Dear Capricorn,

It is common to see age difference in couples who have strong Cancer or Capricorn in their chart. Same thing when there are a lot of planets in the fourth and/or tenth houses as these signs and house represent the parental axis and people with a focus there have parent/child themes in their relationships across the board. So I would talk this relationship serious if only it were an actual relationship - but it’s not.

This man is partnered with somebody else… period. There is no indication he had any romantic interest in you whatsoever so I have to conclude you are having a pure fantasy here which is also shown in your chart as you are a Virgo rising which means delusion… er, Pisces rules the seventh - the partner.

Now I am sorry if this is harsh but there are other things that pop out in your note. For example you say he is with another girl but you are not a girl. You are almost 50 years old and this is not a “girl” in my book.

I am glad you wrote, glad you are concerned about embarrassing yourself and I would urge you to let go of the notion you “love” this man unless of course you would like to pine. But yeah. Think hard before you say anything to him because if you do he is liable to be embarrassed, somewhat creeped out and he will almost definitely run for the hills.

I say recognize this as a fantasy and start looking for a new situation.

Good luck.

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Years ago I noticed there are parent/child themes in every relationship a person with an emphasis Capricorn or a Cancer forms. This includes people with emphasis on the 4th or 10th houses and I don’t think it’s wrong, it’s inescapable.

This weekend one of my friends (with Capricorn) popped off with this:

“You have little boys who want to be your man and I have full grown men who want to be my little boy.”

I laughed, but she is quite right.

Do you experience this? Which side are you on? Do you play both?