“I’d be shocked if you cheated on me,” the soldier said. “I would be totally shocked,” he said carefully.

“I’d be shocked myself seeing as I’ve never cheated on a man in my life, never mind cheat on you.”

“Yep, I’d be shocked and it would end it I guess. It would end our relationship but I would sure be in agony. I’d be in some pain… pain.”

“Well I am not a cheater.”

“I know you’re not. I know you don’t cheat and I do trust you.”
Continue reading His Scorpio Moon And My 8th House: Trust - The Deal Breaker In Relationship In Both Directions

With Venus squaring Pluto some are finding themselves in relationship triangles. This does not mean it’s nasty, for example the soldier, his son and I are triangulated at the moment with good result. However some of you are not faring as well so take this lesson from my gal, Betty if you need too. And keep in mind the other entity is not necessarily another woman. Could be porn… cocaine, his mother… you get the idea.

I love this topic. Denial is one of those things that has a bad rap. No one is ever supposed to be in denial even though we all are at various times about various things for various very important reasons.

This goes along with the discussion a couple days ago about coping in crisis. I have found you are often better off not knowing it all as “all” when there is so much going on because if you could did it would overwhelm the psyche.

As an example, I have recently come through intense crisis. And apparently I gained some weight in the midst of this but lucky for me I did not know it. Everyone else knew it but I blurred it out because I just could not cope with even one more thing at the time. As things eased, I was able to see myself in the mirror and get back on track but boy am I grateful this was not shoved in my face at the time.

This subject is relevant now with Mercury (logic) in Pisces, a sign accused of denial but “denial” with the judgment taken out might be called, faith in God or faith in the universe which so many recommend. Because if it belongs in your lap it will surely wind up there eventually so here is this story about the soldier again, this time with a footnote below…

Eventually the soldier found out unequivocally that his wife was cheating on him and he divorced her immediately as he always said he would. “If I were to find out for sure… but I was never sure.” Had he faced this earlier his life would have been different for sure but who says it would have been better? And what about his son? The soldier’s son grew up with 2 parents courtesy the soldier’s denial. Does Saturn in Virgo want to judge that?

A couple weeks ago I did a bunch of blog about projection and the 7th house. (tag - projection) A few people commented to say they were confused as to exactly what projection was so I’m back with a classic example.

There is a gal around here (Greeley, Colorado) going on trial for the murder of another gal, her lover’s wife. Shawna Nelson had an affair and eventually a baby with a married man. He broke up with her 2 years into this thing which prompted Shawna (who was also married) to show up at his wife’s work (Heather Garraus) as she was leaving and do (and say) this:
Continue reading Regarding Projection: A Real Life Example… Love Triangle Results In Public Execution

Dear Moon,

If you have to ask, I would say you have crossed the line for sure. And never mind the “right thing”, you have a pattern here with married men. You have been involved with one and you are now involved with another. If you doubt this, check your language, Gemini.

You refer to you and him as “we”. We are doing this, we think this other. We reacted like this. He is not you partner!

You also cut the wife out and he does the same because she is rather inconvenient, yes? So hey! Let’s just ignore her.

Single women can be friends with couples and perhaps with married men but only if they respect the marriage, which is not what you are doing when you flirt and talk about sex with this man… and spend the day with him at work and the evening chatting with him on a computer. If you need a check on this, just ask yourself how his wife would feel if she intercepted your communications.

You’re both adults, you can do what you want but you are asking me so I am telling you: you are having a virtual affair with a married man and yes, people are going to get hurt - most namely, you.

Good luck.

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Dear Leo,

Reading your post was surreal. Of course he is playing games and entertaining himself! But what do you think you’re doing? You’re playing games and entertaining yourself! You are playing the kind of games where people wind up hurt and do you expect us to believe you don’t know this?

You may as well be someone who slaps their kid 100 times and then wonders why their face is bruised. Cause and affect for Godsakes. If you pour gas on yourself and walk into a fire, you will be burned. And once you’ve done this you are not going to be able to say, hey wait a minute! New game. I want to be an unburned maiden now.

With Jupiter conjunct your Sun in Leo, you have an inflated ego. You also like to play. You have Mars in Scorpio conjunct Neptune… you love to seduce and sneak around but jeez man. Stop with the complaining when the bill comes due.

You have Venus conjunct Pluto in Virgo as well. Virgo the maiden spoiled by the nasty Scorpio. Come on now. You set this whole thing up. You are no more his pawn than he is yours and if you don’t like the game, then quit playing it.

