work– read advice lists.

I’ve just discovered a new guilty pleasure:  the lists at men’s health dot com.  Oh, the laugh out loud, squirmy goodness of it all, and not ecause they’re wrong either.  There was one particular passage prefacing a list of what not to say to women that may live on my desktop forever:  “Women freak out. Often at you. Often for no discernible reason.”

There are bits where men give advice and ones where women give advice. As far as can tell they can all be replaced by advice from the movie Field of Dreams:

Continue reading Advice From Pisces: satori On “The Moon in Virgo is besieged, caught between Saturn and Mars.”

I have strong feelings about single parenthood and they are getting stronger every day.  There has been an enormous influx of male energy since the soldier arrived and the arrived full time and the benefits to my son are absolutely stunning.

As a woman, I have little knowledge of the secret lives of boys. I am finding out that it does not matter how sophisticated I may (or may not) be… I am not a man means I am not a man means I am not a man.

So now when the soldier shuttles my son and his friend between the houses he is privy to the fact their art teacher has a tattoo on her chest and the boys wonder if it goes all the way to her “thingies”. Think my son would ever mention such a thing to me?  ::smiles::

Continue reading Astrology And Parenting: Pluto In Capricorn Has Me Both Humbled And Empowered