1 Minute Astrology: Self Esteem - Got Any?
1 minute astrology
Self esteem! You either have it or you don’t. If you don’t have it and you want it, there is only one way you’re going to get it and picking on Elsa P is not it.
A message from the goat…
Have you earned your self esteem? Tell us!
24 Responses to “1 Minute Astrology: Self Esteem - Got Any?”
Someone once said something about self esteem that stuck with me; you need to have something to be esteemed for/about. You are so right, it can not just be handed out like a trophy or a ribbon. Terrific blog/vid. I am solid with who I am, but I also know I have a long way to go.
Elsa, it is so true that some folks gain a false sense of self-esteem by attacking others, I have seen this in my life almost on a daily basis. The ideas put forth in your video are an example of your great gift: to cut away all the crap and describe what’s been exposed.
I also agree that self-esteem is an earned thing. Even if a child is cherished and loved and kept safe from harm from the cradle forward, that child is still going to have to learn to stand on their own two legs and doing that will give them the kind of self-esteem that no one can take away from them. I think we humans find out what we are made of only when we are tempered by the fires of adversity.
what a GREAT video! I have finally gained some self esteem , and you are exactly right! It is definitely earned through hard knocks and learning curves (and counseling in my case),NOT by putting down others. Keep up the good work and thanks again for all you do.
The best thing that ever happened for my self esteem was to lose everything at once, and still survive it. After the spiritual awakening that ensued I realized that nothing about me is defined by anything or anyone outside of me. That freed me totally of the disempowering ‘people pleasing’ “need” which makes so many people do so many things that are not healthy for themselves and others.
But I do remember being that shy child who lacked self esteem, and the last thing she would have thought to do is attack someone else to improve her own self esteem. That kids was afraid of her own shadow and never would have had the assertiveness or self-regard to even stand up for herself, let alone pick on others. The way I see it, picking on people seems like a really twisted way to go about trying to get some self esteem, and I am kind of curious about the astrology of that. Something to do with the second house, I’ve heard.
You know what’s funny, I have such a better sense of self and larger self-esteem since I’ve become more subdue, mature, laid-back, etc…
I think that’s kinda odd for a Leo, no?
It feels amazing though. Never been more content with who I am.
I would also be interested in the astrology of being a bully, since I am so repulsed by them.
As far as earning my self-esteem, I should probably have much more of it than I do. It is easy to get caught up in wondering why everyone else’s life seems so much easier/better/charmed/secure, etc. I went through this a great deal when I was first made aware that yes, I have a child with special needs, and my journey with this child was going to be completely different than I envisioned. What did I do wrong, and why am I being punished, why is she being punished, but that all passes, and she is just my child, and I am her mother. I have seen other’s “perfect” children grow up to be drug addicts, college drop-outs, got pregnant in high school, whatever, I am just saying I realized that thinking someone else’s life is worry-free is of course ridiculous. I have always risen up to every challenge life has thrown my way, so yes, I do believe I have earned my self-esteem.
yes, i’ve got it, and yes, i’ve earned it, by trying to do and be my best all of my life. from making sometimes hard decisions that felt right in my gut instead of capitulating to others’ opinions, even when they meant well. even when it cost me greatly to forge my own path. and i find my own self-esteem enhanced by trying to build others up, and diminished by the flip side of tearing down, regardless of my perception of “rightness.”
I guess I just don’t give a shit what other people think about me.
I like me. I think I’m awesome. I have some sticking points, but all in all I love the person I am.
In truth, the only person I have choice but to be with for the rest of my life is me. I’d rather I be happy with me than have other people like me.
So you’re saying that you have to do things you believe are deserving of self-esteem to have it? I.e. show a strong character, show your good qualities in some way. And then you respect yourself as the sum of your qualities? Do you mean that by “earning” your self esteem? As in doing something to earn your own respect? What if you have it right off the bat?
I tend to think that personality, the character traits you show to the world, is a complex layer that must be distinguished or peeled away before someone has a sense of their true self. When I imagine my true self without comparing myself to other people, the sense is almost empty. But then again, in astrology, the Rising Sign is part of who you are.
Elsa, you are so open and authentic, and it’s clear that this is so because you have accepted all parts of yourself. It’s strange how this causes some people to try to break this down. Could be jealousy because they don’t know how to get there. Would have to be so deep that they are unaware… if they were aware, they wouldn’t be breaking themselves against you. Your authenticity is so attractive, and probably the reason we are all here… including those who are attacking. We all want to have this higher self. Thank you for sharing it.
Michele, thank you. I’ll tell ya, I can’t ^(%@$ understand it. I have had a life no one would want to live - a life that would inspire compassion from the hardest of hearts anywhere on this planet and still I draw fire everywhere I go.
I swear if people knew who they were shooting at they would die of shame.