Good luck.

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Is Cheating Ever Justified?

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Dear Aquarius,

You either cheat on your husband or you don’t. There is no such thing, as whoops, I slipped on a banana peel and fell on this guy’s dick. And it’s nice you can have feelings for one person that do not interfere with your feelings for another person but I suspect knowing this is going to be of little help to your husband feelings should have the affair and he finds out about it.

And you say you don’t want to hurt him but you sound like you want to slip on that banana peel real bad. And you say you have just gotten married which tells me you are at a crossroads. You are either going to be his cheating wife or his non-cheating wife.

If you want to be his cheating wife… well, I think you know what to do. If you want to be his non-cheating wife, I know how to stop something like this. And my ideas may sound incredibly pedantic to some but they are anything but. It’s very simple. Quit looking. And I have done this myself and I’ll tell you how it works.

At one point, there was a man in my environment who was tempting the living shit out of me. It was like you describe… it is always like you describe because guess what? This happens all the time. People are attracted to each other in life. It’s not special, but anyway I was somewhat committed and here comes and goes and comes and goes this guy who just looks TASTY. And I was bugged out just like you. And I sought counsel, just like you.

“I really don’t wanna…” I said.

I wondered if I should confront the situation. We were always looking at each other so how about I get this out in the open?

I was wisely advised if I did not want something to happen this would be the worst thing I could do. Telling myself I would be trying to resolve it, I would actually be escalating the thing, see.

Long story short, I did as my friend advised. I quit exchanging glances. I simply didn’t look at him any more and I am pretty sure I did us both a favor. Because that guy and I were enthralled with one another for months. And had it been “right”, there would never have been the delay or the struggle.

I bet you anything he is as relieved as I am that I let the thing pass.

Good luck.

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Update - The soldier signed on my blog last night with his friends. He watched the video below and got himself stunned. Stunned like a Taurus, a bull hit in the head with a frying pan and it’s easy to see why.

He has not heard anyone talk about his life like this before, plus it’s me. It apparently blew his gaskets. He could not touch me, this bothered him and he said he now knows what it feels like to be Joe DiMaggio when Marilyn Monroe gets her dress blown up over the vent. Not good!

Anyway, his friends are old friends and they know his ex-wife so strange for everyone involved I would say, to hear me talking about this on some kind of little TV. Life is odd. What a way for things to come back to you. He is reeling today (but happy) and plans to avoid reading my blog in the future except and unless he feels like being hit by a brick.

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I think this is my best video yet. Virgo and Pisces. These signs are inexplicably linked whether you like it or not.

Dear Elsa,

What happens to people, karmically, if they cheat on their husbands or wives? I know a woman with whom I work with, and she has 2 kids and she cheats on her husband with multiple men and he has no idea. Like, is there anything karmically that comes around to people?

She justifies this because she feels her husband is apathetic towards her. She does it, I think, like a drug addict. She likes the chase, the catch and then the conquer. Okay so I have a confession. I know all her secrets because I was checking her email and I can see the men she emails. She plays the victim, like “oh poor me I work so hard, my husband doesn’t think I’m sexy.” But, I can see emails from him to her saying hello beautiful, gorgeous, blah blah blah. Anyways, whatever. But it pisses me off.

She is sleeping with the president of my company, and she has also slept with other men who work in it, too. It’s just SO slimy! And she won’t leave her husband. She was also sleeping with another man in the company, but then when the President hit on her, she dumped the sales guy & went for him.

She has her same story that she tells these men. She tells them she is married and her husband doesn’t pay attention to her. Two of these men, the sales guy & the president LEFT THEIR WIVES FOR HER, and then she goes, no, I’m going to give it one more shot with my husband. She blames it on her strict religion (she is from Iran) and says she doesn’t want to break up her family. So she just goes around playing these men & they fall for it.

Anyway, I guess I just needed to vent. This woman is 36 and she is acting like this. I guess she is unhappy inside & sleeps with these men for a feeling of power, or I don’t know. It just bugs me, it’s slimy.

Are there repercussions karmically for stuff like that? Or it is just her own battle, we all have our inner battles, and this isn’t any worse than being an alcoholic or cheating on your taxes?

Office Snooper
United States

The writer is a 27 year old woman. Click to see the chart full size

So what do you think? Is there karmic retribution for cheating?

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