Hey Elsa,
I totally agree. I’m a 6 or 7 in looks (mercury and venus conjunct in Taurus, 9th house). Yet, I’ve had incredible romantic success based on my intellect and giant, open, loving, sexual, sensual self. It comes across. My girlfriend, on the other hand is literally a gorgeous model, venus conjunct mars in gemini, 12th house. She is everyone’s ideal and before we met she was used, lonely, not listened to, just an object or arm candy. I would not like to appeal to everyone. It’s a recipe for emptiness.

I really wish it were that easy.

I look forward to more of this. I wasn’t quite clear on exactly *how* to use your Venus, except not to deviate from what you are.
Libra Venus, and not attracting anything worthwhile. I do have a sort of generic appeal, so that gets me superficial attention; but I get very tired of rejecting people and setting boundaries. It’s a constant reminder of not getting what I want. I’d love more info on how to attract the good one(s) and being less attractive to the dogs.

Sorry, I had to add another comment, which was that with Venus in Aries, I’ve learned to be very careful expressing what I desire. It comes true. About 10 years ago, I thought I might be gay, and within 3 days of saying it aloud, along came a lady. The exact opposite of what I was expecting–no processing time–and in true Aries fashion I threw myself right into the fire. It ended badly. And in case anyone actually cared, no, I’m not actually gay. Just very, very impulsive when it comes to love. On the upside, when I felt ready for serious love relationship, I found it.

Venus in Libra here. Supposedly a good placement but it’s kind of a one-off in my chart, not really connected to anything but Uranus. So I guess I want an unusual love with an equal. So true. I also know that I have a hard time integrating the charm of a Libran Venus with the rest of my intense Scorpionity. But there is a soft, sweet, sort of girlish side to me that men appreciate if I feel safe enough to let it show. I look forward to more on this subject!

Carrie - I am going to do my best to address this, but this topic is immense in my mind. I have no choice but to allow it to unfold organically because my mind just doesn’t work any other way.

Right now, I am struggling… or incubating is a better word, how I might communicate my ideas and unfortunately I am incubating a million other things that come to front as they damned well please which is why you see things in spurts on this blog.

I am afraid this is my personality but can see an upside.

The disruption allows people time to integrate ideas and have their own thought processes…. they make comments which get me pregnant and give me direction like yours did and hopefully we all progress???

LMAO, Carrie. That’s a nice way to characterize my fractured mind! Unbeknownst to me, I know what I’m doing… er… right?

Carrie, thanks for that. If nothing else, I try to be a diversion. You can look over here while your life fixes itself.

well, as far as the aries venus goes….
the kind of men i tend to like are attracted to me but don’t tend to actually do much about it until i run after them.
shy, or something. i have no problem with shy as long as i’m appreciated. what i don’t get is that i’m so darn shy myself but i can still chase someone down if i think they’re actually worth chasing.

My Venus is pretty much exactly conjunct my South Node, in Gemini. I can kind of get how the Gemini thing affects my Venus, but I don’t know what to do with the South Node thing.

I looked up my synastry chart with my husband, and my Venus is trine his Mars. I guess that’s a good sign, maybe he loves something about me that I take for granted (South Node), who knows…

Ah, Wyrdling. We are of the same stuff. I have this situation happening now. And I’m like HEY I’m shy too!

But, Elsa, you once told me that I’m going to want the man who is attracted to me. I think there’s something in being recognized for who we are that’s attractive. If I’m trying to be barbie, and there’s this guy who’s into me, I’m not going to like him back - cause I ain’t barbie!

But when I meet the main who recognizes me for being brainy and eccentric, sensual and feminine and all the other things that are the very essence of me, then I’ll also be very attracted to him. Kind of a “takes one to know one,” theory too.

The thing I feel most about my Venus is it’s in my 4th. Yeah, it’s in Virgo and that’s supposed to be uncomfortable and whatnot. But I feel like love is the most fundamental part of me. I’ve never had a problem feeling or expressing that I love someone, and I feel like it just comes out of my soul like it’s so easy. But that big ol’ square to Neptune has prolly confused me into some bad choices. I always find myself with 10th or 12th-house Venus people who don’t seem to connect with their feelings of love as easily. So, looking forward to hearing more on this.

Speaking of double sign my venus is in Libra. NO wonder I painted my whole room pink when I was a girl! lol in the twelvth…

This is sort of my prime directive, finding a satisfying love relationship……..

I don’t do a lot of attracting…. I think I sort of have a leave me alone vibe even when I want to be attractive. It’s like the composure get’s stuck in the on position…. Venus in Scorpio, sun, moon conjunct Venus, Venus square ascendant, Venus Trin Saturn…. It’s complicated…. Mostly I do the looking, probing, feeling, searching, testing…… I am very shy, and intense, and selective when it comes to opening myself up romantically. I look to mate for life….(Saturn in cancer in the 5th house) When I find love, I can be a bit manic expressing my volcanic fervor…… My partners have been few and far between, but they were all(most) quality and we learned stuff from each other…..

