Do you have an emphasis on the Cardinal signs? Think you can control others? This goat says, best think again.

Over the last couple days there have been a slew of comments that characterize Virgos as controlling. I don’t get this at all. I consider the Cardinal signs to be the control freaks of the zodiac without question.

Now don’t get pissed off at me, I have both Capricorn and Libra prominent and it takes one to know but for the people who think Virgos are controlling - Please ’splain to Lucy.

In my mind, Virgos communicate what is wrong with you and then go off to do their other work. Um…

Who is the control freak King (or Queen) of the zodiac?

The soldier and I were sitting on the couch and here comes Vidroid (with his ultra-Cardinal, bossy energy).

“Okay, I want to see a fight,” he said. “I want to see how mean you are,” he said pointing to me. “And I how loud you are,” he said, pointing at the to the soldier. “Now, ACTION!”

We both looked at him dumbly. Apparently this was his response to be told the other night, who was loud and who was mean.

“Sorry, babe but we are not puppets who fight on demand,” I said.

“Dang!” he said. “I want to see this.”

The Moon heads towards conjunction with Pluto so the people who got hit hard with last week’s grand cross get hit again but it’s much milder. In other words if you survived last week you’ll have little problem today. In fact I’d say it would be more like an opportunity to emotionally process what went on last week.

This is in your best interest of you people with planets in the early degrees of the Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn) because more is on the way and it’s sort of like not falling behind in your work.

See, Pluto is taking you down in increments so just imagine being in a well and having a chance to acclimate your eyes so you can see where you are at and parse the situation. Do it now because you are going deeper.

Dear Cappie,

Let me translate this for you.

Damn those Scorpios and Tauri. Why the hell won’t they do what I think they should? Why do they stay in their angry and unhealthy state when I… a Capricorn, have no rage at all? Why don’t they accept my judgment of them and live as I think they ought to, hmm? Why is that, Elsa? Why won’t these sons of a bitches allow me to control them???

Look. You are primarily Cardinal by sign and by house and my advice is you forget all about other people’s horns and stingers and take a look at how you tend to judge and then direct others… because guess what? You’re not their boss and not only that, you’ll be so much happier.

Good luck.

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Dear Taurus,

You are probably right about the premature ejaculation but I can’t see where it matters. Fact is, you can’t force anybody to do anything and attempting to is a fruitless pursuit - and I’ll prove it to you.

What if you get this guy to say, “You’re right! I do have this premature ejaculation problem. I am plagued with it!” What do you think the result of that would be… do you think he would call you more often? Want to see you more often? ::shakes head:: No. Matter of fact - if you win, you lose! Because he’ll feel like crap! People have their defenses up for a reason. It’s because they need them.

For example, you have a stellium in Aries, which is a Cardinal sign. All the Cardinal signs are into control, which is essentially what you are trying to do with this man. You also have Saturn (oppression, judgment, control) in Scorpio and you especially want control of this man but it will never work.

If you get him to admit this, what will you want him to admit next? Can’t you find a more worthwhile project? Try to control your own desire to control, because this other way is going to get you nowhere.

Good luck.

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Dear Girlfriend,

I read your post at least ten times over the course of several days, hoping it would make sense - but I’ve had no luck. So how about I ask you some questions and maybe we’ll both get some clarity.

What is the reason you want this guy who devastated you? Is it your terrific history? What terrific history?

Can you possibly be this powerless? How? How do you manage this with 7 planets in Cardinal signs?

And last, how can you even consider “working’ on a relationship that does not exist?

Now I think it’s a challenge to keep a relationship together when you’ve got all kinds of things going for you. Things like fun and love, chemistry and sexual compatibility. There are plenty of couples who have these type of connections and they still struggle to be together. So it is beyond me how in the world you think you are going to be able to form and maintain a bond with someone who by deed is showing you he does not want you around. I mean, the guy is not answering your calls. He’s ignoring you. Have you no pride?

