1 Minute Astrology - Venus, Neputne, Love And Delusion: People Who Want To Marry You (In Droves) When They Don’t Even Like You…
1 minute astrology
This is from 2008, in honor of the current sky where Venus in Leo opposes Neptune and Jupiter in Aquarius which is very similar to the energy in my natal chart. The text below is from February 2009 and requires no update.
I claimed (quite correctly) that at least 40 men had proposed to me in my life and Bella asked on Venus Neptune Getting Married:
What is the astrology for that level of proposal mania?
I stated I had to dodge weddings as if they were bullets and I am reposting this because it takes on a new meaning when you have the back story.
For the record, my first marriage proposal came when I was 12 years old… there were two of them actually, there was a competition going and it was horrendous. My most recent proposal came 2 days ago, and not from the soldier.
I will explain this in text in another post but here is the old video. You will see I am emphatic in it and this is because people have been trying to marry my hologram since puberty and it is completely exasperating. I am mistaken for a “wife” more often than I am mistaken as a “whore” or an “alcoholic” a “bad parent” etc. and that is staying something!
I’m a control freak magnet! This is what happens when you have Uranus in the 7th (love at first sight) and Venus square Neptune on the midheaven (Delusion!!).
Er… excuse my fervor but I just don’t like suntan pantyhose…
50 Responses to “1 Minute Astrology - Venus, Neputne, Love And Delusion: People Who Want To Marry You (In Droves) When They Don’t Even Like You…”
“Why don’t you find somebody you like and leave me the hell alone?”
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nail on the head, Elsa.
LOL this is so good!
What a mess in those guys’ heads and all because of you 
Well, I was raised by two Gemini and I was always able to speak my mind. Yet, I can see myself trying to adjust to what somebody else would want me to be, as sad as it feels to say it. I wouldn’t change if they told me to, but I’d try if I felt that’s what they wanted. I still have a lot to grow on these issues obviously.
Rationally I find it ridiculous and even impossible. It’s similar to the “not that into you” situation. Those men needed to understand that you were not what they idealized and move on to a more appropriate situation.
“does pluto transit 12th figure here?”
4tuna - I don’t think so. I have been this pissed off about this for many years… like a dozen or maybe 15. That little rant is yet the tip of the iceberg what I have to say on this subject! 
I don’t shave my legs in the winter because what’s the point? I wear pants and I don’t have a significant other. However, you’d never believe how many people get deeply offended by this! Like, “WHAT? Gross?! Why don’t you shave your legs!? You should shave your legs!” Well, no I don’t want to. Their my legs, you can’t even see them so what’s the hang up. I don’t get why women have such issues with body hair, it’s like a moral issue for most of them, especially other people’s. lol.
Yaaay!!! Way to go, Elsa!!
As someone with Uranus in the 7th & trine both Sun & Moon, I have spent my life insisting on being me. Having lots of Libra, I was more polite about it but am extremely stubborn. Like spending a year at college in a program my mom pushed, proving I could do it, then returning to what I wanted to do in the first place, ignoring the protests.
Question, if you don’t mind, Elsa (and everyone else):
You talked about the 7th house and projection a few weeks ago. And the 7th house also reflects what people project on us?
Oh, sorry, I misunderstood. I saw ‘Uranus in the 7th House’, missed ‘Venus square Neptune (Delusion!!)’. 
I guess the control freak’s controlling tendencies would show in his/her chart then. But that doesn’t explain why they are drawn to you… rather than project their delusions on someone else? (Maybe they do?)
This made me laugh out loud. I love the things you come out with. “Why don’t you find somebody you like and leave me the hell alone?”… great stuff, Elsa!
Any man who is vocally pro-suntan-pantyhose is going to be a gigantic bummer in a matter of weeks if not days. Run don’t walk. Same with any guy who cares about someone shaving her legs more than having fun at dinner w/her. God! As if any of us have enough time to worry about this kind of stuff.
I love this video!
This video is so funny & inspiring–I like that makes the idea of plasticizing oneself clearly as stupid & ridiculous as it actually is. Thank you.
I had to get rid of that hat about 13 years ago and I am still somewhat sad about it… along with this one pair of boots I thought I was too mature for.
::laughs::
I was so wrong about that.
this really hits home to my venus/neptune “they don’t want to let go of the fantasy of who i might be if only i wasn’t me”
i’m still working my head around realizing that the fact i wasn’t *whoever they thought i was* doesn’t mean there was something wrong with me (that i wouldn’t change, sorry.)
anyway. the point packs a punch. thanks.
Woooohoooo! That was great!!!
