Being bored is a dealbreaker. And I need emotional depth. So, yes, sparkles and depth. It’s a tall order

Unfaithfulness is top of my list of deal breakers - lots of Scorpio.

One thing I learned the hard way is the importance of being very upfront with your deal breakers. That can save time and heartache.

Another thought is this: Make a list of all the deal breakers you can come up with. Then reduce it down to the absolute worst. Saturn is still in Virgo and nitpicking can get out of hand! Keep in mind nobody’s perfect including ourselves . . .

Well the soldier offends virtually everyone eventually.

So do I so perfect match.

You’ve certainly won mine, Elsa.

My dealbreakers? Along those same lines: someone who doesn’t respect me. I’d rather be alone than be subjected to the behavior of someone who doesn’t respect me.

Also, they need to have an active mind, be curious about the world, and be unafraid of going DEEP.

Dealbreakers:

- Unfaithfulness. I have a strong Cancer Moon squared by Pluto. Someone with a wandering eye. This just doesn’t make me very comfortable.

- A man that still lives at home (I’ve been independent since I was 21. There are things that change when you are independent and on your own. I like to have my partner know what it’s like to pay bills, maintain a home, etc… Not rely on Mommy and Daddy for everything. You’d be surprised how many men in Canada still live at home).

- A man who CANNOT stand up for himself.

I am one of those who really hates fighting (as in, angry verbal exchanges– there are other ways to fight, of course). I have done it in relationships and I find I’m way happier without it. But that doesn’t mean that I think people who fight in relationships are unhappy. Just me. If you are prone to raising your voice a lot, that’s a dealbreaker for me.

My birthday is tamarra, and it’s looking like it might be a relationship year (more on that in a minute). Dealbreakers? God, if only I could figure it out. I’m thinking back, remembering. The part of the relationship that I struggle with is when the newness wears off and nitpicking gets going. It seems like little resentments build up over time and they’re tough to overcome. I have Uranus in the first, Mars in Sadge in the fourth, and an Aries moon. So I have this freedom issue as well. No easy subject for me, relationships. Friendships? I’m good on those. A loyal friend and an ally. I will back people up (Leo J?). At any rate, women are sort of descending upon me right now (last encounter was at the supermarket a couple hours ago), which is not the usual trend (I go in spurts–when it rains, it pours). As far as I can tell, I’m not doing anything different than when I get a polite smile and a “hello.” Who knows? I do know that Jupiter is either transiting my 7th already or about to cross into it. (Oh, one other thing: I was basically raised by my three older sisters, who rigorously trained me with table manners. Plus, I’m a Libra. So bad manners at the table are a dealbreaker.)

Dorothy, I totally agree with you.

Abuse of any kind, emotional,physical,of me or my children and drug abuse/addiction. This is my absolute.

Overly clingy/overly insecure, control freaks, people who aren’t honest with themselves.

Disloyalty/indecisiveness. Don’t vacillate about whether we should be together, and don’t threaten to leave every time we fight. Commit or not, dammit.

My husband knows a lot and talks a lot. Some people think when he’s sharing info that he’s showing off or trying be better than them some how. He really isn’t. He just figures if you don’t know it’s better to tell you. And he remembers so much random stuff. I mean, he should go on a game show and win money because he knows a lot.

I usually love it because I love that he’s smart! Sometimes though it’s disappointing when I hear something or learn something and share with him only to find out, he already knew. Or worse, that I already knew but forgot.

Clingy, obsessive, or smothering - big yuck. Aries Venus and Uranus in the 7th. I need way too much space for my own good. Is it too weird to want to live in separate households?

Reading this post and the one about Scorpio stellium people tendency to “fix” their partners psychologically I ,had a kind of a revelation: The one thing that I’d consider a dealbreaker in a relationship is the lack of emotional support. I can definitely do with imperfect people, with a whole lot of problems. I’ve been with someone with serious substance abuse problem who never considered the relationship exclusive. But these weren’t dealbreakers. It was when he left me completely alone in a time I would have needed him I said enough.

Also, this is what’s causing most problems in my current relationship. My partner just doesn’t seem to know how to react to people getting emotional. Not just me, I see it also with children - he has nephews he adores, but I can tell he is completely lost when they get emotional.

Hahaha Michele …no its not weird at all!!I think a lot of people would be happier living separate, but I also have venus in aries and uranus in 7th, so…:)

dealbreaker is not respecting the other persons path, I just could never be with someone who just viewed me as an assesorie to their life…and I hope I never treat anyone like it either..in a comitted relationship I think u have to think all the time that this other person is coming from a different angle than you , they grew up with differnt sourroundings , dreams , visions ect…