Kingsley writes on Feeling vs Primal Drive:

“I am not sure one can actually distinguish between the two actions Elsa . Perhapsd afterwards in the analysis wash up one might be able to self reflect how and why their reactions worked the way they did. There are two types of feelings (in a simplistic theory) Surface feelings and character feelings…”

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Kingsley, I think I get this and I think I am talking about something else. When I say “primal”, I am talking about something deeper that common to all of us, for example a woman and her ticking baby clock or a man who wants to stick his dick in something. We should be above all these things, however we are not.

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Dear Moon,

I don’t think the problem is in your chart, it is in hers. You are dealing with someone who is significantly paranoid which is not the fault of the Moon in Pisces. I don’t know what this woman’s problem is but the fact you are feeling the problem is caused by you reflects your own problem and the proclivity to this is very apparent in your chart.

With your Sun in the twelfth house, part of a stellium there it’s a challenge to know where you start and others begin. Virgo Moon is often very self-critical and the fact yours is opposed by Saturn does not help. I would guess this girl has her Pisces Moon on top Saturn in your chart and this leaves you feeling you must be making some kind of error but I am pretty sure (we’ll see by the comments) that it is clear (to others) that this girl has a problem that is completely independent of you.

I am sorry this is probably not much help as it does sound as if you love this girl very much but if she is not willing to discover what is driving her intensely jealous and paranoid feelings then I am afraid you are simply going to be up a creek.

Good luck.

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My attempt to answer questions about how the order of the zodiac applies to… everything.

I meant 52 years old in this… whoops!

How To Solve All Problems (And How To Never Solve Them) Part 1

The order of the zodiac… it’s not like it’s random!

Meet Jodie Perkins. She wants to go to jail to kick her cigarette addiction. How Neptune is that? She’s got to be a Pisces or a 12th house Sun.

Funny thing, I did the same thing. Hearing of a 30 day inpatient program for smokers (back when I smoked) I called my insurance and begged them to pay to lock me up for 30 days…

Jail Me So I Can Quit Smoking, Says Iowa Woman
‘I Would Do Anything in the World to Quit,’ She Tells ABC News

CHRIS FRANCESCANI writes:

“An Iowa woman who smokes two packs of cigarettes a day became so frustrated with her addiction that she called the sheriff’s department last week and asked officers to jail her for several days - just to help her kick the nasty habit…

Unfortunately, the jail won’t take her. Read the rest here: abc news

Dear Cancer,

Aries and Cancer is a tough match, though I would not say it is, “doomed to failure”. What is doomed to fail is any relationship where the people involved live thousands of miles apart! In fact, I would say there is no actual relationship until and unless the two people spend time together in person. I mean, it’s fine to meet online but then what? Who is going to move?

If no one is going to move and put the thing together, then how is it going to come together? It’s not. And how likely are you to move when you are already feeling frustrated? You’re not likely at all.

I think this relationship has served you because with a 7th house Moon, you want to be partnered. But with your Moon in Aquarius, you don’t want to be too close!

You also have a stellium in Cancer in the 12th house and the relationship allows you to live in a state of ‘divine discontent” - but will anything ever come of it? I would say no. I imagine one day it will disappear like a cloud and I’d apologize for that but I am not at all sure this would be bad news.

Good luck.
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Dear Trapped,

I don’t think you’re a commitment-phobe as I understand the term. I think what you have is “buyer’s remorse“. And further, I think it has little to do with your husband.

I say this because the way you describe your feelings fits your chart, which tells me you are going to feel this way anywhere you go. You have significant Libra in your chart so you are going to want to be partnered. But you’ve got a second stellium in Virgo, an unmarried woman - and there is the disconnect.

As for the trapped feeling, it’s not uncommon for a person with their Sun (and more) in the 12th house to feel as if they are in prison. So based on this, I would say your circumstance and your lousy feelings about them are going to be hard-wired until and unless you really work to explore other options.

