Dear Capricorn,

Sure Venus in Scorpio is obsessive and passionate but how about self-protective, hmm? How about Scorpio’s famous will to survive? I am sorry but I don’t have much sympathy. Why would I have sympathy for someone who is doing exactly what they want to do? Do you think this is accidental? Do you think you lack purpose? I do not agree.

I think you are using this guy as an excuse not to apply yourself. He is a way and means for you to find and feel an edge. He is a way you can feel pain and manifest your fear of failing. It’s got to be you because how can any of his doing when he’s not even on the scene?

Your friends don’t understand? I bet they do understand. They understand you are frothing at the mouth for a man who has no interest. They understand you are doing lousy in school and basically wrecking your life and while you’ve certainly got the right, I would not recommend it.

I recommend you clutch it up. I recommend you throw glass of cold water in your own face. Whatever it takes to snap yourself out of this, because you are in college now and you are supposed to paying your dues - as opposed to disabling yourself and calling it “love”.

Good luck.

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Chart is approximate. This gal is 17 years old. She reports being born, “PM” so I placed the time @ 6 PM.

Dear Elsa,

I have a problem and need some advice. There is a teacher at my school he stares at me a lot. Whenever I enter the classroom he makes an eye contact with me. I feel like he’s attracted to me. I heard he even got married a few months ago. The way that he stares at me it’s really bothers me. I have NO relationship with him and never will be. He hasn’t act inappropriately around me. Please help me, what should I do? should I report him?

Uncomfortable Student
Canada

Dear Student,

I would confront this teacher for sure in whichever way you are most comfortable. You can “report him” or alternately you can just tell him directly that his staring at you makes you very uncomfortable.

Tactically the latter is preferable because if you suffer any backlash after the confrontation, you still have the option of reporting him. Slick, huh?

But I understand this may be too demanding so if you go the other route, I would only recommend you change your language. You are not “reporting” him, you are letting a counselor know that one of your teachers is making you uncomfortable and he/she is taking it from there.

Good luck!

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Dear Capricorn,

Without a doubt, your duty is to yourself. Your parents had a life. They have their own life now too, and this one is yours to live.

That said, the fact you feel some responsibility towards them is part of your nature. It’s an authentic feature of your personality, so this is why you feel the way you do - and I think you can count on it preventing you from running off to join the circus anytime soon. People are endlessly complex and you are no exception to that, but to try to simplify - this is a quick sketch of you:

• Venus and Mars in Aquarius wants to innovate and make its own rules.
• Pluto in the tenth house wants a powerful job.
• Your packed twelfth house wants to escape - to merge with something universal through music, and your planets in Sagittarius wants to expand via travel and education.

But you are also a triple Capricorn and there is no getting away from that. Your life in large part is about hard work. Your life is a job, and your job is to actualize your entire personality… so I would suggest you forget the idea of drastically amputating this or that part of you and the investment you’ve made in yourself. Instead, think about how you can allow all these parts of yourself expression. Be creative. Working this out is your task this life.

Good luck.

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Dear Student,

They say that life it too short to spend it doing something you are not passionate for. But for Capricorn risings like you and me, I’d say that life is too long! And looking at your stellium in Scorpio, I have to think you’re going to prove very hard to kill - so I think your concern that you might be on the wrong path is valid… sort of.

See, your education will never be wasted because being psychologically sophisticated is an asset that is applicable to everything all the time. If you consider the symbol for Capricorn - a goat climbing a very large mountain - what you could be discovering is not that you are climbing the wrong mountain, but that the top is somewhat further off than you thought. And when you initially consider this it may upset you, but in reality it’s not that big a deal. This is just life and life unfolds.

And I’m not worried about you at all. Because obviously this has emerged and if you were intent on stuffing your feelings and committing to a career you have no passion for, you would not have written me.

So this is where you are and you are going to have to do something about it. Are you capable of that? Of course! I would bet you are more capable than 95% of the people out there and I bet you’d agree with me.

So just be still and ask the universe to show you the best path. I bet you anything it will oblige and from there you need only execute, which is a walk in the park for Capricorn.

And on a more visceral level, with all those planets in Scorpio, never ever choose the thing that has no energy for you. Because if you do, you will shrivel up.

Good luck.

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Dear Student,

I don’t see any problem. You’re nearly 45… he’s mid thirties, so you’re both adults. As for the age difference, so what? There are as many benefits as there are problems. He’s your ex-professor? Big deal. He taught you some things, now you can return the favor!

As for the general question of two people in relationship being the same sun sign, in my experience it either works very well or the people bore and repel each other. You know. Yick! He/she is way too much like me! Makes me sick to look in a mirror like that! Get me the hell out of here!

More specific for Sagittarius, on the upside you can understand each other’s need for freedom. But I’ll tell you something I notice about Sadge. Some of them seem to be looking for someone to (try to) tie them down. You know. They want someone who will try to stick a wild horse in a corral and why is that? So they can jump the fence of course. So if you (or he) is of this ilk… well you’re going to let each other down by not trying to contain and restrict.

Bottom line, if I were you I’d call this guy up and get a date. You have every reason in the world to do this and absolutely no reason not to. And from there, provided he signs on, you’re two people on an adventure.

Sound good? Sounds good to me.

Good luck.

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Dear High Schooler,

I have to offer some kind of blanket disclaimer… you might consider having your level of depression evaluated by a professional. But what I really think will help your Sagittarius Sun is an expanded perspective and a ray of hope, which I can provide.

