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Voice Of Mars: Men And The Art Flirting, Teasing And So Forth
Astrology in real life
The soldier and I were talking about the comments on What’s a Married Man To Do When A Woman Flirts With Him?.
“They’re wild,” I said. “The women seem to think the men like being teased. That they enjoy it.”
“Men hate being teased,” he said. “Men want to get some.”
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Open Question: What’s a Married Man To Do When A Woman Flirts With Him?
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Charlotte wrote on Venus and Mars - What You Want and How You Get It:
“I have Venus in Pisces (in the 7th), Mars in Sadge. I want affection and love. I get it by going to bars and being gregarious, off-the-cuff, flirtatiously feisty. Wow have I got myself a reputation in a small town like this. Yowza.”
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Gemini Woman Flirts With A Married Man, Wonders Where The Line Is: Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
What do I do about flirting with a married man who’s flirting back? I KNOW it’s wrong, and I’ve no intention of being a homewrecker (he is married with children). I was in a relationship once before with a married man (who divorced after we broke up, though his wife never found out about us), and I don’t intend to walk that road again.
I met the current MM through a mutual friend and we hit it off really well, often able to finish each other’s sentences, and are an equal match in wit and verbal dexterity. We have started collaborating on a research project together and I’ve no doubt the work will be fruitful.
However, the verbal sparring matches, as they do, have taken on a decidedly sexual turn. We don’t talk dirty. Just funny, with a lot of innuendo. The irony of the situation is we reached this point after our mutual friend (not even his wife) accused us of having an emotional affair behind her back. She was doing the ‘I was friends with you first, and now you are spending time with her (online).’ We were indignant and annoyed at first, but didn’t want to complain or bitch about the mutual friend. I think somehow that got deflected into jokes about what she will think we are doing, even though we were just talking about work. And the jokes are beginning to have a life of their own.
Curiously, his wife is absent in the matter. I’ve never met her, and he mentions her on the odd occasion, but only in passing. I do not want to speculate on the state of their marriage, which I think should not govern my behavior anyway.
I intend to pull back on the innuendo, but have I crossed a line? Is there a rule book that says single women and married men can never be good friends? We have been chatting online for a couple of hours each evening for a few weeks now, partly for work, but a lot of it social too. Is that the same thing as seeing somebody for a couple of hours a day? Am I doing something ‘wrong’ that will inadvertently cause a lot of suffering later?
Moon in Capricorn Wanting to do the Right Thing
Singapore
Dear Moon,
If you have to ask, I would say you have crossed the line for sure. And never mind the “right thing”, you have a pattern here with married men. You have been involved with one and you are now involved with another. If you doubt this, check your language, Gemini.
You refer to you and him as “we”. We are doing this, we think this other. We reacted like this. He is not you partner!
You also cut the wife out and he does the same because she is rather inconvenient, yes? So hey! Let’s just ignore her.
Single women can be friends with couples and perhaps with married men but only if they respect the marriage, which is not what you are doing when you flirt and talk about sex with this man… and spend the day with him at work and the evening chatting with him on a computer. If you need a check on this, just ask yourself how his wife would feel if she intercepted your communications.
You’re both adults, you can do what you want but you are asking me so I am telling you: you are having a virtual affair with a married man and yes, people are going to get hurt - most namely, you.
Good luck.
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Virgo Woman Flirts And Sneak-Touches Man Who Has A Girlfriend: Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
I met a man several years back. Just from a glance across a bar. Turns out we had mutual friends in common. We started emailing each other… flirting. We would see each other on weekends just being in the same place at the same time.
We will secretly touch each other - a brush here, a bump there. Now the catch. He has a girl friend and she does not know we email. She does not see the flirtatious touching but it will never go further than that. Should I just let it go? I really like him.
Virgo Woman
Tokyo, Japan
Dear Virgo,
I don’t know what you should do. If you like being the woman some guy feels up behind his girlfriend’s back, well then you’re in! But if you think this is love or something like that, then I would say you’re deluding yourself.
You have a stellium in Virgo with Pluto involved. You are no doubt attracted to the taboo of this situation along with the idea you don’t actually have sex so you keep your “virginity”. But you are past 40 and Saturn is in Virgo, which begs you to grow up, define yourself and face reality.
Is this the kind of adult you want to be? If so carry on. If not, knock it off. Your judgment is the only one that counts.
Good luck.
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Shy Girl In Love With Shy Boy: What Can She Do?
Dear Elsa,
I am in love with a boy. He just keeps on doing stunts to woo me. He is very shy to ask me. Please help me.
Girl in Love
India
Dear Girl,
You found the boy you want and he wants you back - so lucky you! It doesn’t sound like you need much help… a few subtle adjustments ought to do the trick.
You have a stellium in Cancer. He must be going crazy for your girlishness, so I would just flex that muscle just a little bit more and I would use body language to do it.
Drop your shoulder when he’s around, for example. Men pick up on these signals and it is a smooth very effective way to indicate interest. Turn your wrist out (towards him) when you talk to him. He will go crazy and you will get what you want.
Good luck.
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