If a strong sense of self & self-esteem are NOT based on real time experiences, we find out when Saturn comes along by transit. This is often why the first Saturn Return is full of hard, hard lessons.
I grew up knowing what I was capable of doing physically but was terribly unsure of myself socially. It really wasn’t until after my Saturn Return I started to believe I did have something to offer others . . .
Elsa, you are a great human being, no doubt about it. There are plenty of us who love you as you are! 
I remember watching this video a while back. At first I wasn’t quite clear what “earning self esteem” meant until I made it through the peak of my Saturn Return.
I have a Venus/Saturn earth trine and I would say that self-esteem really IS earned. It’s hard work! The work you did for yourself really cannot be taken away from you - it’s your own!
I used to be a person without it, but after the self-exploration that I’ve done in the last few months, I would say I have self-esteem now and I’ll continue to earn my dues through working harder!
I’m not past making incredibly foolish mistakes, but I do have stronger self-esteem now…born of honesty and self-awareness and an ability to both forgive and laugh at myself. I have definintely become more aware via astrology, Elsa and this blog. As for the bullies…my understand is that their true self image (not the puffed up fighting one) is less than zero and self-loathing is projected outwards. Someone didn’t love them, they don’t love themselves and you’re in front. Working with kids, I often see bullies in the making and I work hard to find the ways to help them feel good about themselves and to turn it around.
I think a couple of things have caused me to develop self esteem. Coming from an abusive household, thrust into foster care at age 16 (while my brother was sent to an elite private shool… I was told by my father that the male child has all priority- I KID YOU NOT!) I have learned everything the painful way. I do wish they’d teach self esteem in Jr. High to these young girls, it would give them a short cut around the crap that is dished out on young women these days.
Self Esteem Earners
Know Thyself
Know Thy Shadow, Embrace Thy Shadow, Love Thy Shadow
What really matters is the quality of your heart and soul
Walk your walk and talk your talk
Don’t waste one minute of your time with abusive people
Walk a mile in another person’s shoes
The Attitude is Gratitude
Surround yourself with kind people (sometimes this is hard, esp. at work)
Stand up straight
Say what you mean and mean what you say
And because we live in such a shallow world: develop a sense of style.
Don’t take yourself seriously
And try not to take things personally (that’s really really hard!)
Know thyself
Love your shadow
Love yourself
Walk you walk and talk your talk
Develop integrity
Never do anything for the money
Develop an attitude of gratitude
Walk a mile in someone else shoes
Gain wisdom from your challenges
Elsa,
I would love to compare notes with you. Maybe sometime we can swap stories.
And hey, do you have anything to say about Women Who Are Jealous of Other Women for no particular reason? There are lots of websites dedicated to the Horrible Things Women Do To Other Women. It’s an old story but I’d like to hear your philosophical (or astrological) take.
Someone told me this awhile back, “To have self esteem one must do something esteemed” if that makes sense. It just hit the nail on the head for me. Those who are esteemed have no problem seeing those deeds when others do them. And saying job well done. I was not raised like that but you can bet your sweet bippy (ah, when does one actually get to say that?) my kids are. And my grand kids will be too.
(((Elsa)))
I’m a pisces, so this is out of character, but sometimes all they deserve is a ’screw you’.
so hu….an aries with capricorn rising and cancer moon is not born with self esteem??? what?
lol
aries are so egocentric and it comes so naturally either from a place of insecurity compensation or tremendous earning POWER.
as an aries i agree with you 100 percent…it if weren’t for my crazy mother…i would not be as confident as I am today…what a blessing to be forced to speak publicly at a young age…or embark upon a project and complete it…completion not winning but completion and follow through is where self esteem comes from…
go with in find the inner child develop her/he and follow through, face challenges, complete projects, follow through with commitments..yes integrity is self esteem.!!!!
true validation comes from within…
V for validation!
i am here for your authenticity BTW….i randomly found you not so randomly..lol
and i can smell BS a mile away (because I am full of it!) lol you are not a bullshitter…hey the world wants to live in denial…so when you tell the truth….you will draw fire….every truth seeker and truth teller, soothsayer is persecuted…
join the ranks miss goat!
…You just haven’t earned it yet, baby
You just haven’t earned it, son
You just haven’t earned it yet, baby
You must suffer and cry for a longer time
You just haven’t earned it yet, baby
And I’m telling you now …
__The Smiths
i have to go with neith here. i didn’t even start to build a solid sense of self worth until my first saturn return.
i’m still trying to figure that stuff out (it wasn’t all that long ago)
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I have. With moon/pluto and sun/saturn squares in my natal chart I guess it was never going to come easily…but it has finally come.
I’ve earned my self-esteem by accepting my faults. As in:not beating myself up and accepting that being as deeply flawed as I am, I’m essentially alright.