Do you have an emphasis on the Cardinal signs? Think you can control others? Har! Best think again. (from 2007)

I consider myself inordinately adaptable to whatever the conditions and this allows me to have a pretty good quality of life. But what if you don’t have this skill? What if happiness is elusive? What if it is contingent upon some special circumstance or on the chance that the stars line up just so?

“I will bloom if and only if, blah, blah, blah happens…”

I think a lot of people are like this. Maybe half? A quarter? Three quarters? I’m wondering, so I’m asking.

And are you predominately a Fixed sign (Leo, Aquarius, Taurus, Scorpio)? Mutable (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Pisces)? Or Cardinal (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn)?

Diana asks on Eat, Drink, Breathe, Control:

“Elsa, do you think there are some people who enjoy being controlled? Or they enjoy the attempt of someone trying to control them?”

Diana, of course there are people who like to be controlled - what about the whole bdsm community? This is another hall of mirrors as far as I am concerned. Control is an illusion but I would think that - I’m a Saturn Neptune!

Bottom line, anyone who has an emphasis on Cardinal energy in their chart is going to deal with issues of control but this does not assume some sort of pathology. In fact I hate that. It’s energy and energy is neutral until directed. Further, every gift is a curse (in equal proportion as far as I am concerned) so the idea a person is this or that a way and it is automatically deemed pathological irks me to no end. But to answer your question: Yes.

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The Moon is in Aries and Mars in Libra. Jupiter is in Capricorn and over the next few weeks, Mercury and Venus will also slip into Libra.. The Sun in Virgo will conjunct Saturn and let me translate that for you - CONTROL.

There is tremendous focus on Cardinal energy shaping up and Virgo is going to be a driving force as mentioned, One Hell Of A Year. For now it sounds like this… the soldier when he got home from work yesterday:

“I like that combination of clothes,” he said. I was wearing shorts and a tank top and he almost never remarks on my wardrobe. “Yeah I like it, don’t leave the house in it.”

I stared.

“I saw you mowed the grass in the front. Probably wore what you’re wearing to do it. Don’t do that again either.”

I smirked. No need to answer this, he knows I’ll do whatever I want and I know he is complimenting me but you get the idea. The impulse is there. People are bossy and we are going to see more of this, much more of it come September.

Speaking of dumping, last night I was pitching my usual bitch about how the soldier left me and married someone else he’d known for of 2 weeks! If you wonder why this keeps coming up, it’s because it keeps coming up.

For example those pictures. There we are and a blink later, there he is married with child. It’s whiplash, there is just no other word for it far as I am concerned but he has a different view or in this case - song. According to him this is what happened. “I was just like poor ol’ Ray,” he said.

He’s right of course. He is right and I’m right too but anyway, it’s a good song with good astrology. Bossy commitment-phobia anyone?

Over the last couple days there have been a slew of comments that characterize Virgos as controlling. I don’t get this at all. I consider the Cardinal signs to be the control freaks of the zodiac without question.

Now don’t get pissed off at me, I have both Capricorn and Libra prominent and it takes one to know but for the people who think Virgos are controlling - Please ’splain to Lucy.

In my mind, Virgos communicate what is wrong with you and then go off to do their other work. Um…

Who is the control freak King (or Queen) of the zodiac?

The soldier and I were sitting on the couch and here comes Vidroid (with his ultra-Cardinal, bossy energy).

“Okay, I want to see a fight,” he said. “I want to see how mean you are,” he said pointing to me. “And I how loud you are,” he said, pointing at the to the soldier. “Now, ACTION!”

We both looked at him dumbly. Apparently this was his response to be told the other night, who was loud and who was mean.

“Sorry, babe but we are not puppets who fight on demand,” I said.

“Dang!” he said. “I want to see this.”

The Moon heads towards conjunction with Pluto so the people who got hit hard with last week’s grand cross get hit again but it’s much milder. In other words if you survived last week you’ll have little problem today. In fact I’d say it would be more like an opportunity to emotionally process what went on last week.

This is in your best interest of you people with planets in the early degrees of the Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn) because more is on the way and it’s sort of like not falling behind in your work.

See, Pluto is taking you down in increments so just imagine being in a well and having a chance to acclimate your eyes so you can see where you are at and parse the situation. Do it now because you are going deeper.

Dear Cappie,

Let me translate this for you.

Damn those Scorpios and Tauri. Why the hell won’t they do what I think they should? Why do they stay in their angry and unhealthy state when I… a Capricorn, have no rage at all? Why don’t they accept my judgment of them and live as I think they ought to, hmm? Why is that, Elsa? Why won’t these sons of a bitches allow me to control them???

Look. You are primarily Cardinal by sign and by house and my advice is you forget all about other people’s horns and stingers and take a look at how you tend to judge and then direct others… because guess what? You’re not their boss and not only that, you’ll be so much happier.

Good luck.

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Dear Taurus,

You are probably right about the premature ejaculation but I can’t see where it matters. Fact is, you can’t force anybody to do anything and attempting to is a fruitless pursuit - and I’ll prove it to you.

What if you get this guy to say, “You’re right! I do have this premature ejaculation problem. I am plagued with it!” What do you think the result of that would be… do you think he would call you more often? Want to see you more often? ::shakes head:: No. Matter of fact - if you win, you lose! Because he’ll feel like crap! People have their defenses up for a reason. It’s because they need them.

For example, you have a stellium in Aries, which is a Cardinal sign. All the Cardinal signs are into control, which is essentially what you are trying to do with this man. You also have Saturn (oppression, judgment, control) in Scorpio and you especially want control of this man but it will never work.

If you get him to admit this, what will you want him to admit next? Can’t you find a more worthwhile project? Try to control your own desire to control, because this other way is going to get you nowhere.

Good luck.

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