wyrdling writes:

“…women don’t tend to admit being “pretty good” in our culture.”

No they don’t. Even if the believe it they don’t state it as if it is impolite to have self-esteem. So here I am with Mars conjunct Mercury (loud) in the ninth house (broadcast) in Libra (Venus) and what am I do to? Yell out that I am desirable or pervert my energy?

If you think I should pervert my energy, should I dye my hair too? What else should I do to be more palatable? And why should I do this again?

I think my overt expression of self confidence inspires and allows others to feel good about themselves. If I can get away with feeling really, really good about myself, maybe you can get away with feeling sort of good about yourself and I think this is why Capricorn / Saturn types read here. “She’s got all kinds of audacity, I think I can stick my neck out a little bit further myself…”

Far as I am concerned, someone’s got to be Auntie Mame.

Were you taught to downplay your good qualities? 

“Yeah, we’ll be at some ball somewhere and some bastard will come up and try to cut in,” the soldier said.

“Yeah?”

“Yeah and that’s when I kill the motherfucker. What the fuck do you think you’re doin’ I’ll ask him? You think you’re gonna dance with her? You’re not dancing with her,” he said, sounding very Italian. “Do I look like the sort of motherfucker you can cut in on?”

I snorted.

“You best get out of here while you can still walk you asshole and don’t think for one second I won’t rip that tuxedo cummerbund motherfucker right off your waist and wrap it around your neck because I will do exactly that.”

“Tuxedo cummerbund motherfucker? Some manners you’ve got.”

“Yeah, manners. I’ll tell ‘em, me and P? We will clear this fuckin’ dance floor for you if you want so you best move your sorry ass along and do your cutting in on some other man. One less likely to kill you for even thinking you can dance with his girl. Yeah P. There is only going to be one name on your dance card - mine!”

Mars speaks. P snorts.

Elsa, do you think Pluto in Capricorn will bring about a revolution in manners? I’m so sick of rude people…but I have noticed as of late that I’m getting more kindness from strangers and that sustains me, believe me!

Or am I just less of an asshole? Heh.

Enjoying Niceness
United States

Dear Niceness,

I don’t think so. I don’t associate manners with Capricorn or revolution with Pluto for that matter. Revolution = Uranus and Manners are Libra ruled. Capricorn wants to “do the right thing” but this is an issue of integrity which has nothing to do with being pleasant.

As far as Capricorn is concerned the “right thing” might be to cut your head off… or better yet, cut you off at the knees so based on this, I would say you were just being less of an asshole. ::smiles::

Anyone else notice manners improving?

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My experience working with younger women in charge… also a little Saturn in Virgo here - watch what you say!