The Saturn return is the point where you reorient your life. There is no need to be terrified - Here is real life example:

This series starts here: Demystifying The Saturn Return.

Henry as referenced in the piece.

Skip to Part 3 - My Saturn Return

Paul, a regretful control freak tells a story on Henry...

Eliza wrote on the “Too Old to Leap, Mars / Saturn in Synastry” blog:

“… I’ve been pondering about the effects of the Mars (me) square Saturn (him) synastry aspect I have with my boyfriend. I always seem to be the keen ‘leaper’ and am starting to feel a little rejected by the ‘I’m too old’ rebuff I get from him. Is this Mars/Saturn at work then? I wonder how we can get round this satisfactorily…”

I responded:

Yes that’s Mars Saturn but I don’t have much I can add. I really think if Saturn won’t work its end, Mars is going to be incredibly miserable.

Continue reading Astrology and Relationship: Too Old To Leap Redux - Saturn In Aspect To Mars in Synastry, Happy Capricorn… Etc.

That’s my grandfather, Henry, circa 1923. He’s a double Capricorn with Mars exalted in Capricorn. He also had a stellium in Sagittarius, Mercury, Chiron, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus and his north node.

He broke his leg and jacked up his knee like that not once but twice while doing stunts on his motorcycle. Consequently he had to limp up mountains for the rest of is life, so he did. He climbed his favorite mountain 127 times and he also ran on that bad leg just because someone told him he never would.

It’s a real Jupiter Saturn story and this is what he said about his knee:

“I guess I shouldn’t have done that. If I’d have just ridden the motorcycle instead of doing tricks I wouldn’t have this limp. And if I’d have learned the first time I broke my leg it wouldn’t be as bad as is it is. But it was just so much fun…”

This is how I feel this morning, as I head off to physical therapy for my back. Sticking my leg up in the air and twisting into a pretzel is just so much fun. I guess you could say we are willing to pay the price for out thrill. It’s a happy (Jupiter) reality (Saturn).

Can anyone with Jupiter in aspect to Saturn, or an emphasis on Sadge and Capricorn relate?

Okay you Virgos, curious about Saturn’s transit through Virgo, today’s advice blog is a perfect (Virgo word) example of how this is going to work… Continue reading Saturn’s Transit Through Virgo - Since You Asked, Here’s What’s Coming!

So I am standing in the scooter shop and I definitely don’t belong except that I do. I don’t belong because I am someone’s mother who has come in from the suburbs but I do belong because I enjoy these scooters as much as anyone else on this planet.

And standing in there chatting with hipster men in thick black glasses and a gal in short, short, super short waitress uniform, I thought of Henry (double Capricorn).

Now you can see from the two pics… Henry and I, that we are both kind of strange. And Henry was a vegetarian, and having adopted this practice in the 1930’s, he was way ahead of his time.

So I grew up with Henry ordering his food from all over because there was no such thing as a “health food store” back then. But then hippies emerged and things like the Food Conspiracy, the first health food co-op in our town came into being.

If you wanted to shop at the Food Conspiracy, you had to work there as a volunteer so Henry, in his 70’s at the time rushed to “town” to sign up. And I was there, because I went everywhere with Henry. And you should have seen the looks on the faces of the hippies when Henry came in with me (a non-flower child for sure) and asked if he could sign up to volunteer.

They moved to tell this old man that he’d lost his way but he was happy to stand on his head for them and tell them that in fact, he had been vegetarian for more than 30 years and he was anxious to support their venture in any way possible. ::smiles::

So when they asked me today if I would like to try out some new scooters while they serviced mine, I said yes.

“This one is a 250. You can try it if you don’t think that’s too much for you…”

“No, I don’t think it is. I could ride an 1100 when I was 19. Give me the keys…”

Ha ha ha

Any other Capricorns enjoying their geriatric years?

Dear Mourning,

What an excellent question. I am very sorry for your loss and first need to tell you I have no ability connect with someone who has passed and transfer information. So I can’t tell you what your mother or your aunt may or may not know but I still think I may be able to help.

Having encountered more than my share of death in this life, I’ve been forced to develop some kind of philosophy about this because my natural reaction to loss was very similar to what you are experiencing. I just could not parse the deaths in my life and resolve them in a way that could bring me lasting peace. And part of the reason was that like in your case, the deaths came one after another, my feelings cascaded and I could not keep up.

But eventually I did find a way of seeing things that brought me a calm understanding around death that has held for about 15 years - so I’ll share it with you in the hope it helps.

You say you want some kind of connection with these women and with Venus (love/female) in the 8th (death/inheritance), the fact is that their energy flows very naturally to you. People with planets in the 8th house inherit the energy of the dead and carry their legacy whether they are aware of not. And since this is exactly what you’re seeking, this seems a fairly easy thing to resolve. Their energy is with you and I only need make you aware of this.

