I started keeping an Amazon Wish List about six months ago. And I think the Amazon Wish List is one of the best ideas ever because it allows people to do nice things for other people. Did you know you can search a person’s name and pull up their wish list? I learned that from a Scorpio Mars.

So anyway, I don’t want much. I think I’m just a born ascetic because the things I value are almost all ethereal. It’s that or just the fact I grew up with nothing, which never bothered me and it still doesn’t. However, occasionally I want a book. Continue reading Speaking of Giving: The Amazon Wish List and Mars Mercury in the 9th House

Talking to the soldier:

“Well I’m glad you wrote. When I saw your name come up in my email, I was instantly happy. I was really glad. And I had no idea all this other stuff. I didn’t know I was dying but as soon as I saw your name, I knew it would be a good mail. You know. It wouldn’t be scathing.”

“Now why in the world would I ever send you a scathing email? ” He laughed. Continue reading The Soldier Reaches Out - Part 4: Beware The Mail

Last night I was talking to a pal who was copping to being what she called “game-y” in relationships, when she was younger. She described how she manipulated men by coming on strong and then backing off to keep them their energy on her. You know. They’d be obsessing trying to figure out what she was up too and I was listening to this, completely enthralled because I would be the polar opposite of this.

No man ever has to wonder where he stands with me. I have no problem telling a man I want to screw him at the my first opportunity, or otherwise tell him, “I will never have sex with you in a million years, so just forget about it.” And there is no in between!

Now my Mars is conjunct Mercury in the (blunt) 9th house, so there you go. I am going to tell you! But my friend has an Aquarius Mars in the 8th house. And this is one way to express that considering Aquarius is detached, Mars wants to get what it wants and the 8th house is up to speed when it comes to psychological games.

And what’s your Mars look like?

I figured out why I’m having so much angst over traveling in ugly pants. Could it be Libra (beauty) in the 9th house (travel)? I think so!

I always travel in a dress. Always. I want to look nice, plus I’m far more comfortable in a skirt or a dress than I am in pants. I actually hate wearing pants, although I recognize they are necessary on the rare occasion

But I’ve actually ridden a motorcycle in a dress many times, so I am pretty sure I’m on to something here. Like exercising (Mars) prettily (Libra), leave it to me to zoom around (Mars Mercury) on a motorcycle in a dress (pretty Libra). This is so embarrassing but as it turns out a person is just the way they are no matter how hard they try otherwise

Now I wonder if I swear (more) when wearing a skirt and tend to talk sweetly when wearing pants? You know. Balance! I bet I do!

::hangs head in shame for being so predictable::

Do you have any planets in Libra? Give some examples of things you balance. No planets in Libra? Tell on your Libra friends!

Dear Once,

It’s very funny. I knew what I was going to have to say to you before I looked at your chart and when it popped up on the screen, with Saturn (oppression) in the 9th house (religion) opposing your Sun (your creative self), your Mercury (your thoughts) and the rest of your stellium in Virgo, well it doesn’t get plainer than this. Or cuter. And neater petite-r for a Virgo like you.

See these advice questions have to apply to more than one person to make it on to this blog. And I was going to tell you that to evolve in the course of your lifetime… be it around religion or anything else, when you are challenged there is really only one thing to do. Stand firm. You must have integrity and I am a good example.

I started identifying myself as an astrologer (as a career) at my Saturn return. Needless to say, I was mocked without mercy. People who knew me before I identified myself this way shook their heads and the new people I met… well most of them took a step back, not forward.

However, I am an astrologer. I will die an astrologer so when my future inl aws told a man who loved me that they would disown him if he married that “astrologer crystal ball person”, I remained an astrologer and I think you can see I understand your circumstance.

And I think everyone needs to stand for what they believe but in your case this could not possibly be any clearer, with a 9th house Saturn. Your beliefs (9th house) must have integrity (Saturn). And here’s the deal with an opposition like yours… which utterly dominates your chart by the way.

