Dina quotes me on the Pisces Hook blog:

“Really? That’s surprising to me about you since you definitely tell it like it is to a lot of people who need help, lance the boil so to speak. Particularly hooked Pisceans who are kidding themselves! How does this play out in your astrology, if I may ask? Your Neptune has something to do with it, I suppose.”

Dina - I don’t think it has anything to do with Neptune. It has to do with boundaries. People ask me what I think and I tell them. I would never bother someone with my ideas or confront their denial otherwise. It is really none of my business what people do and if you read this blog it’s pretty clear I am focused on my own life and growth. I just don’t worry about what other people are doing right up until the hire me that is.

Hire me and I am on it but other than that I have waaaay too much respect for people to think that I know when they should face something. As far as I am concerned everyone has an inner clock. They have their own timing and their own agenda for their life which I am not even going to think about messing with, know why?

Because I am busy running my life of course.

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Pisces Woman Inundated With Heartless Cheating Scorpio Men

“Why would she do that?” I asked a friend in true puzzlement. “Jack me up over and over and then come try to be friends?”

“Well she wants something, I guess.”

“Well jeez. Don’t you cross the bridge before you burn it?” I said with a snort.

“That’s good! I’ll burn that bridge when I come to it!” she said with a snort of her own.

“I’m going to put this on my blog. I think it would be good to tell people the order of operations. If you see a bridge you want to burn, you should cross the thing first! It can be Saturn things you have learned. Rules to live by. This will be mine and other people can add theirs…”

What have you learned in this life you can share with others? Give us one strong piece of advice!

Dear Saturn,

The idea something is ‘seriously wrong with you” is harsh criticism and a textbook manifestation of Saturn in Virgo. Yes, Saturn in Virgo is the only earth in your chart - which means it is enormously important you be put in touch with it which is what this transit will accomplish.

And I wouldn’t worry about how this is going to occur because it’ll just happen and when it does, rejoice. Because denying this part of you is as bad for your soul as denying creativity or emotion or sex drive or anything else.

Specific to exercise, it can be gotten in many forms. Forms like dancing. Dancing is fluid and expressive and a great body is byproduct of that. There is fun exercise (roller skating) and exercise that is meditative (walking or yoga). There is exercise where the challenge or sense of accomplishment is the thing (mountain climbing). Point being you don’t have to focus on exercise, per se. You can sneak up on it or let it sneak up on you.

Good luck.

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This used to be called ElsaElsa - The Advice Blog and it’s morphed over time. With less focus there, the advice feature of this blog has become less prominent and I don’t really want that to happen if it can be avoided.

Based on the email it seems a lot of people assume I am flooded with questions and this has only rarely been the case. I get steady requests for “look at my chart” but I cannot use these questions because they do not fit the format of the blog.

It’s the difference between, “This my chart, this is the chart of my boyfriend, are we going to get married” and “I am having this problem… it’s goes like this, so what should I do or how can I fix it?”

One of those is a request for advice that works out for this blog, the other is something that should be addressed in a private consultation which I charge for.

I wanted to post these guidelines because it’s been awhile. I also want to let people know if they send a request for advice that fits the format, the odds are overwhelming it will be chosen for the blog. Your mail is not one of thousands… it is seen.

Bottom line, the quality of the advice portion of this blog has always been dependent on the questions I receive. In other words, it takes other people’s energy so if you have some lying around, by all means send it.

Beyond that I want to invite people to send questions they would like to see posted on blog as “open questions” where the readers here weigh in. I have no criteria for these questions other than they seem interesting. So if you want an array of opinions about something, you can get them via this blog, anonymously which I think is pretty cool. There are some damned good astrologers that read here and other deep and/or high minded thinkers and I would like to see the open question feature more fully developed.

Thanks.

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Someone named Jamie is amusing me greatly, making comments on some of the old blogs. She’s most notably present on “A Jupiter Story For Y’all” which I posted in May, 2006.

It’s a story from when I was19 and Babe, Pig in the City. I was getting on the first plane of my life and come to think of it, I was more “Piglet in the City” back then, as I remain “Babe-ish” to this day, though most certainly a full grown pig at this point.

Anyway, she is commenting on Part 2, I think so you can go read if you like -> Jupiter Story - Part two, or if you have never read the story it starts here -> Jupiter story - Part one, and then just follow the links at the bottom of each blog.

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Now the gal I was “mean” to a few days ago… “Friends Dating - Crisis Results“, has also surfaced and I’m glad she did. I can’t explain everything all the time, but now and then I want to and this is a good chance for that to.

Most of the people who write me are strangers. But not all of them. And this gal in particular, I had some knowledge of. And believe me, she is a stout chick. I guess you can tell this by her writing so you might imagine my surprise hearing her sound so completely freakishly consumed with the minutiae of these other people’s lives. Further, I cut 1/3 of her post! Yes. And I thought this out of character for her.