This is how life works. Seriously. These are facts:

One year does not predict the next. You are on a journey and things are constantly changing. So the idea that this year will be like next year is a fear, as opposed to reality.

Number two, I guarantee you every fourteen year-old on the planet has feelings similar to yours. You know those girls with all the friends? The ones who are snotty and put other girls down? Underneath that bravado is pure desperation.

See, you have no or low friends, so you’re scared. The girls with tons of friends are scared too. Scared they are going to lose their position!

Basically, what I am saying is it is very hard to be 14!! This is universal! And what I suggest is you go out there and look for your own kind. You want to find a “tribe”.

See, you have a lot of Capricorn, so lots of fear. And what will help is having a plan. So when I was a kid… well obviously I am a little odd. So guess what I did? I hung with the other odd kids. The out-of-the-closet gay boy with lots of angst. The girl with the brother dying of cancer at sixteen years old. And I had significant friendships with them. So never mind the cheerleading squad, you know? The girls worried about an inch of fat on them! Are you getting this? That’s not your tribe, anyway!

There is a way to navigate. There is a way to survive high school!! Just quit feeding the fear and start making a smart plan, instead. Believe you have a “tribe” out there and further, that you will find them, and them you. Because you do and you will.

Much love and good luck.

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Dear Leo,

Well you really showed him, didn’t you? Your dad, I mean. And your parents in general. Fuck them! Fuck what they say. With your moon in Aquarius, you are going to do what you are going to and to hell with authority!

But now you see, this hasn’t served you. You’re growing up. And you’re right, it’s a Saturn transit. First to your Aquarius Moon, and then eventually to your Sun, Mercury in Leo and ultimately, your natal Saturn in Virgo.

So here’s the deal. For the next three years, you’re going to get your shit together. Because to quote another Aquarius Moon I know - “You’re not the only genius in the world,” okay?

And this is what stage one of your Saturn transit is about. It’s about being humbled. And made to conform. And held to a standard. It’s about turning in your goddamn homework when you’re supposed to… with the rest of the lemmings, even when you think you’re special.

It is also about curbing your tendency to rebel after growing up enough to see when it is destructive. There are times when you should rebel, when you must rebel. But there are other times where you need to clutch it up. Pick your revolutions, okay? Because rebelling for the sake of rebelling is rather silly.

So there you go. And I am not trying to be a mean bitch. I am just giving you exactly what you asked for. A reality check. Reality = Saturn. And you may as well get used to it, because you aren’t getting out from under this thumb for three years. Thank goodness. Because three years from now, you’ll have your degree and without this transit?

Well, I hope you like filing those papers for the professionals you work for…

Good luck.

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Dear Crushed,

First, I admire your ambition and tenacity. With your kind of drive, I think success is a given and the hang up here is really just that. A hang up.

What’s up with your refusal to attend community college? It’s not rational is it?

I checked on this with a pal of mine, who is sort of a peer to you, but fifteen years older. I say “Peer” because like you, he is an immigrant who is driven. These are his comments:

“There’s nothing settling about going to community college. In fact, plenty of people do it now as a way to save money! They go to community college for two years, then transfer to a four-year school with their great grades. It’s the “in” thing to do… saves you oodles of money, and you still get the same great degree.”

So there you go. Whatever your hang-up about community college is - transcend it and get on with your life. Good luck.

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Dear Mind,

Well, crap. You’re in the middle of an enormous Neptune transit and I don’t think you are going to see any relief short term. I’m very sorry, because you have planets in Capricorn and I know it’s very important you achieve and be real.

This part of your nature is in direct conflict with the diffuse and disabling Neptune energy that currently pervades your life. With a stellium in Scorpio and the Capricorn to back it up, you are normally very focused and controlled and now look? It’s like someone breathes and all the sudden you’re overwhelmed. And I am terrifically sorry, but this is not going to go away in the short term.

I realize this is devastating news, but that same Capricorn (fearful as it may be) will save you. Because Capricorn is a long distance runner. And Capricorn can accept and deal with reality far easier than any other sign.

So here’s your deal. You’re going to be “erasing” like this throughout 2006. That’s a long time, but it’s not forever, and you can make it. You can fake it it you have to, and you’ll have to.

But the quality of person you are is still there. Even on the days you can’t see it, you will just have to have faith. Which is the point of all this, by the way. Neptune transits teach faith. And the only thing you can do to ease this process is to give in to it. Find the rhythm of the tide (it’s there!) and align it.

In non-metaphysical language: on the days your can think clearly, do it. On the days your acute mind is less accessible, take it easy on yourself. And trust your capabilities will come back in time. Or better yet, at the right time… because they will.

Good luck.

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Dear Roommate,

It sounds like she wants you to take responsibility for her, and this is a boundary issue for the most part. You need to define the line between you and her - and I don’t mean you have to lack compassion.

You can listen to her tale of woe, but respond in this sort of way:

“Yeah, that’s too bad. But at least you know what’s wrong. This way you can fix it…”

Get it? You’re not her keeper!!!

And as for the “truth”… I don’t think anyone should be telling another person what their “truth” is unless they ask. But if they ask, then it’s fair game!

“Do you think I belong here?”

“Hell no!”

And can you see this is another boundary issue?

That’s what I’d like you to take from this. Draw some lines with this girl and once you do, stay on your side. She will make it or break it soon enough and this is not your problem. Your problem is that you make other people’s problems your problem and luckily, this is very easy to fix.

Good luck.

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