When you have an opposition like this in your chart you wind up living one side and projecting the other. So for awhile there, you were the Saturn in the 9th figure. You were the religious (9th house) authority (Saturn). But now you’re on the other end, being a critical thinking Virgo!! And what you have to do is own both sides.

Now I want to tell you, you are a preacher whether you like it or not. And if you go up there and read your post, you can see this is in your writing. There is a cadence of someone preaching. So really, you have not escaped your destiny, have you? You are still going to teach about religion or belief systems, it’s just that you beliefs have morphed!

So when these people come down on you… don’t let that stand. Don’t be the little Virgo maiden crushed by authority (the projected 9th house Saturn). Instead, get on you own box there and preach right back!! Because you have authority when it comes to religion / belief systems. But as long as you try to divorce yourself from this and ignore what is essentially your job on this planet… well you are going to continue to meet the oppressor outside yourself, and why is that?

It’s to force you to define (Saturn) your beliefs (9th house)… to one and all. And I can tell you from personal experience that when you do this eventually the opposition fades and support forms. There isn’t a person in the world who would dare try to tell me I shouldn’t be an astrologer now. What would it get them? A quizzical look?

Good luck.

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Dear Unhappy,

You have Saturn square your Sun and consequently you are a fear-based person. It is a given that you’re going to be afraid of something, but that something can change.

Right now, you’re afraid of the boogey-men you may meet if you leave your husband. Alternately you are afraid that not one of the billions of men on this planet will like you. And you are afraid your kids will be devastated. And I’m thinking it might help if you get yourself some new fears and I have some suggestions.

How about being afraid to die, having never lived? How about the fear that you are teaching your children that relationships are unsatisfying and not fulfilling? How about replacing the fear of “no men out there” with the fear of being stuck with the one you have for the next 40 years?

Now I don’t know about you, but I think that stuff is pretty scary. And you can see my point here. If you will change your perspective, you can get out - and in fact, it’s your responsibility to do just that.

Because you have a ultra-fiery 9th house Aries Sun. The Sun in the 9th house is expansive and fun. And you need to work (Saturn) to manifest this as opposed to cowering down. Otherwise, no shine for you.

And what do you think is best for your kids? Their mother - a confident, fiery streak across this land? Or their mother hiding under the bed? I don’t think there is any question. You call your life “safe” but I don’t think it’s safe at all. Instead, you’re at grave risk of never having a life at all. I say get yourself moving and the sooner the better.

Good luck.

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The other day I was talking to a pal. It occurred to me I had this stable of friends. An array, you could say. And every friend I have is very good at being who they are. They are each very fine specimens of whatever it is they happen to be and I realized the other day that I milk this to no end.

See, when something happens in my life, I generally make the rounds. I call everyone who is currently tracking with whatever news I have and ask them what they think. What does a Scorpio think? What does an Asian think? What does the most emotionally sensitive person I have ever met think about this?

That’s not enough.

“What does a rich person think? How about a Special Forces soldier? Or a 12-stepper? Or a packed 12th house? You know. What does Pisces say? I am very curious.

And this works out really well. Because who doesn’t like their opinion solicited? Especially when you really want it! Because I could care less about having my own opinion validated. I want other perspectives. What else would Mars Mercury in the 9th house, hunt?

So I’ve been thinking about this and I have been become very aware of how specialized my friends are. For example, take Scott. He always thinks there is hope. No matter what is going on, or who it’s going on with, Scott can always imagine a positive outcome which is enormously helpful and soothing to me.

I call Pisces for fairy dust obviously, and Special Forces if I want to cover my ass. Because to him, everything is a mission of very serious import and you need always be aware of your back!

I could go on, but you get the point. If I run my circumstance through this mill, I am going to have a comprehensive understanding of whatever it is I am trying to deal with and I can’t imagine trying to deal with anything without this network!

So what about you? Do you keep an array of friends or do your friends tend to be like-minded?

