It’s occurred to me with Mars (anger) opposing Neptune (fog) like this, people may very well be mad and not know it. Or maybe they do know they are mad but they are not sure who they should be mad and even if they are able to fix on a person, it’s likely the anger will dissipate. Blink and you transcend.

You may also be hiding (Neptune) from someone else’s angry attack (Mars) which of course would piss you off!

I was on the phone with Claire-France and she mentioned the war in Iraq is not being reported at all.

“Mars Neptune,” I said. “What war? Hide the war!”

Are you pissed off today? Describe your anger.

a asks on Do Miserable People Make You Miserable

This might sound like a weird question, but I’m being serious. How does one know if they are one of those “unhappies” or if they are buoyant?

It’s a great question and I am sure some people have no idea. Other do though. I recall on one of the cock-blocking bits I mentioned (girl)friends who when you start dating a man (and spending less time with them / abandoning them to a degree), they methodically take the man out to restore the status quo and several people copped to doing exactly this.

When your friend is happy, are you able to be happy for them even when you are not happy yourself? I suppose that’s the litmus test.
Continue reading Astrology And The Frustrated Mars: Anger, Depression, Resentment, Attacking…

Lynn Hayes of the Astrodynamics blog writes on People Who Hate Me, Guessing Reality:

“I’m just impressed that you find time to go to the gym.”

Thank you, Lynn but for a person like me the gym is non-negotiable. As many know, my sister is also an astrologer,we have both studied since we were pre-teen and she caught on to this Mars of mine, 25 years ago. Her exact words were, “Don’t let that shit back up on you.”
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“I get madder at you than I get at anyone,” the soldier said. This was news to me. “Yeah, I just get mad as hell.”

“Oh really,” I said.  “See, I didn’t know that. You have said many times that I get a lot madder at you than I do other people and it’s true but you never mentioned you had the same experience.”

“Yeah I do.”

“Well come to think of it…” I mentioned a couple scenarios where the soldier had been completely wrecked and raked over the coals by women. “I am surprised that didn’t piss you off beyond measure.”

“Well it did piss me off some,” he said not very convincingly. “But nothing like I the way I get mad at you. You and me - We get going and there is a point where neither of us is going to budge. We’re ready to draw, it’s like the OK Corral.”

I laughed. “Anyone ever square off with you like that?” I asked. “Besides me?”

“No, not in my life.  No, no one ever has.”

“Well good. Someone ought to take you on. Let it be me.”

Do you ever get spectacularly pissed?  Is there a certain person who inspires this and can you see the astrology?

pictured - Tombstone, AZ, home of the Ok Corral.  The soldier and I used to go there and get drunk all the time. Nickel beers bay-bee! Old time photos, dancing girls… Helldorado days…

Avery writes on Extreme Anger And Frustration:

Elsa? As a friend… you guys have a lot of fights. A LOT of fights. I know you were aware that you needed someone who could handle conflict, and that it took a Special Forces-trained warrior to fill that bill, but do you think you can sustain this level of love-battle over time? If so, how does this mesh with your Mars in Libra, which to my understanding, really craves peace?

Not trying to undermine what you’ve got going here (it sounds kind of hot, tell you the truth), just trying to understand.

Continue reading Astrology, Love And Mars: What About Battle Damage?

Once in the room, I plugged in my computer which was extremely unusual. The soldier said he would be two hours messing with his truck and if there were not a fight and a very, VERY bad one, I’d have gone right to him.

Matter of fact in all the time I have known him now or back when, I had never ignored him in this way. And it was not intentional as in “manipulative” because I just don’t play like that. The fact is, I was so intensely pissed off at him I had actually shut down.

I realized I did not want to see him even though I was there. It was sort of like “family”. You may not like them or want to deal with them but you do it anyway because you love them even if you don’t like them however you limit your exposure.

And I don’t know what to say besides my feeling like this in regards to the soldier was new territory. I knew it and he knew it and nobody knew what was going to happen now that this had happened… Elsa detached.

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What do you do when you are pissed off out of your mind?

The Sun is in Aries is squaring Mars in Cancer and people are wholly pissed, have you noticed?  If you have planets around 7-12 degrees Cardinal you are almost guaranteed to be embroiled in something.  Everybody wants to fight and it’s not that some of these fights aren’t necessary I am just noticing people are incredibly driven to take a stand today… to cut off the head of the enemy and I just wonder if there won’t be a serious hangover come Monday.

So what about you? Are you on the attack and/or being attacked today?  What do you see out there?

Last night my friend and astrologer, Claire-France Perez said something interesting. She is a double Gemini and can’t help but be interesting. She is particularly interested in women and Mars and in fact this is how we became friends. I was writing on her astrology mailing list some years ago and she was attracted how overtly I express Mars energy and that was that.

We both feel that many women (and some men) have problems expressing their Mars energy (their anger, their hunter instinct, etc) and that it wreaks all kinds of havoc in their lives and in the world. But last night she came up with a new phrase…. “the unconscious Mars”.

“Yes, many women have no awareness of their Mars at all,” she said. “They have no idea how attacking they are. They just haven’t the slightest idea.”

Continue reading Aggressive People Who Believe Themselves Passive: Astrologer Claire-France Perez On The Unconscious Mars

Speaking of Moon Venus in Libra, I was talking to my friend and astrologer, cf Perez yesterday and she got my attention when she made a statement about inequity in relationships.

She said that when one person in a relationship gave far more than the other, the person who was indebted filled in with anger. I was stunned with this simple observation which I think is entirely correct.

For example, take the alcoholic / codependent relationship. The codependent gives and gives and does the alcoholic appreciate it? Hell no! They grow to loathe the person doing the care taking. The more they receive (that they will never be able to reciprocate) the angrier they get. The more you give, the more they hate you and I’d say this makes a compelling argument against giving too much.

Have you ever been part of a relationship out of whack like this? How did it wind up?

Here’s a good bit for Mars (anger) square Venus (love):

At 65 years old, feminist writer and activist, Vivian Gornick writes in an essay titled, “What Independence Has Come to Mean to Me: The Pain of Solitude. The Pleasure of Self-Knowledge”

“… much of my loneliness was self-inflicted, having more to do with my angry, self-divided personality that with sexism. The reality was that I was not alone because of my politics but because I did not know how to live in a decent way with another human being. In the name of equality I tormented every man who’d ever loved me until he left me: I called them on everything, never let anything go, held them up to accountability in ways that wearied us both. There was, of course, more than a grain of truth in everything I said, but those grains no matter how numerous, need not have become the sandpile that crushed the life out of love.”

This essay is part of a compilation of essays, The Bitch in the House: 26 Women Tell the Truth About Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood, and Marriage

What do you think?