I see the Aries in your chart… I see Saturn and perhaps you want a difficult challenge and that’s fine. But how about you pick a challenge that will afford you a prize worth having? And does this guy sound like that? Not to me.

I say cut the rope with this guy and find another way to be a hero. Because I think when you get right down to it, this is what you actually want - which makes this guy irrelevant.

Good luck.
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“What was the name of that place you took me to, anyway? It was out in the desert,” he said. “It was somewhere out there. It was some old mafia place?” he asked. “A mafia hideout or something?”

“Rancho Diablo. I took you to the Devil Ranch. How’s that for a Catholic girl? Hey! Let’s go to the Devil Ranch. Let’s go to the No-Tel Motel! Let’s go to the Biker Bar and while we’re at it, I want you to take me to this other place, even though I’m not supposed to be there. And if you get caught, you’ll go to federal prison but never mind that. Take me out there anyway, because I want to go! Jeez man. That’s some Catholic girl you’ve got!” Continue reading The Soldier and P - 20: Rancho Diablo and the Biker Bar - Cardinal Grand Cross in Synastry and The Fortress Effect

Dear Fiance,

I don’t think your request is necessarily unreasonable but I also don’t think it’s wise. And I’ll explain but before I do, I want to say I’m not sure my opinion should matter. Because fact is, this is your boundary and a person’s boundaries ought to be respected. So you’ve drawn this line and all I can advise is you might re-think it… in light of how things are going, and also because this is driving you crazy.

So considering that, you might ask yourself why you don’t want this woman in your house. Because she is not just “the ex-wife”. She your fiance’s children’s mother and she will never be anything less. And fact is, children do frequently invite the other parent into their home. Because from the kid’s perspective, they are living two places! And it’s not that they are trying to cause a problem. For example, sometimes they have something they are proud of at one house, and they want to share with the other parent. So what if you prevent this?

Well just think about it. Everyone has follow the rules. Your rules! Everyone has to conform to your standard, less you’re going to be pissed. Do you really want to come across this way? To be seen like this?

Before you answer, ask yourself what benefit you derive. Do you get your fiancÆ’

Back when I was pregnant, I had this gal cleaning my teeth. She was about my age, maybe a little older and she chatted as she worked.

Having finished the horrible scraping part of the procedure, it was time to polish. She said she had several flavors of polish and since pregnant women are sometimes queasy, she was going to allow me to choose the flavor.

“You can have pina colada, cherry or mint,” she said.

I thanked her and I picked cherry, feeling kind of puffed up because of my special (pregnant) status.

“You don’t let people pick unless they’re pregnant?” I asked.

“Right. I pick. I get to pick.”

I smiled, because I thought she sounded like a four-year old. “Okay,” I said.

She finished my teeth. I left with my mouth full of cherry.

The next time I was in, I was no longer pregnant. She finished scraping and was ready to polish.

“I am not pregnant, so you are going to pick the flavor?”

“That’s right.” she said.

“Pick something I like, okay?” I said with a chuckle. “Can you do that?” I felt a little flustered. Like I lost my privileges, or something.

“I may,” she said, making sure I knew who in control.

“Well I hope you do,” I said. I could hardly believing this was happening.

“If you’re lucky.”

Well I am lucky. I am not that sensitive and don’t really care what flavor is in my mouth, but I did think this was bizarre. Your mouth becomes infused with the taste and it seems if there is a choice, the owner of the mouth should make it! But only if you’re pregnant!

So if you’re a man, you’d be wholly screwed apparently. Always! But anyway I didn’t protest because I didn’t care which flavor and this was interesting for me to observe. People and their quirks.

But eventually it did bother me I switched dentists over this. I just didn’t want this matronly-looking dominatrix dental hygienist making these life decisions for me. But what would you have done in this circumstance?

And what about the astrology?

I figure this gal was a Cancer. She was worried about a pregnant woman… dressed like a “Mom” and wanted control.

Having a Capricorn rising, I like to run my own body so there you go. Conflict arises. A

So what about you? If this would trouble you, are you strongly Cardinal (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn)?