On being game-y, my friend said she got a lot of power from doing this. She had control. Judging by the comments it seems we may not all be talking about the same thing so let me clarify.

My friend would engage a man. She would be very attentive to him, leading him to believe she was really interested in knowing him and as soon as she had him hooked she would detach.

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(From 2007) Last night I was talking to a pal who copped to being what she called “game-y” in relationships when she was younger. She described how she manipulated men by coming on strong and then backing off to keep their energy on her. She’d have them obsessing trying to figure out what she was up to and I was completely enthralled listening to her  because I am the polar opposite of this.
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Here is something dense from 2007. Posting it because it’s good for the Sun and Mercury in Scorpio flavored sky. I am deep into my work right now and have to stay in my process so can’t come up with something new…

Ana commented on the Scorpio Energy… vs Pisces Energy blog…

“The Scorpio energy is more like a zero sum game - for one person to gain energy the other has to lose energy. The energy exchanged is equal of course, but one person gets stuck with a negative balance…”
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This is from an email consult I am starting work on. It is astrology put to fine use. That is, astrology used to destroy someone or pick them apart is lousy, as is astrology used to exclude people or manipulate them for personal gain.

Manipulating them for their own gain is completely acceptable…
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“My love for you is so deep, it scares you,” the soldier said. “That’s why you won’t marry me,” he added.

“Nice probe,’ I said. “Nice but wholly ineffective attempt to manipulate me.”

He looked at me, his face a mixture of guilt and innocence.

“I know what you’re doing. You’re trying to find the button and push it. Well that’s not it! Tell me I am coward so I’m supposed to go right to a wedding and marry you to prove otherwise.”

He blushed.
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One day I was sitting in the chair of my hair lady of seven years when she asked me, ‘If you had the cure for cancer would you share it?”

I did a double take. ‘Er… I suppose I would.”

Next thing I knew she had reached into the bottom drawer of her station and she started pitching me on becoming a Mormon. “A what?” I said. “A Mormon?” I couldn’t have been more shocked. “You’ve got to be kidding me?”
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“You’ve met your match now, sneaky ass dog,” the soldier said looking down at Dora’s poker face.

“Who?” I asked.

“You and her. She’s a sneaky dog.”

“I know, I’ve seen her. She’s pullin’ all kinds of crap.”

“Yeah, you’re in the right family now,” he said, addressing Dora directly. “These people are going to be on to you.”

Dora stared poker-faced.
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Mercury (and Venus) in Virgo are tightly square Pluto and the rest of the sky is benign in comparison. Communications are manipulative but a negative connotation to that should not be assigned or assumed.

It is possible that a person’s manipulation of you is desirable (Venus) depending on the person. For example if your body is in a knot, a chiropractor can do some pretty nifty magic via manipulation. It reminds me of when I first got in contact with the soldier in 2003. Pluto was transiting my Sun then and I was having a hell of a time.
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The other night the soldier said he preferred to avoid knowing my secrets, they disturb him. I wrote about that and some others commented they also preferred not to hear other people’s secrets.

Now I can understand because there are some things I don’t want to know anything about, details around my lover’s ex-lover would be an example but a bonafide secret? Man, what could be more tasty than that?

Yeah, I love knowing secrets and I am fortunate as people tell me plenty of them. I just love knowing things I am not supposed to know - Going places I am not supposed to go, etc.
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I think I am about 18 in this story, making the soldier about 20. We were continuing to discuss our break-ups. For the record, I was dating Sadisimal John at this time.

“Yeah, we were broke up about 3 months that time,” he said. ‘You had a boyfriend up until you got sick of him and then you came looking for me.”

I didn’t say anything because that is exactly what I did.

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