See when someone dies, that’s their body. There goes their body; they can no longer use it, but what about their energy? Their energy is still with us. And if you wonder if this is true, just think of a writer. The writer is dead, but their book is with us and anytime someone reads that book, they access the dead person’s energy. Their energy is right there, in their hands. So how can you say this person is gone? Their body is gone, their energy is here.

But what if the person did not write a book? No problem. They did something.

In this case, your mother had a baby: you. You are her energy. She made you just like that writer made that book. So how can she be gone when you’re still here? You are wearing her face, don’t you know this? Go look in the mirror and see your mother.

Further, I happen to know that you write. And don’t your mother’s words come through you at times? Don’t you use her phrasing or rephrase her ideas at times? If so, how can you say she’s not here? She is coming through you all the time. You express her energy… constantly. People who knew your mother look at you and see your mother so how can you say she is gone?

My grandfather (Henry) haunts this blog. When he died, I nearly died. But Henry has gone nowhere. Oh, his body is gone but he lives through me. I would not be me had he not been my grandfather, and I am here impacting people everyday - empowered by Henry who is dead. I am Henry’s legacy. And when I die, Henry will still live through my children and through the people who have read here and been moved by what I have to say which originated in Henry… and the person before Henry and the person before him (or her).

So this is my advice:come to see the truth. You are your mother and your aunt. You are an amalgamation of them and others and none of these people can ever leave you or you them, and mad?? You think they may be mad because you were not there when they died?

How do you know you weren’t there when they died? You may very well have been the last thing that crossed their minds. You’re the man with Venus in the 8th. You may have kissed them both sweetly right before they died. The physical body is joke. We are dealing with souls here.

I say, go live. You are what your mother has left behind to carry her energy and her message forward. You can honor the dead by living the best life you can on the on the energy they’ve bequeathed you. How can you love your lost ones and do anything less?

Much love and good luck.

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I started keeping an Amazon Wish List about six months ago. And I think the Amazon Wish List is one of the best ideas ever because it allows people to do nice things for other people. Did you know you can search a person’s name and pull up their wish list? I learned that from a Scorpio Mars.

So anyway, I don’t want much. I think I’m just a born ascetic because the things I value are almost all ethereal. It’s that or just the fact I grew up with nothing, which never bothered me and it still doesn’t. However, occasionally I want a book. Continue reading Speaking of Giving: The Amazon Wish List and Mars Mercury in the 9th House

“After you left? Well I was screwed,” I said. “But I didn’t know it right away. I told myself… well I was hoping you’d be back. I kind of thought, how could you leave me. I thought you might be back and on some other level, knew otherwise.”

“I’m sorry, P. I wish I’d have never left. I sure never wanted to.”

“Well, it’s not your fault. I could have called you at any time and I am sure if I would have you’d have come back… done whatever.’

“You got that right.”

“But I didn’t see how I could do that. If you came back on your own, then okay. But I could not call you back because I just thought for sure… I had to let you go because you were starting to fly. You were really gaining momentum then. You were picking up speed. A lot speed at that time.” Continue reading The Soldier and P - 30: After You Left?

I was talking to satori...

“Well no one dead ever visits me,” I said. “I don’t know why. You’d think they would.”

“Yeah.”

“Well they don’t. Take Henry. Everyone thinks he should visit me. He visits them. This is what I hear! People tell me Henry visits all the time, so what am I supposed to make of that?”

“I don’t know.”

“I don’t either. From what I hear, he’s a visiting fool. So why is my grandfather visiting them but not me? They sure like it, I’ll tell you that. People like Henry. They love him. But he’s never visited me, even once. The person who visits is *Scott’s sister and she has for fifteen years. I know some things about her I didn’t know before she died I’ll say that. She’s very close. She stays very near, so near there is hardly a line between her and I. This is how it seems sometimes because she’s right there. But that’s it. The rest of the dead people I know want nothing to do with me, I guess. I just don’t know….”

I thought about Scott’s sister and her Good Earth tea. Whenever I smell that tea, she’s around. She took me to the Good Earth restaurant when I was 16. This was before there was such a thing as Good Earth tea. Well, the tea existed but you have to go to the restaurant to get it.

Anyway, she bought me some Good Earth tea and then she died and these things are associated to me. Every time I smell the tea… well it’s as if it’s her perfume.

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This conversation took place last night. And the Saturn Neptune opposition is pretty much exact right now, where Saturn is the grandfather, Neptune the ethereal. And today I stepped out of the shower at the gym and er… what’s that smell.

It was overwhelming. The smell was just intense and I could not place it. What the hell?

I thought to ignore it because what else is there to do? It’s none of my business what products people use in the shower and in fact I have seen some exotic things in there. But then my eye was drawn to someone’s cosmetic bag hanging outside one of the shower stalls and guess what was sticking out?

A big ol’ bottle of Dr. Bronner’s soap! Can you believe this? That’s the soap Henry (a health nut) used for everything. I smelled that soap my whole life, but not since he died more than 20 years ago. So I guess he’s around, eh? I hope he forgives my grammar.

Do dead people visit you?