I am going to see my daughter today and when I glanced at the chart of time of the meeting it struck me what a serious day this is. It’s Jupiter in Capricorn with the Moon heading to full in the sign tomorrow and the Mars Saturn conjunction that tells this story.

The opposition of Moon Jupiter in Capricorn to the Sun in Cancer indicates we are talking about relationships here rather than something you are experiencing or enjoying (more likely enduring) alone.

Personally, I have significant emphasis on the late degrees of the Cardinal signs and I find myself very defended at the moment. I’ve just got my boundaries up like some sort of fortress. Even the people closest to me are not close to me at the moment and I can’t say much besides it’s the way that I want it.

Not that this will last. My boundaries will dissolve (Saturn Neptune), they always do but right now safety seems to trump everything and I don’t think I am the only one.

I see others out there acting with caution. I’d even call it extreme caution and I don’t really blame them. “Better safe than sorry” seems to be the words of the day. Thank God this is only transitory (for most) because it’s a hell of a way to live.

How are you feeling today?

Michele writes on Be Careful What You Flush:

“I am thinking it is kind of a thing with Society right now… If this happens, you’re out the door. If that happens, you’re history. There’s tons more where you came from. Umm, I guess I mean a lot less patience, understanding, forgiveness… I’m not sure I’m making a judgment, just an observation.”

Michele - I agree. These are attempts to make boundaries and have some control and I guess my assertion is that people put their boundaries in some pretty weird places for some pretty weird reasons that cost them friends and lovers.

Boundaries are a Capricorn thing and with Pluto’s transit through Capricorn one of the things to be addressed is the shadow side of your boundary.

What is the psychological (probably subconscious) reason that you fire or reject people?  Now would be the time to discover this so you don’t drive your life right into the abyss.

For example, it’s common people reject others because they fear being rejected themselves which sets up a wicked, wicked cycle. This alone is enough to devastate a life so you can see how important this is.

Paul, a regretful control freak tells a story on Henry...

The soldier called within 5 minutes to ask me if I wanted to come out and wait in the truck wash line as it can take hours to get your truck washed. He was trying to peace-make which I appreciated but I saw no sense going out there when I could not return the gesture. It seemed a better idea I maintain the space because I was working on a deep level that was productive for me.

I was thinking about what I had written on my blog about going down in a well. I was thinking how good I am at this. I have spent my whole like in a well and I was thinking I ought to go on my blog and tell people how this is best done because I do know.

Continue reading Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra (With Mars Involved): Boundaries, Patience And Energy Focused Somewhere Productive

Dina quotes me on the Pisces Hook blog:

“Really? That’s surprising to me about you since you definitely tell it like it is to a lot of people who need help, lance the boil so to speak. Particularly hooked Pisceans who are kidding themselves! How does this play out in your astrology, if I may ask? Your Neptune has something to do with it, I suppose.”

Dina - I don’t think it has anything to do with Neptune. It has to do with boundaries. People ask me what I think and I tell them. I would never bother someone with my ideas or confront their denial otherwise. It is really none of my business what people do and if you read this blog it’s pretty clear I am focused on my own life and growth. I just don’t worry about what other people are doing right up until the hire me that is.

Hire me and I am on it but other than that I have waaaay too much respect for people to think that I know when they should face something. As far as I am concerned everyone has an inner clock. They have their own timing and their own agenda for their life which I am not even going to think about messing with, know why?

Because I am busy running my life of course.

I made a video about all this controversy but for some reason my camera is not recording sound so arrrrrrrgh.

But I wanted to start a (fast… yeah right, dream on) series on Saturn in Virgo because I am getting inundated at the moment with events and scenarios that reek of it.

For example, someone wrote me yesterday to tell me to write something on each of the sun signs, and make them available to her by adding a tab at the top of my blog. Say what? Who is this stranger who believes she can boss my writing?

The current controversy on my blog is also interesting. Who should define (Saturn) what is helpful (Virgo)?

So who should define what is helpful?

I was talking to the soldier:

“Well I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to say anything about that because it’s not my business,” I said. “I try to stay out of other people’s business completely. I’d don’t like pissing people off by telling them what I think about things that are none of my business in the first place.”

“Bothering me? You don’t bother me. I want you in my business. I’m want you to figure out some of the stuff I don’t have time to figure it out myself. In fact I’m relying on you. So you stop this staying out of my business! Do you hear me? Come on, P. Get in my business and get it in now because that’s exactly what I want.”

When I was young I was a textbook Capricorn control freak but I have very strong boundaries now that rarely fail and if you want me in your business you have to dismantle them like this. I have to be invited or asked directly for input or energy. Otherwise?

Otherwise, nothing.

What about you?

Dear Guilty,

Guilty for what? You didn’t do anything wrong. Basically what you have here is a boundary issue. She lacks boundaries and so do you. You can’t do a damned thing about hers but you can put your own right and this is what I suggest you do.

Start with this reality check: someone issues and invitation and someone else turns it down for any reason whatsoever. This is not a cue for the person who issued the invitation to jump down the other person’s throat. As a matter of fact, the idea of behaving that way is obscene! But let’s just say it happens. And let’s say it happens to you. At that point, the ball is in your court.

So what are you going to do? Go crazy about it? Why? The fact is, her behavior has nothing to do with yours. You don’t need to react to this at all and here’s a story to illustrate what I mean:

When my daughter was in fourth grade, she has a somewhat psycho teacher. The teacher was an Aries with a reputation for having a temper for making various bizarre threats against the kids. She told them if they did not turn in their homework, they had to give her a dollar…or else! Or else she would chop a finger off or something, I don’t know. Some of the kids were scared.

But I met this gal and she was a very dedicated and effective teacher. It was clear to me although her methods were unconventional, my daughter’s interests were her profound priority. And I didn’t think she was going to cut off my kid’s finger, so rather than pull my hair out like some of the other parents I knew, I handled the situation by telling my daughter her teacher was insane. Like this:

“Yeah, well she definitely has a screw loose. And she’s very loud. But, oh well. You can see she really wants you to learn. She’s just got some quirks. And maybe she’s a volcano, but so? Lots of people are crazy. You have to learn to live among them, and at least she isn’t boring. If you want me to go talk to her, I will. But I think you’d do much better to just try to understand her and adjust. You’re smart enough to figure her out and when you do that, I bet you have no problem at all.”

And this is what happened. My daughter quit reacting and got a fix on this teacher. She started calling her “Wild Fire Meyer”…to her face and became the teacher’s pet because of it.

So think about it. If a 9 year old can choose how they react to stimulus, surely a woman in her thirties can do the same. And on that, ‘fake it, till you make it”. It goes something like this:

Brinnnnnng! Briiiiiiinnnnnng!

“Sorry, I can’t come to your party.” (You don’t need to say why)

“What? Well you horrible bitch! You bitch on wheels. How could you do that to me?”

“Huh? Well, I have no choice. Sorry you’re hurt. I sure didn’t mean to hurt you, but I’m very busy and I have to run.”

*Click.

And after that? Nothing. Just go on with your day. If this woman wants to call you again she will. If you want to call her, you will and if not? If not, there will be a void which the universe will fill in short order. And the point is, just because someone acts crazy does not mean you need follow suit.

Good luck.

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