“Well you can tell a lot via body language,” I said to a Pisces pal. “For example, when people smoke?”

“Yeah?”

“Well if they blow their smoke up… you know, in an upstream, that shows they are feeling good and positive about what you are saying to them. But if they turn their head and blow it down… not feeling so good.”

“I blow my smoke up,” she said.

“Good. So that means you are generally upbeat and feeling good. But can you imagine? What if you were on a lousy date? You know. You’re sitting there and he’s boring you. Do you think you might blow your smoke down.”

‘Yeah, I probably would.”

“Okay, so there you go. So you can tell what someone is thinking and feeling but you can also tell what you are thinking and feeling and I think you should pay attention to this. Because I think you are frequently having a bad time and don’t know it.”

“You do?”

“Yes. You are too nice. You’re nice! You’re socialized this way. I am forever seeing you hanging out with people who don’t do a thing for you. You say you had a good time when it seems pretty clear to me you had an awful time and don’t like the person at all.” I laughed. “Very different from me who knows I am on the date from hell from the first second, no denial. So if you would like to know if you are miserable or not, you could pay attention to this. And if you’re sitting there and notice you’re blowing your smoke down, this could be a clue for you. Hey! Maybe I don’t like this person and I should just get out of here!”

We both laughed.

Do you read body language?

From my coffee date. He’s a Libra (polite) with a Pisces Moon (intuitive). His mother is a shrink. That’s his word, not mine.

“Yeah, I’ve been watching you for awhile. And one day I was standing with this other guy and you were walking… you were headed for the locker room and you were walking all straight, with your head up.” He straitened out his posture. I listened.

“But then you saw us. And as soon as you did, your body language changed. You closed in like this,” he said, rounding his shoulder to his center. Continue reading Body Language: Watching People Be Themselves