Preach it!
When I was young, I married a guy who, I found out three months into the marriage, wanted a sweet petite blonde wife with a tiny little ass. Guess what? I’m tall, built like an Amazon, had flaming red hair at the time, and my moneymaker gives you two hands full and change. Nor am I all that sweet at times. Why did this man marry me?? Was it Uranus in the 7th? We spent a year in couples therapy and the therapist never once addressed that he was trying to change me into something I wasn’t. She framed it into objectification, sex addiction, etc., and dragged it out for ages. I fixed it myself and walked.
So here’s to the gold hat gals. Elsa got her man and so can we.
Love it! This Aries rising and Leo Sun/Mars never believed in toning down who she was for anyone.
I’ve had the same problem over the years, and I suspect it’s the projecting as well. These guys see the Libra DSC (I also have three planets in Libra, including the Moon), and think I’m this sweet, quiet, well-spoken thing. I am that, but it’s only one part of me. A lot of them were like, “Where did this feistiness come from?” when they got to know me. I always said, if you don’t like it, walk. Saved me a lot of grief.
That’s hilarious, Elsa! Sounds like a dangerous placement!
Charlotte, hah. I used to be embarrassed in 6th grade that I didn’t shave my legs. I am so puzzled by American attitudes about non-hirsuteness and body image. Particularly (thank god you can say “taboo” things on this blog) the debate about shaving one’s private parts.
My Aquarius mom tells me people are different/you can’t change anyone or rather don’t place anyone on the Procrustian bed all the time, but it hasn’t been drilled into me yet. I feel like I should be annoyed by it.
I’m annoyed like crazy with my Aquarian friend who got mad when I used the word “don’t” in this context: “Don’t tell this secret to anybody else.” She asked me if I think friends should be obedient like dogs. It’s idiotic to rebel for no reason. I said that because she would betray me if she didn’t. I’m not the man, she gains nothing by sticking it to me. Grr, sometimes Uranian attitudes can be extreme to the point of stupidity. To the point when my friend is no longer on my team.
At the same time, I get pissed when someone is limited by authority figures. Particularly when parents make a child be something out of vanity or “knowing what’s best for them” and they just meekly go along.
‘If you don’t like me, go away and leave me alone’?
Lord, the number of times I’ve said that.
max
['But I have Uranus in the 11th, natch.']
AVERY:
I’m tall, built like an Amazon, had flaming red hair at the time, and my moneymaker gives you two hands full and change.
^^^^ I LOVED YOUR POST! I LOOK THE WAY YOU DESCRIBE BUT I DON’T HAVE RED HAIR. LOVED THE MONEYMAKER COMMENT. BRILLIANT
As for me, men ALWAYS want to change me but I don’t know where I can find this in my chart. I was brought up with negative critical parents so, unfortunately, have always caved into these pressures. Probably explains why I end up horribly depressed in nearly every relationship I’ve been in!!!
This never happens to me…probably because if anyone tries to put their two bits in about ‘what I should be’ I resist resist resist…I resist by leaving. In about 2 seconds flat.
To quote Mr T…pity the fool. (Taurus Sun opposed Uranus MC)
Oh yeah, and lest I forget: my SO is exactly the same: we both hate being told what to do. So here is the key, no? Find yourself a maverick?
Krista, maybe it could be a lot of second house action in a chart, issues about self worth — which I thnk can heal just by hanging out on Elsa’s blog, a self esteem oasis.
I don’t think that first guy really saw Yellow and purple Elsa. He saw his suntan panty hose fantasy and something in him assumed you would play that out for him. It interesting with Neptune on the angle with Venus aspect. I know one lovely lady with Neptune (in scorpio) on the ascendant and Venus in tenth.
Whenever she went to a restaurant the waitress always got her order incorrect. She gave up just accepting the wrong meal and instead of eating it, she sent it back. In fact she eventually would make a point to the waiter about her order, you know, looked him in the eye in the here and now. It seems that unless she clinked a glass or clapped her hands before ordering the waiter would be off in narna narna land with his or her fantasy, like being in a different reality. Interesting stuff indeed.
kingsley
Elsa,
One of your best contributions yet in my view. Still, I often wear suntan pantyhose, mainly on my head when I go to the bank…
;o))
Paul
Elsa this was fantastic! I havent had a chance to watch all the videos yet so Im catching up but this had me in stitches. And I loved how you said everything in this video so passionately and loud.
“Why dont you find someone you like and leave me the hell alone”
This one is a classic. Im totally showing this to video to mum, shes going to get a crack outta this.
