The graphic is from today’s Post Secret blog. It caught my eye as it is brilliant illustration of what I mean to be talking about around here and I’ll explain.

First we have, Kate, an intellectual woman who cannot get a man. Kate blames everyone under the Sun for her plight. Kate can’t get a date because men are stupid and oh yeah… so are women, especially if they are Mexican.

Now contrast that to the gal who sent this card. Who do you think it most likely to solve their dilemma.  The gal waving the weapon or the gal who admits to her fears and insecurities?  I’d say the second gal is halfway home and here is the astrology:

The intellect is associated with the air element and while you can certainly nurture a person’s mind it does not speak to these deeper (primal) drives and needs that all people have.  I think that Pluto in Capricorn is going to make people far more aware of this and it explains why the highly educated man or woman gravitates towards someone like me as a consulting astrologer.

The plea is this: “Get me out of my head before it’s too late.”

So who thinks what, hmm?

Part one…

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I have always been suspect of the theory that like attracts like. I do not deny this phenomenon exists but if it is to be a rule then it should work every time - It should pass every test which it does not.

I have used the example of the heart surgeon who attracts people with bad hearts of the hairdresser who see more then her share of people with bad haircuts to illustrate my idea that people hook up for many reasons, not just because they are like. In fact they frequently come together because they are not alike and this blog is perfect example.

Now I am not an intellectual. I just aren’t although I attract them. For example roughly 30% of my clients are sporting a PhD in something and that has got to mean something.

Continue reading Blows the Attraction Theory All to Hell

Pluto, Scorpio and the 8th house… projecting your shadow, a real life example.

Elsa Blog about Kate - Cock-Blocking Women - Is This A Trend?

Kate’s article with comments: “What Modern Women Want: A Beta Male”

Alma writes on Is Dating The Same Sign Over and Over Healthy Or A Form Of Repetition Compulsion?

“Do you think that we draw people who have the same sort of energy or issues we have. For instance, I’m not completely fulfilled in my job, and I always date men who are still struggling to find themselves career-wise. Will I only attract someone with a particular trait until I possess that trait myself?”

Alma, you hear this all the time and but I am not convinced this is a hard and fast rule. I think it is far more complicated (and will come back with a video) but this whole idea of “attraction” is huge so I wonder what others think.

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Is there someone for everyone? I think so. Tips on finding your ideal love…

I have this “imprint” thing on my mind so I am pulling up this old blog for the newcomers so we can get back on this subject…

With Pluto currently transiting my Moon, I am very interested in what is innate or organic in me… and others. And my sister had a theory she shared with me about 20 years ago. She felt we all had a “blueprint” around what we were looking for in relationship. Dark eyes, dark hair, or whatever.

“You’re sitting on a plane with whomever, and your type walks by,” my sister explained. “And you look at him, you can’t help it. It’s the guy you are always going to notice, who is going to notice you…”
Continue reading Who Do You Love? Do You Have an Organic Attraction to a Physical Type? Poll

Avery Says:

Okay, so I was reading just last night (!) about projection, the Shadow, and the 7th house from this lady: Rebeca Eigan

She says that if we’re consistently attracting stuff we don’t like in our partners, what we need to do is to embody those qualities ourselves so we’re not as attracted and attached to them in the Other.

So, let’s say I’m attracted to closet sex addicts and people who can’t commit to lunch, let alone anything long-term. By her logic, I now need to become the unavailable one and I dunno, troll Craigslist for multiple one-night stands so I’ll no longer attract people like that. Elsa, do you agree? I really don’t want to embrace my Shadow to that extent, but honey, my usual MO ain’t working, either.

Continue reading Astrology Q & A: The 7th House And Projection In Relationship: Embracing Your Shadow

How do you get the attention of an Aquarius man? We are just friends with the hope on my side that there will be more. It seems like after some really good conversations, on the phone and via email, I then won’t hear from him for awhile. How can I tell if he is interested in being more than friends?

How do you hook an Aquarian?

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Charlotte writes on How To Attract A Satisfying Love Relationship - Venus!

“I really wish it were that easy.”

Charlotte - I don’t know that it’s simple, but I know if you put your resume out there you’re going to find someone who is looking for a resume. And if you put someone else’s resume out there, that’s even worse. It seems to me you have to put your SELF out there, take a chance.

Jerry Riopelle writes:

“Check my hat and cane
Check out the way I dance
But don’t you walk my way,
‘less you’re gonna take a chance…”

You have to take a leap of faith if you are ever to find someone who will love you like a human being. As long as you are trying to craft a persona, create a fa§ade, or copy someone else or become an ideal… well this is just not attractive beyond the superficial. Continue reading How To Attract A Satisfying Love Relationship - Is It Simple?