‘Well now we’ve got two dates and have to choose,” I told the soldier.

“How’d that happen?”

“Well I came across one but I asked other people for advice and another astrologer emailed me with a different date.  His work was compelling.”

“It doesn’t matter, either day you can run out the church.”

I had no answer for that.

“Okay, because we’re getting married and we’re getting married soon. Are you marrying me, P?”

“Yes.”

“You’re not going to be the runaway bride?  Are you going to run away?”

“No.”

“Because if you do… if you do, I’m going to get my old team together and we’re gonna kidnap ya!”

I was glad when he said that. it makes it impossible for me to be disappointing see.  Aren’t people strange?

Is there a tag you don’t want to wear?

You voted:

Leopards can change their spots…
Yes - Scott (52%)
No - Arie (48%)

If I were on the jury I would vote with Arie. A reprobate is a reprobate is a reprobate! And Arie knows about reprobates because he is one.
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Dear Hat,

I have no idea what your signature means but I left it intact for others to puzzle over while I try to crack your problem, which I feel is far more common than the people realize or care to admit. And the cause, and the specifics from person to person are endlessly varied. But what you have in common is this: You have cracked 40 years old and you are alone. And I’ll tell you exactly why I think this is.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic In Her 40’s: What Now? Astrology-Based Advice

Speaking of dumping, last night I was pitching my usual bitch about how the soldier left me and married someone else he’d known for of 2 weeks! If you wonder why this keeps coming up, it’s because it keeps coming up.

For example those pictures. There we are and a blink later, there he is married with child. It’s whiplash, there is just no other word for it far as I am concerned but he has a different view or in this case - song. According to him this is what happened. “I was just like poor ol’ Ray,” he said.

He’s right of course. He is right and I’m right too but anyway, it’s a good song with good astrology. Bossy commitment-phobia anyone?

Dear Flighty,

I’m not sure you have a problem. I am sure you have Uranus in the seventh house and you’re keen to shock, break rules and experiment in relationship though and I figure your man is in similar circumstance. He wants to experiment as well, but he’s got some sense of responsibility about it so it’s, “Baby, baby, don’t get hooked on meeeeeeeeee”.

Anyway, your whole deal is quintessential Venus/Uranus stuff, including the relationships with “friends” so I dunno. Just keep doing what you’re doing. It’s you and it’s authentic.

Oh!! And the reason you’re a little more attached than usual? It’s only because he’s detached. The fact you’re going to get out of this is a given. In other words, you’re a commitment phobe and he’s a commitment-phobe’s dream.

Good luck.

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Okay here’s a problem for y’all. I’ve got a gal trying to break a long-standing pattern of opting to go with Danger Boy. You know the type. He’s got an edge, might be moody, definitely non-committal, intermittently withholding, secretive, etc.

Her problem is pervasive and multifaceted. For example, she has Venus in Aquarius trine a Moon Uranus conjunct in Libra which is clearly going to resist commitment so choosing these boys serves in that fashion.

Beyond that, she has Mars in Aries opposite Pluto in Libra so she drawn to the intense challenge and perhaps the pain as well but here is what she’s asking:

Has anyone out there ever successfully weaned off Danger Boy in his various forms and established a stable partnership?  If so, please us how… and if you’re inclined, what drove you to change your ways?

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Dear Aries,

First I would say if you are attracting someone with Uranus in the 7th house, you are probably somewhat commitment-phobic yourself and sure enough, I see a tight aspect between Venus (7th house) and Uranus. Never mind you are an independent Aries with a detached Aquarius Moon!  But to answer your question, I think it is fine to marry someone with Uranus in the 7th house and you may even be able to stay that way if you give them lots of space.

You will have to deal with their impulses, which becomes possible when you can deal with your own impulses. And these relationships to tend to work best when there is regular separation.

The example that comes to mind is astrologer Stephen Arroyo’s remarks in one of his books.  For a time, he worked near an Army post and had a lot of Army wives as clients. He states he could not help but notice 70% of the women had Uranus in the 7th, so you see how this worked for them: their husbands were not around interfering with their freedoms.

Closer to home, when the soldier and I were together as kids, he went to work for 24 hours and then was home for 48 or some such schedule. This meant I could look forward to his leaving LOL and of course more recently, he has been driving a truck!

What we will do now remains to be seen but we will have to do something because like you, he has Venus in aspect to Uranus himself and the energy is going to play one way or the other.

Bottom line, I would say marriage to a Venus Uranus person should be avoided unless you are highly independent yourself.  But this is no negative reflection on the person with this exchange. You should also not marry someone really horny unless you like to screw, right?

If you like eccentrics who are unpredictable in love, if you do not wish to be bored and you can provide your own sense of security, then Venus Uranus is probably your ticket.

Good luck.

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Jupiter, Saturn and Pluto have recently moved into Earth signs. What have you noticed post this shift?

Dear Libra,

It sounds to me as if you don’t like this guy’s passivity and neediness - plain and simple. Never mind he is so badly wanting to partner that he is ready to propose marriage to someone he has known for a month. But you may also hate your own passivity, since you are dating someone you decidedly did not want to date and I think the latter may be as much a problem as the former, as this type conflict is vividly shown in your chart.

You have an Aries rising so are not going to take very kindly to wimps; however you also have a Libra moon in the seventh house which wants to partner just as bad as this guy does. This may be why you started dating him in the first place. Hate to be mean to people.

The situation is further complicated by Uranus in the seventh conjunct your Moon suggesting a healthy dose of commitment-phobia and understanding all of this if you go back up and read your mail to me, you can see this guy is more a prop in your movie rather than someone who is driving anything. Basically you want to detach (Uranus) from anyone who is nice and wants to partner (Libra), even though you are nice and want to partner.

Good luck.

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