So when I wrote her response, I did not take any care. I just spoke to her as if she was a long time friend of mine who knows who I am. Because although she is not specifically a friend, she has been reading my blog(s) for a long time, and believe me I can be much, much, much ruder than that!

However, it was not my intention to be rude. It was my intention to tell her what I really thought which is why people write me, I think. To quote the AMF from a few months ago when something like this came up…

“What do they expect? This isn’t Dear fuckin’ Abby they’re writing! And no one ever said it was…”

And it’s hard to argue with that, isn’t it?

So anyway, the main thing I am trying to say, is on that blog where I was so rude… that was actually the best love I have. Because it’s so hard to find someone who will tell you what they really think. Consequently, it makes it very hard to progress if you are stuck in something like this.

It’s like being caught on a branch when you’re supposed to be floating down the river. You ask your pal, “Hey man. Am I stuck on a branch, here?”

“Well golly gee. I don’t know. Maybe you are. Maybe you aren’t. Maybe you should ask a few dozen more people. Sheesh, man. I hope you figure it out…”

So there you go. There’s your non-offensive but worthless answer. Which is not what I deal in, obviously.

I think direct questions deserve direct answers so that’s what this blog is about and will always be about. And this is what I am about and will always be about. So if you need an Excedrin after reading here, oh well. That’s like going to see a surgeon and then complaining it hurt where he/she cut you. Well come on! You’re off your branch, aren’t you?

So I just wanted to say this. It was fun for me to write and hopefully fun for you to read.

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Dear Girl In Love,

There is no choice. You have to just live. You have to let your life, and your love, and your future unfold. And I know you are a Capricorn. And I know you would like to control this situation because you are frightened. But you must continue to struggle against your urges because any tricks you pull will backfire in the long run.

So here’s what I would do: I would continue to love my man, if I loved him, because you can’t control that either, can you? And I would act with total integrity. This is just essential for Capricorn. Forget about his fear… you’re the one who is afraid. You’re afraid he’s going to leave, remember? And you can tell him this, you know. It is perfectly fine to be the way you are, and to talk to him about this… and if you do, listen carefully to what he says.

Because if he tells you repeatedly that this is what he wants to do, that he wants to have this adventure and he wants to have it alone… that he feels this is his destiny, then it’s your job as his lover and his friend to let him go. And if you do, he might just come back. And if he doesn’t?

Well you’ll be a class act, girl. And not that many are. And do you think a woman who is a class act - a stand-up and considerate friend and partner - has trouble finding a great man? She doesn’t.

So this is my advice. Just be honest and act in a way that makes you feel proud of yourself, and you really can’t go wrong. Good luck.

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Dear Fickle,

You can absolutely learn to relate better to women and with Saturn in aspect to your natal Venus, Moon square, “learn” is the right word. Venus and the Moon relate to women and relationships and your chart shows definite challenges here. And I just want to congratulate you on defining your problem. Plenty of people never manage! That said, if you want to solve this, and I think you should… it’s going to take some humbling.

See, with Pluto and Uranus conjunct your Sun in Virgo… you are a very powerful force. And that’s fine, it’s not the problem per se. The problem is specific to your ego. It’s huge! With Venus in Leo, your ego is as big as a fuckin’ room and I am afraid you may be a little overboard in believing yourself queen. And guess what? You are not the only woman who wants to be queen.

Now if you think about this (and with all your Virgo, I know you will), you can see how you would not have as much trouble with men. It’s because you do not compete with them. They are King to your Queen, so all good! And this is where your answer lies.

If you can learn to humble yourself… to discipline your ego so you can see the Queen in other women, you will be well on your way to forming the long-lasting, supportive relationships with other women you crave. Good luck.

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pictured - Portrait of Queen Victoria, 1859, Franz Winterhalter

Dear Venus,

You are doing a lot of things right and should be very proud. For one thing, you are not playing the victim - which is always the downfall of Pisces. Instead, you are taking a critical look at your own behavior in this last relationship, and your willingness to do this that will save you.

Discrimination is a great skill. It is a Virgo skill, the sign opposite Pisces… and an ability Pisces commonly lacks. It is especially key for you in relationships - not just because you are a Pisces, but because you have both Venus in Pisces and Neptune on the descendent.

Anyway you turn it, you have the propensity to do exactly what you describe above. That is: know something is not right, but opt to ignore, or obscure it so that you can do the Pisces things… sacrifice yourself.

It’s all good until the veil drops and then look the fuck out! So this is your answer. Cultivate Virgo! A Virgo friend would be a good idea. Someone who can offer clarity when it eludes you and you begin to slip into patterns that are destructive.

And this is not to say you can avoid service, or all time spent hanging from a cross. Because that is not realistic. You’re Pisces maaan. You must serve or suffer, but you can learn to filter. You can decide who and what is worthy, and to do this effectively you have to be able to access what is real.

Last, just because you brought it up… I suspect you moving was a very good idea. Uranus is transiting Pisces and it’s time for change.

Good luck and ps… Happy Birthday!

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