kashmiri writes regarding “erasing” people who sell you cheap:

I have Venus/Neptune too and always feel guilty about erasing people who f**k me over. Usually I erase, so well that in a year or two I forget, then start to feel guilty for being harsh. I’m dealing with that right now. Was this person so bad? Well, yes. They were. The people who’ve screwed me have done it WELL.

I hate grudges, though, and sometimes I feel as trapped by my ‘erasing’ as I have by staying somewhere painful. I worry how this erasing jives with my principles of kindness.

kashmiri - I have nearly identical experience. I also forget what the person did and wonder if I should still know them.

However, if I reengage the whole thing behaves like a hologram. Where there was once something of substance the reconstituted relationship is like dealing with a paper doll in comparison to a human being. It’s like shaking hands with Casper. I can do it, but why? Why bother when there are flesh and blood people around which Venus Neptune really needs.

There is a reason I run with all these Venus Saturn / Venus in Capricorn types. And all these Taureans! The last thing I need is someone tricky or even worse, someone who thinks they are tricky. Because if you’re actually tricky, I’ll never know I’ve been tricked which suits me just fine. Unfortunately most people are nowhere near as tricky as they think they are.

Based on your chart, what do you really need? Do you get it?

“She sure sold me cheap,” I said to a friend when I learned a gal I was acquainted with had betrayed me. “Why do you think that is? Is she stupid?”

I asked if she were stupid because this happens all the time. People betray me frequently. In fact is happens so routinely I don’t even register it other than being mind boggled.

Because I am an enormously loyal and loving friend. I am without a doubt the one that will still be there when everyone else goes home and I am sure people who know me would agree with this completely… yet I am discarded all the time. Continue reading What About Being Sold Cheap? Venus In Aspect To Neptune And Deception In Relationship