I might have finally found what I am looking for….. but I will have to travel 1734 miles and work out some details to find out……

Despite having a Venus-ruled Ascendant and Venus in Pisces in the 5th house battered by outer planet aspects, I still feel most comfortable and authentic with my boyfriend when ‘being’ my Gemini moon (also battered by aspects), which closely squares my Venus. I do miss some of the dreamy Pisces Venus stuff, (it doesn’t do much for his Venus in Aries, alas) but I think I get that back by losing myself in Neputunian pursuits like film and music.

lol, Wyrdling and Stephanie - this happens to me all the time. Venus in Aries, but mostly Saturn/Cap influence. I attract the shy quiet types and nothing happens until I initiate. I’m comfortable with my capricorn energy, but it’s taken me a long time to accept the Aries side. Hunting makes one vulnerable to rejection. And damn it, I’m shy too!

I usually don’t succeed at being anything other than myself, so I’ve learned to just accept it. I am always amused though by the discrepency between what other people think I am, what I think I am, and what I actually am.

I have Venus in Aquarius, 1st house, sextile Uranus, conjunct my Moon and semi sex my Asc. and Semi Squ my Neptune.

With my Moon and Mars in Aquarius as well it seals it…I am myself and if you can’t love the strange little girl that I am and my mind then I can’t be with you. I love all of my friends they are all my soul mates so I always feel surrounded by love.

Unfortunately in romance I am attracted to the “I love you…now change!” dudes. Like all the sudden I can’t shave half of my head or touch food with my fingers in public.

(raises hand) Another Venus in Aries here! Every man that I have been attracted to has been attracted to me too, so…. I don’t think I have a problem getting the guy I want. As they say - be careful what you wish for/want. Are they “right” for me? I have no idea. Maybe not, most of the time.

Venus in Aries here too LOL. It is conjunct the 8th house cusp, and I don’t feel it has much of the good stuff associated with being in the 7th. All I have read on how Venus in Aries is a fast flame that burns out fast, sure doesn’t resonate at all with me.

The placement is very Scorpionic “to me”. The problem I see is that Venus in Aries is a Warrior Wench and on the hunt, and doesn’t recline passively and “attract” while having herself fanned and fed peeled grapes. Aries doesn’t make my Venus “fall in love with love” and lose interest at all.

Seems to me that is what I have been attracting though, they burn out and run. So I guess I am projecting and that makes me damned sad, because I deserve better.. a lot better!

Homogeneity is so mallish.
I was drawing yesterday - an allegory of a meditation I had about a journey I went on. I just could not capture myself. I had always drawn myself with long dark hair and roundish - which is what I used to be. I recently cut my hair and found that I kept drawing myself as a man, but I am feeling very feminine at the moment. Eventually I got it and it was when I turned the head around to look backwards at where she had come from. I liked how I came out - still roundish.
It is a fascinating journey how age changes us and brings different aspects into focus - how laugh lines cusion our eyes, how our breasts get motherly, but always there is beauty. How could we mess with this. How could it all be about attracting a man?
Venus in Pisces, loving getting to know herself alone after many years of BIZZARRE relationships!!

Thanks and welcome, spidermoon.

12th house Venus - i feel my beauty/love nature is hidden/invisible. Maybe not from women, but from men. And this Venus is a Leo Venus –
How does one attract FROM the 12th House???

Venus in Aquarius here….and I found when I was still single….I have limited appeal. I’m sort of an acquired taste so to speak. But seeing as my sun AND midheaven are Aquarian too…. well it didn’t bother me. As for whom I’m attracted to the guy HAS to give me breathing room, no one too clingy and when it comes down to it… if the person isn’t interested in me…. I’m not attracted to them. Luckily I met my good match 13 years ago and we’ll be celebrating our 6th wedding anniversary this year. (Darn Caps always have to be super sure before they marry you, didn’t believe my intuition!)

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I’ve got Venus in Aquarius conjunct my MC and Pallas Athena. It seems really cold at first, but I also have a lot of water and really strong Pluto. So I’m kind of like a Viking. I feel like (and I’ve been told countless times) that a lot of men aren’t ready for me. Because I am a pretty strong woman, but not in the way that you’d expect. So the guys who like me because I seem to be really aggressive are always disappointed or intimidated when I show a bit of vulnerability, or the guys who like me because I seem really sweet and vulnerable are always disappointed or intimidated when I loudly express an opinion or displeasure at something they’ve done. I feel like it’s very hard for me to fully embrace that side of me, and I just have to tell myself that if I keep being myself, there’s bound to be SOMEONE out there who is ready for me, and furthermore, excited about me, as I am. (The upside, of course, is that with Venus in Aquarius, I refuse to conform to anyone’s damn beauty ideal and I think I still look pretty good, all things considered.)

Hey where is my comment?