ROFL. I rarely laugh out loud when I am doing blogs, but this did it. The thing about the lady not being dead was funny, but this one got the laugh out loud.
A guy I was dating once said to me “You don’t like being told what to do, do you?” I replied, “Why would I NEED to be told what to do?”
My husband and I have a composite uranus in 7th…it looked like a summer fling with a shipwrecked foreigner…but here we are, 14 years later against the odds (and what odds!!)
Do we like each other? Most of the time, maybe it´s that 11th house composite sun.
I watched that video before, and it makes me laugh. You are so right! I have an aquarian moon. No interfering with my ways thank you
I will have to remember that phrase and use it often, “Why don’t you find someone you like and leave me alone?” (adding a few expletives). My second husband decided we were preppy people (the 90’s) so he literally bought my clothes that I was allowed to wear and controlled the money and everything else. When he met me I was wearing a coral cotton skirt and sneakers, I’m half asian and he wanted us to be Irish! He’s not even really Irish, just a wannabe. After I married him hesitantly and found myself in this pickle, I thought to myself, why me? I can’t fathom the rest of my life going to Irish bars and listening to the same songs over and over and over (the beer is fine though). Just go find a blue eyed blond to play this game with you and leave me alone. But I didn’t say that and I should have. That marriage wasn’t easy to get out of….My first husband thought I was a lesser on the intellectual realm because I never talked or communicated to him. HE DID ALL THE TALKING ALL THE TIME, IT WAS ALL ABOUT HIM AND OFCOURSE HE WAS ALWAYS RIGHT. It’s all so funny now! I am much more aware now and will never let this happen again. I take responsibility for my part and lesson learned.
“…suntan pantyhose”—-HAHAHAHA!!!
“Hell no, I can’t keep it down, I’m Italian!”
Elsa, I can’t help it but I LOVED that statement I’ve been told SO MANY TIMES in my life I NEED to keep it down. I came from a loud Asian family myself and most of the time I’ve dated guys who are expecting some softspoken Asian girl! hahah… I just thought this resonated with me so well!
Thanks making my day so far
Ok - I see how that can happen now! Very inspiring video - reminds me of when you told me to be the tallest poppy in the field. There will be one person somewhere who can cope with my ‘knife’ and they need to be able to see me! Authenticity feels so bloody good.
“he wanted us to be Irish! He’s not even really Irish, just a wannabe”
ha ha ha ha ha ha hahahahahahh!!!!!
wow i didn’t notice it at first but your face reminds me of a libra sun i know with venus in leo. something about the eyes and the nose, its quite distinct
kashmiri-yeah, his family was Brittish, German, Scottish,lol. This is how I realized that he was creating false images and lying even when there was no need to do so. Then when he started demanding that I too back up his lies, I knew i was he end and that I had made a terrible mistake. After divorcing he decided to start telling our kids that since they were not baptized they would to hell and weren’t they afraid of going to hell? Ofcouse these things went on during his annual, yes annual, visitations and the kids basically said, “No - we are not afraid of going to hell”. Then they just laughed at him. I was so proud of them. The fear of going to hell is a big one to overcome.
“The fear of going to hell is a big one to overcome.”
especially when you’re Irish ::rolls eyes at dana’s delusional fex::
I JUST read this:http://jezebel.com/5157226/marriage-magnet-doesnt-impress-women-who-arent-impressed-by-multiple-proposals
I’ve had one marriage proposal and it wasn’t the man I married. it wasn’t really a proper proposal– he had a ring but he didn’t actually ASK me; he just kind of offered the ring. he was doing it because I was leaving the country and he didn’t want to lose me.
the man I actually married it was more of an ongoing conversation/arrangement without an actual proposal.
a proper proposal with a ring would be nice. ::sigh::
never had a marriage proposal. some weird “i would marry you if [something impossible in present spacetime]” and “if you were my wife…” but no actual offers.
maybe they’re scared. who knows…
Wow. Never had one. But if I ever get one, I’d like it proper
“Hell no, I can’t keep it down, I’m Italian!”
LOL. I have the opposite problem. Mercury in Pisces conjunct mc
“the fear of going to hell is a big one to overcome”
Sure is…Good for for your kids! And you, too for getting the hell out of dodge (pardon the pun)
I have Neptune conjunct my ACS, squaring Venus at my MC.
I LOVED YOUR VIDEO!!!!
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Elsa,
This video is one of the most powerful posts any healthy human could make, especially in these days of wishy washy new agey sheep mentality.
The smiling depressives are surely threatened by people with your passion. You Go, Gold Hat!
does pluto transit 12th figure here?