There is a good discussion on the Saturn In Virgo Chatting Much? blog. Seems there are others struggling or communicate or just plain talking less. Randamandar asked about the feedback on this blog being affected. This is his/her second comment:

“Has the volume of feedback increased? Does this ebb and flow as a result of retrograde planets or planets moving into different signs.”

Continue reading Saturn In Virgo And The Rate Of Comments / Feedback On This Blog + Challenge, Mars And Depression

I got my son a 2000 piece puzzle for Christmas with the intention of putting it together with him. It was a metaphor for our lives at the time which were both in pieces in response to my daughter’s crisis.

We started working on the puzzle and I started writing about it here:

2000 Piece Puzzle

Continue reading Sun Conjunct Saturn @ 8 Years Old - 2000 Piece Puzzle - Oh My But We’re Hapless: A Saturn Parable

Dear Mother,

I hate to say it but I think you are up a creek. It is obvious from your post you place high value on your hotness and your sex. With your Sun in Aries and ruler Mars in Scorpio, this is confirmed in your chart so there is nothing you are going to be able to do about that.

Now you have a Libra Moon so a strong desire to be partnered and with the Sun and Moon in Cardinal signs you also want control. Saturn’s in there so that goes double.. er… triple.

Jupiter in Cancer (more control) wants a family and security however that Aries Sun of yours likes the thrill of the chase the Sagittarius provides. If you get him to commit… submit and conform to what you want, what do you think will happen to the sex you are having? Think it would change?

You also have an Aquarius rising which wants no man issuing orders and a seventh house Uranus confirms this and I hope you are getting an idea here. You are a bundle of conflicting drive and desires so what are you going to do?

If you dump the Sadge and get a more docile man, will you like him, or kill him? Good question I think.

I don’t know what you are going to do but I would try real hard to get over the fact you are 41. Women who are hot are 41 are hot at 51 and even 61 if they still give a damn to be, past menopause. Don’t let your fears drive your decisions.

Secondly get conscious of your own need for challenge and freedom because if you dump this guy denying these things, ooh baby, the boredom.

I am not meaning to plead his case. I am just saying you may be more like him than you care to admit.

Good luck.

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Dear Aries,

I hate to tell you this but I think he is still carrying a torch. Not to say he doesn’t love you. With Venus in Gemini (two loves) conjunct Saturn, I would say this is most likely the case and go on to say if he was with her, he would miss you and vice versa. In other words this guy is not likely to be all that satisfied regardless and there is another wrinkle.

His Venus Saturn conjunction is in aspect to Uranus so he constantly wants free of all this anyway. He wants space so let’s see how he gets it: first, he falls in love with a married woman and now he uses her to maintain space in his relationship with you. Are you getting this? I hope so.

On your end, you have a stellium in Aries so you’re going to like the fight. You naturally rise to the challenge to best this woman, that is. But unfortunately you also have Venus in Capricorn, etc which shows that underlying all this is a deep fear you don’t deserve any better.

I imagine you fear you are not worthy of a man who would love you and only you and this is the part that needs the work. Because as is, you are settling… when in your own words, you state that you will never be happy settling.

Good luck.

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The soldier and I were discussing something and I asked, “Why?”

“Well I’m a man, P. A man who has not been feminized,” he said.

“I know and I like it. And obviously these gay boys like it as well because they sure chase you. You realize this didn’t just start. You’re just becoming aware of it but I’m sure gay men have been sniffing around you all your life.”

“Now why is that? Why would that be? Why me?”

“Well gay men like men. They lovvvvve men the same way I love men. This is very easy to understand. It is easy for me to see what drives a gay man because it’s the same thing that drives me. We want a man!”

“Yeah but don’t women want a man?”

“No, not so much. Some of them do but most of them don’t, at least this is how it appears to me.”

“Women don’t want a man? Well what do they want then?” he asked.

“A lot of them want a wallet,” I said with a snort. “Yeah. They don’t want a man. They get one because that’s what comes with the wallet unfortunately. Damn. What a bother. They want to shop and to hell with the man. And there are other scenarios. For example a lot of women want a baby not a man. They want someone they can mother or boss around. Or some of them just want sperm so they can make a baby. There are all kinds of things women want but I’d say it’s a minority of women who actually want a man, a man they can’t control and run his life. Because if they did want a man, why would they take all these steps to emasculate a man when they get one which you constantly see?

“Women do go out of their way to emasculate men,” he said. “I see that over and over. Why do they do that?”

“I don’t know. I think its insanity because if you actually want a man it’s the quickest way in the world to get rid of one. But never mind that. What do we care? You’re a man; I want a man so we’re in business. And the gay boys? Well they want a man too. And you better believe they recognize one so you are always going to attract them in droves. There’s just no way you’re going to go out there and be overlooked by gay men, and women? Well you’re pretty much fantasy material, I’d say. Not that many women want to deal with a man like you in actuality. You are just too challenging day to day but don’t feel bad. No one wants to deal with me either… for the same reason,” I said with a snort. “But I like us. We’re both constant trouble and fun.”