Years ago I noticed there are parent/child themes in every relationship a person with an emphasis Capricorn or a Cancer forms. This includes people with emphasis on the 4th or 10th houses and I don’t think it’s wrong, it’s inescapable.

This weekend one of my friends (with Capricorn) popped off with this:

“You have little boys who want to be your man and I have full grown men who want to be my little boy.”

I laughed, but she is quite right.

Do you experience this? Which side are you on? Do you play both?

Dear Virgo,

I don’t think running home is going to solve this. Your chart reeks of everything you just described. For example, the disappearing partners? You have Neptune (erase) on your descendant (relationships) - so wherever you go, you are going to find this scenario constellating and only consciousness will help.

Same on the family issues. If you go home you are depressed around family. If you stay in your new land, you are depressed with no family but help is on the way.

However the help that is coming is Saturn’s transit through Virgo and Saturn is not some kind of light fare thing. Virgo will be called upon to grow up and define themselves and this goes for all Virgos not just you.

But specific to you, all your Virgo (and your natal Saturn) is concentrated in and around the 4th house / Moon which represents your family and your roots. And you can see how things are things are beginning to become concentrated here and I’ll tell you exactly what you are going to have to do to resolve this:

You are going to have to build (Saturn) your own family (4th house). You will have to be responsible for putting down your roots, wherever you want them and basically mapping out your piece of ground and I will use my friend, Denis as an example because he’s a good one.

Denis came to the US from Cameroon and he has been here 15 years or so. He is well established in this country but maintains connections with his home country both here and there.

He stays in contact, and is currently opening a business in Cameroon. Closer to home (this home) he is part of a network, a support group of sorts for transplanted Cameroonians who have relocated to this city. He has also formed relationships with people who have nothing to do with Cameroon… however he feeds them his home food!

I’m sure you get the picture. This is the answer. You can go home but if you do, you still need to map out and stake your territory and one more tip:

Personally, this is a 5 year odyssey you are heading into, so please adjust your watch to “very slow progress”.

Good luck!

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