I use Saturn Neptune techniques with my children all the time. I would! And themes run in families so it’s no surprise my daughter has Neptune in Capricorn (Saturn ruled) in mutual reception with her Saturn in Pisces (Neptune ruled). My son has a Saturn square Neptune, so basically we are a family of suggestible fairies and I’ll give you some examples of how that works.

I was flying home from Mexico with my daughter when she was about five or six. We hit some pretty serious turbulence and she became frightened. Actually, she is naturally very high strung, so she became extremely frightened.

“Give me you hand,” I said to ground her. “And look at me.”

She complied.

“I want you to imagine the airport back home. Can you see it?”

“Yes.” She was staring at me with Scorpio rising, Pluto conjunct intensity in pure terror..

“And when we get off this plane, what are we going to do? We’ll get our bags, right?”

“Right.”

“Can you see the baggage carousel? Can you see us leaving with our bags? Imagine (Neptune) it (reality, Saturn).

“I see it,” she said nervously.

“Okay, so do I. I see that too. So this is how we know this plane doesn’t crash. There will be no plane crash. Now if you couldn’t imagine that, then we may need to be worry, but we can see it clear as day, right? Can you see us leaving the airport?”

“Yes.”

“Okay, then. And we look fine in the vision, right? We’re not upset?”

“Nope. We’re just getting our bags on one of those carts…” she said, calming.

“Okay! Well that’s the reality. That’s exactly what’s going to happen so you may as well enjoy this turbulence as part of our adventure.”

At this point her fear (Saturn) had dissolved (Neptune) completely.

“It is kind of fun,” she said. “Bumpy.”

“Well I’m not surprised you like it. It’s actually a bonus adventure on the way home,” I told her 9th house Moon trine Jupiter in Sagittarius. “We travel and this is part of it.”

But she’d quit listening by then. Gemini Sun, she’d picked up a magazine and started to read.

Read more -> Parenting Redux

Dear Heal,

Yes I have ideas. I think you should go about fixing your marriage, sideways. Indirectly. And this is not some kind of trick, or psychology; it’s your chart, talking.

See, you have all this focus on your relationship. First it’s you that’s the problem, then it’s him… now it’s you, and I think you’re just really lost. The dark feelings are real of course, but they have little to do with him. It’s like being bitchy for three years, five years, four months or whatever. What’s that got to do with someone outside yourself? Nothing. It means you’re an unhappy son-of-a-bitch and nothing more. And why is that?

Well, you’re unhappy because you are not fulfilling your destiny on this planet. And I am thinking if you can forget about your husband for a second and get yourself busy manifesting your own identity, it will have a positive effect all the way around.

So how about I tell you about you? Your whole chart is tied up in the 3rd, 9th and 12th houses, with the emphasis on the 12th. People with a packed 12th house learn they must serve or suffer. So who are you serving?

Judging from your post, this is a foreign concept to you and that’s not a criticism. Do you see what I am trying to do? I am trying to refocus you in a direction that is authentic. Because if I can do that, the problems with your partner will begin to solve themselves. This is a universal law! When you hit the right path, support is there. When you’re flailing like this, it’s a problem.

So the 9th house is about your beliefs. It’s about exposing yourself to a variety of people in order to expand. What do you believe, anyway? What are your ideals?

And the 3rd house is about your ideas. What do you think? What do you think (3rd house) about what is going on internationally (9th house) and how does it make you feel (12th house)? This is where your focus belongs. And yes you are intense, but so? We need intense people in this world. You can channel that into anything you want!

But I’m trying to tell you that you are wasting your life worrying about your husband. He’s not your gig! Are you a Libra? You’re not! And I promise you if you better align yourself with these much larger principles, if you will get out and live in the bigger world, you will see improvement on all fronts that is beyond your wildest hope.

Start here -> WHO AM I SUPPOSED TO BE?
Not here -> What happened in 1974?

Good luck.

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