Dear Capricorn,

It is common to see age difference in couples who have strong Cancer or Capricorn in their chart. Same thing when there are a lot of planets in the fourth and/or tenth houses as these signs and house represent the parental axis and people with a focus there have parent/child themes in their relationships across the board. So I would talk this relationship serious if only it were an actual relationship - but it’s not.

This man is partnered with somebody else… period. There is no indication he had any romantic interest in you whatsoever so I have to conclude you are having a pure fantasy here which is also shown in your chart as you are a Virgo rising which means delusion… er, Pisces rules the seventh - the partner.

Now I am sorry if this is harsh but there are other things that pop out in your note. For example you say he is with another girl but you are not a girl. You are almost 50 years old and this is not a “girl” in my book.

I am glad you wrote, glad you are concerned about embarrassing yourself and I would urge you to let go of the notion you “love” this man unless of course you would like to pine. But yeah. Think hard before you say anything to him because if you do he is liable to be embarrassed, somewhat creeped out and he will almost definitely run for the hills.

I say recognize this as a fantasy and start looking for a new situation.

Good luck.

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To catch you up on the cancer scare saga, the soldier had his biopsy today with the grand cross in the sky and it went pretty well considering no one wants anyone cutting into their face.

I paced the waiting room while he was in there and picked up a People magazine featuring a story on Patrick Swayze’s cancer. They have a series of pictures of him with his wife of 30 years, Lisa Niemi that were taken over the years. They met when they were teenagers and they are so obviously happy and in love to this day.

The soldier has told me many times he thinks had we married when we were young, we’d have made it. He thinks we would have figured it out. I have never been convinced until I saw those pictures today. You think all people do ugly things to each other, that it is part of growing up but really they don’t. The soldier and I have never done anything ugly to each other and I can’t believe we are ever going to.

He came out after surgery and said the oral surgeon (different from the surgeon who did the consult) said he really doubted what he cut out was cancer so we left their feeling… well, we just left there that’s all. Does not look like this is our road. Thank you, God.

I was only back in the waiting room a minute or so when the nurse popped her head out, “He wants you to come back.”

“He does?” I was surprised.

“Yeah. I asked him if he wanted you there and he said yes.”

“Okay.” I followed her back with three words on my mind, WTF.

“He told me you went to the restroom,” she said over her shoulder. “I’ve been looking for you.” We rounded the corner and she pointed at an office with an open door. “In here,” she said. She was cheery so I figured it must be okay.
Continue reading Astrology, Love And Facing The Possibility Of A Cancer Diagnosis: The Doctor

Finished with that phase we went back out to the waiting room to wait to be called to see the doctor. I tried not to think about Sadisimal John but it was hopeless.

Sadisimal John was a rich guy I dated during one of my break-ups with the soldier. His father was an oral surgeon and I don’t know what else but this family had gobs of money. It was a family of four where both children were adults, but they had 3 maids and I could never figure out why.

Continue reading Astrology, Love And Facing The Possibility Of A Cancer Diagnosis: The Waiting Room

The nurse called for the soldier and I went in the office with him but not without having asked him earlier what he preferred. I figured he might be getting told he had cancer at any minute and I just didn’t want to do anything wrong in this sort of circumstance. Do you want to be alone when they tell you that you have cancer? Who knows? We hadn’t talked about it very much. He only had a few days notice, we’d been very busy since and besides that there is not that much to say.

Continue reading Astrology, Love And Facing The Possibility Of A Cancer Diagnosis: The Nurse

I really wouldn’t mind motivating people to solve their love and relationship problems and some of my experiences last week were so powerful I think they relaying them might have this effect. I am sorry for the serious mood, but I think it’s the current climate. Pluto in Capricorn for starters, but anyway I want to talk about cancer.

Continue reading Astrology, Love And Facing The Possibility Of A Cancer Diagnosis: The Set Up

Someone or a few someones said no one ever says anything good about Cancer, so here goes:

First, cooking is power. I can cook, by God. That means I can eat anything I am in the mood for and I don’t have to rely on anyone and yet you call Cancer “dependent”. What about all you people sitting around waiting (hoping) to be cooked for, hmm…?

Never mind, Cancer rules babies. What is a bigger deal than a baby, huh? Your sex life? Your friends? The dream you had last night? BABIES, people. BAY-BEEs are pretty damned hard to beat.

And what about your mother? Still laboring under the misconception she has nothing to do with you? You came out her body for Godsakes, so give me a break! You can’t hate Cancer, you can only be a fool.

“If the Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy,” and don’t you forget it!

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Dear Friend,

It sounds as if you like this girl, so I would recommend you familiarize yourself with Cancers. For example, they are moody. And they don’t have two or three moods either. They have 12 moods and there is nothing anyone can do to stop or change this… take it from a Capricorn who’s tried!

Cancer is associated with the Crab, which withdraws into a shell at times by its nature. And nothing and no one is going to be able to stop a crab from doing this however if you will respect a crab’s way of being in the world, you should have no problems

Now more personal to your situation, it sounds like your friend likes you during most of her moods (which can be tracked by the Moon by the way… a mood change every 2.5 days), so you’re in pretty good shape here as far as maintaining a relationship with her. You only need not take it personally when she retreats, because she’s going to do it no matter what. Just think of a beaver or a polar bear. It goes in the water, it comes out of the water, it goes in the water and it comes out of the water.

You will never cure this kind of animal into living on land (or in the water) full time, nor should you try.

Good luck.
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