We’re having a discussion in the Colosseum in regards to my idea that with Saturn in Libra people will put forth an effort to be attractive. “With Saturn in Virgo people learned to better communicate and now they will learn to attract…”

It is a period where the concept of being able to sit on the couch thinking love is going to come knock down your door and sweep you away will fall away. Women will realize the man on a white horse is a fantasy and if they insist on clinging to it, that is all they are going to have.

Continue reading Saturn in Libra: “Many Fish Bite If You Got Good Bait…”

Another example of an individual’s Saturn Return - my own. You have to face your fears rather than respond to other people’s fears. Place boundaries, take a long term view… and most importantly - Be true to yourself.

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Regarding that picture when I was 9, my sister wrote:

“That dress you are wearing came in this package someone gave us for rodeo week. We had to dress rodeo for school so someone gave us three dresses, that was one. The other two were gingham and ugly. (I decided.)

I had a thing for velvet and that dress had some velvet so I was considering it very carefully, so were you.

I decided I couldn’t wear western. I decided I hated western wear on that day and you ended up putting on the dress. Everyone thought you looked cute so Henry took your picture in it, remember?”
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I’m talking to the soldier here. It’s very obvious my Mercury (thoughts) are is conjunct Mars (sex and aggression).

“I realized something,” I said. “I get pretty stupid at times. Like when I am happy and having a lot of sex, I get positively docile. It’s as if I can’t think at all. No need! But just as soon as I feel threatened, you better look out! All the sudden my brain fires up and I become… well, I become freakishly brilliant. All the sudden I can think up, down into the ground, and next thing you know a persons is screwed, blued and tattooed. I have them wrapped up tight and this is all done before it’s even occurred to them I might rise from my slumber. That I might have any ability at all. But until I’m threatened? Nothing. I appear to be some kind of pure fool.”
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Dear Unsure,

I think I can make this very simple for you, so I’m going to do that first and then I’m going to make this hard. Here is the simple solution: Leave him! Could you do it? I’m guessin’ you’d be cryin’ for this guy within a week and crying even harder six months down the road.

Continue reading Love and Money: Venus in the 8th House - Astrology-Based Advice

Dear Hat,

I have no idea what your signature means but I left it intact for others to puzzle over while I try to crack your problem, which I feel is far more common than the people realize or care to admit. And the cause, and the specifics from person to person are endlessly varied. But what you have in common is this: You have cracked 40 years old and you are alone. And I’ll tell you exactly why I think this is.
Continue reading Commitment Phobic In Her 40’s: What Now? Astrology-Based Advice

Dear Leo,

You sound like an addict and I am not trying to be insulting, I am trying to help you. Because you are killing your love here, a propensity shown in your chart courtesy your Venus Pluto conjunction and if you don’t stop this immediately and refocus on healing I am sure you will kill this love and then what? Chew your arm off?

The addictive tendency is also shown in your chart courtesy the Neptune squares… so what are you going to do here? Are you going to clean up your act or yearn for a situation where your act is cleaned up?

You have the power (in spades) to turn this around. It’s simple. Shut the hell up with your nasty comments. Protect your relationship (also Venus Pluto) by getting a therapist and yelling at him or her for a change while you get to the bottom of your problem here because judging by your last sentence there… I think you were far happier in love than you are in hate.

Good luck.

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Dear Libra,

I am very sorry you are hurting but I don’t think this man is confused and I can’t imagine he is coming back. What he is doing cutting you off and waiting for you to figure it out. He may be telling himself he does not want to hurt you but his game is cruel - and I strongly suggest you not only stop waiting on him and his supposed confusion, but that you cut all contact so you can cry your tears and begin to heal.

As for the astrology, you have five planets in Libra and besides your Saturn return coming up, you are facing a Pluto transit that will last for the next 15 years. Translated, you are heading into a very demanding time where losses like this will become a way of life. It is very important you learn to let go of what is not viable (what is dead) and this relationship is an introduction to this. In other words, your relationship with this guy is over. What you have is a corpse so walk away and pay attention when you do. Force yourself to be conscious of what you are doing (choosing to leave the dead thing) - This will help you.

Again, I am very sorry. Much love and good luck.

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Dear Motivated,

Yes I have advice. Slow down. Slow way, way, down and I don’t mean this in a way that is condescending. And I don’t mean it as if “she’s going to grow up or out of this… or the relationship is going end sort of way.” I mean it as an astrologer looking at your chart. Slow down in love because this is the speed that is organic to you.

Now I don’t care if you are 25 years old. You have Venus in Capricorn and Saturn tied with Mars and your 7th house and this love thing is serious business to you. Your email reflects this and I think that’s a wholly positive sign - so what I would encourage you to do is get even more on your game via self awareness.

Aquarius Sun aside, be aware that when it comes to love, you are a like a wobbly kneed mountain goat trying to reach the heights. And for a skinny-legged goat to manage this, there is no choice but to move slowly and carefully up the side of the mountain. And when you get to certain points… well you might want to take a rest, plot your moves before taking the next step so you can have a sure foot. This is your game and there is nothing wrong with it.

So that’s my advice. Go forward, absolutely. Don’t dare give into the fear but make your moves only when you real reasonably sure it is safe, understanding that for you what is ‘reasonably safe” is probably ultra-safe and bullet proof for most.

Good luck.

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Dear Wondering,

Some might say you got what you deserved but I feel very sorry for you because it’s obvious you are deeply pained. I also feel sorry for your current man because he is in love with a woman who is in love with another man. But mostly I feel sorry for you because 18, 19, 20, etc. is way too young to expect a person to recognize, appreciate and manage real love and there is no pain in the world like losing your true partner. I am very sorry and I will answer your specific questions the best I can.

On judging the thoughts of your ex that come to you, don’t bother. This is out of your control. You have your Moon, Venus and the Black Moon Lilith conjunct in Pisces and square Uranus and there is no way you’re going to be able to repress that. The yearning (Pisces) is part of your nature as is the random eruptions (Uranus). You’d be better off to accept the fact you’re going to feel and think about this guy for the rest of your life.

On the question of you and your ex beating the odds, I would vote thumbs up on that because I believe true love is unstoppable.

On the idea of letting go the yearning, by all means do so. Just don’t be surprised when it comes back the next day, the next week… etc.

I wish I had a magic solution for you but I am afraid this is your nature. I would not marry and have babies with someone I did not love. No one deserves that. And don’t get to thinking this man who wants to marry you is this only other option out there because this world is vast.

Much love and good luck.

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