In other words, let’s say you leave your husband for this woman. You could easily do that. You have Aquarius who likes to experiment. But the relationship will either fail, leaving you disillusioned (12th house) or alternately it will not fail and you will hook up with her. But if you do that, odds are you’ll be writing me in another 8 months to say you’re trapped again (12th house), but this time with a woman.

Now if leave your husband, and the relationship with the woman fails, then your Libra will kick back in and you’ll be out looking for another partner… and you get the idea.

Your discontent is internal. If you want to feel better you are going to have to evolve, rather than just keep plugging new people into the same slot, hoping for a new result.

Good luck.

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Dear Married,

I understand you don’t want to be married to a liar and an addict, however you are. And I understand you want to trust your husband, however, you can’t. And though I understand why you don’t want to sleep with him, this strategy will be completely ineffectual in changing his behavior.

Your chart shows a person who is very optimistic… someone who wants to “believe”. And obviously this is what is getting you in trouble. Because, take that cocaine. People who don’t use cocaine don’t pick up bags of the stuff from the gutter and put in their pocket and take it home! Think about it. There is a half-used pack of cigarettes on the sidewalk and I don’t smoke. What are the chances I am going to pick them up and bring them into my house?? There is no chance at all. I am going to think they look like disgusting trash.

So fact is, you are married to a person who is just like your parents and your ex-boyfriend. Sorry! And since you have had exposure and experience with this kind of thing, perhaps you know how infrequently people like this clean up their act. And you know it’s something only they can solve and the best thing you can do for them is get out of their way. Let them hit bottom, that is.

Now if you don’t know this, you should educate yourself, the sooner the better. Because obviously hooking up with impaired people is your pattern and your pathology. So that’s what I would do. Head for the nearest Al-Anon meeting (the principles are effective for all addictions) or to a therapist’s office and start to work on yourself. Because all the work you do on him will be for naught.

Good luck.

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After spending a week thinking about the people I know and how I tap them for various things I started to wonder what roll(s) I might play for others. And I have a feeling if I asked I would be surprised. Because everyone I mentioned this to… “I call you for blah blah blah” was completely surprised over the way I see them and what it is I think they know.

For example, Scott had no idea I define him the way I do. I see him as the ultimate compassionate person. He’s not going to write anyone off, ever! “There’s always hope, Elsie.” This is what he says all the time about everyone, every time, and it’s really nice to know there is someone out there who will never give up on you. How’s that for the love?

So when I get in a situation where something falls off the page of everyone I know (which happens frequently around here), I call Scott and voila! There is still hope!

“You never know what’s going to happen. I have seen some amazing things,” he’ll say.

And I think this is his essence, but when I told him this is how I saw him… well he was oblivious. And the astrology?

Well, Scott has a 12th house Cancer Sun. He is just completely yielding. There is no way to get to a place with him where he will cut you off. Where “you” means anyone. Scott has limitless compassion for everyone, everywhere, all the time. Everyone gets the benefit of the doubt, and don’t forget, there is always, always, always hope! So I dial him up when I need some of this elixir.

And what about you? What are people seeking when they call you up? Do you know? Tell us!

Dear Married,

It may help you get your feet on the ground and be less confused if you remember this is only going to go where you want it to go. Do you want to have an affair? If you do, it sounds like one is on offer. I don’t condone that, and here’s the astrology… I think it might help you out.

You have no major transits at this time so I doubt your marriage is going to crack up and blah, blah, blah. I don’t think this guy is going to change your life. But you do have Venus in Pisces in the 12th house, square Neptune and here’s what I think is happening.

I bet this guy has planets in aspect to your Venus Neptune which is notoriously permeable, seducible and prone to fantasy. In other words, this thing is lying there in your chart, waiting to happen and this guy comes along and WHOOSH! The thing comes out to live.

But here’s the key. It’s your energy. He may be triggering you, but it is your energy and you can do whatever you want with it. For example you can feed this thing. You can dream this guy up into some kind of Prince Charming who can screw like ten men, or you can just as easy, fantasize around your husband and go home and screw him like ten women.

I like the second idea. No one gets hurt, but even more importantly, you discover this fabulous talent of yours rather than projecting it on to the guy.

Good luck.

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