When I was very young, interracial couples was still a social “issue” but now it’s very common and has dropped off the map as one. I think dating across socioeconomic status is more of an issue where I live.

Both sides of my family has a few interracial/cross-cultural couples/kids since the early 90s, so it’s normal for everyone. I have Venus in Sag and the interracial relationship is going well - I’m learning a lot about another culture/language too lol. I’ve dated Canadians, 2nd generation Canadians, and foreigners. I’ve had no problems b/c of that. However, I have not dated anyone whose religious beliefs were strict and tended toward a culture of avoiding inter-cultural marriage. I have seen relationships (e.g. Hindi/Muslim) that have broken up b/c of that but I’m not sure if socioeconomic status also played a significant role as well.

I think how your society views this plays a significant role. A friend moved to somewhere conservative, and it was incredibly difficult for her, someone even comparing her relationship to bestiality or cross-species dating

And I believe we’re all different, but we’re all ONE, alike, in so many ways. I would also like to add that this goes with my friendships too. Growing up I had a very diverse group of friends, mostly biracial.

My ex was Iranian, and a Muslim. The difference in religion wasn’t much of an issue, at least not to me. But my father didn’t like him at all, and so does most of the family. We broke up after a few months eventually. He wanted us to get back together, but being with him was too suffocating I let it go.

I did say before that I prefer someone from my own race, and would never ever date or marry (gasp!) a foreigner. That is until I fell for that guy. And now I guess I prefer foreigners (maybe it has something to do with my 8th house in Sag and Uranus’ placement there).

My Venus is in Leo. I have met an Italian man online through a networking site whose Venus is in Leo too. Well, that’s another story.

Have you ever fallen in love ‘cross cultural lines?
- Yes, had a couple of crushes and one, big love, that lasted 6 years mutually and took me other three to get completely over (a year of longing for him, two of bitterness).

How far ‘cross?
- I’m of a rural, Lutheran, North European background, he of a Catholic, Southern European, from a small town.

Did you have problems with your friends or families?
- None what so ever. His parents geinuinly seemed to love me, mine liked him. His father apparently took our breakup really badly. My friends knew already knew I loved Italian culture, so it was no
big surprice for them I’d get seriously involved with an Italian. His friends may have intially thought of me as an other “easy Scandinavian”, but I think I proved a point with my behaviour (I’d talk about soccer with other guys, but with Virgo rising that’s as far as I’ll go)

What was the end (or ongoing result)?
- Basicly, daily life. He grew up in a traditional family, with a mother who took her role as the housewife with an immense pride. Although he encouraged me to have a career outside, and helped with the housework, he still expected me to do or at least know how to do all the things his mother did. And that’s simply not me.

Where is your Venus?

- Scorpio, 3rd house, conjunct to Uranus and North Node. His: Leo, probably 4th or 5th house (his mother couldn’t remember the exact hour of birth)

*Have you ever fallen in love ‘cross cultural lines?
Oh certainly! I’ve dated across the map!

*How far ‘cross?
I’m not sure what this means but I guess I’ll illustrate in the terms I understand. I’m Asian (Filipino) and I’ve had caucasian, Italian (Elsa, correct me if I’m wrong but my ex didn’t consider himself “caucasian” since he’s Italian), and other Asian ethnicities (Filipino, Korean, Chinese). I’ve gone out with other guys of different cultures aside from the ones mentioned but those did not work out.

*Did you have problems with your friends or families?
One of my Filipino exes was from a different socio-economic class. There definitely was a problem there as attitudes from certain Filipinos coming from the city is different from those from the rural areas. His family had a very traditional hierarchy, which made me very uncomfortable. He wasn’t quite comfortable with the very openly affectionate and communicative family that i have either.

*Were you able to resolve them?
I guess you can say that. I had to break up with him. He’s a really good guy, but our goals, what we want in life really are totally different from each other. Plus, I want to raise future kids (if any) to be very open and communicative.

*What was the end (or ongoing result)?
Well… after much dating and relating to different men of different culture I deduced this: I’m attracted to who I am attracted to and obviously I prefer someone somewhat “close to home” yet someone who is very liberal like myself. I like dating men of a culture similar to mine, yet still has a very liberal/freethinking spirit. Men of Asian and Hispanic or mediterranean descent seem to fit the bill, but even then, many of them can be very traditional so it’s not that my dating pool has been wide to begin with

My boyfriend is Chinese-Canadian. I think what unites us both is the similarity in value systems and… well… we just like being around each other. We both agree that the similarities of both our cultures work in our relationship as well as being both Canadian.

*Where is your Venus?
Venus in Taurus 2nd house. Sextiling Moon and trining Saturn. opposing Uranus squaring Mars.

My 4th house Moon in Cancer also trines Uranus - which likely explains why I like “familiar” yet “different.”

Yup.

I am Hawaiian-Filipino-Chinese. The two mates in my life are European (haole in Hawaiian terms).

Have you ever fallen in love ‘cross cultural lines?

The crossing over has been huge. My Venus is in Sag, and in all ways my love of diversity has played big.

How far ‘cross?

Both the men I married were intrigued and curious with the ‘exoticness’ of island women. Early on, in the early ’70’s it was a time of exploration and rebellion … some of that fueled the reasons for my first marriage. I left my homeland, disconnecting the culture to adapt. That was a mistake I have learned to understand and circle back upon during the 1st and 2nd Saturn returns.

Did you have problems with your friends or families?

My family had trouble with me leaving the tribe. My friends on the island accepting the move with more acceptance and many island people have mixed marriages.
My own sense of self and cultural valuing went through huge ups and downs. After more than 20 yrs in another culture (white, small town America) I felt the inner explosions … I needed to reconsider the adaptations.

My 1st husband and I divorced soon after that.

Were you able to resolve them?

I have been resolving those issues over the past 15 yrs. I am married to a working man (like my father … old time laborer) from the mid-lands of America. Our marriage began later, when I was 50+.

His understanding of my culture, my baggage and my unadapted self is broad, accepting and we just LOVES ME! His original ‘curiosity for the exotic’ has been tempered by fire (with 5 signs in fire, I guess he would) and a journey lived in many places/situations.

He has a seeker’s soul and does not think I will just ‘be done changing’ as my first husband hoped. Today, our lives are more an earth culture with a daily appreciation for values that have simplified.

What was the end (or ongoing result)?

Ongoing result? We both love the Hawaiian culture and the influences of my Filipino and Chinese heritage. I am always aware of his Irish-Polish-Ukranian working people values. We play Chinese Checkers … and there is a funny scene to explain ‘ongoing results.’

Where is your Venus?
Venus in Sag conj Jupiter in 11th house

I fell in love with an indian guy and I’m pakistani. So cross-country & cross religion. It lasted two years then he buckled under the family pressure and married a girl chosen by his parents. He’s sticking to it honourably though. Taurus sun & moon with Virgo rising and Venus in Aries. Mine’s Pisces sun, Cancer moon, venus in Pisces 7th house- boundaries….

@vixen The only time that my family has ever not accepted a man I was dating was when I dated my last ex. It’s because he really was from a very rigid Filipino family and my family can sense that. They know what I am like as a person (very liberal-minded, freedom loving) and they were concerned that my ex restricted me a lot - which he did, though not intentionally.

Other than that, my family has always been accepting.

I just read what you wrote! Funny how mine went the other way around - I dated non-Asian men first before I realized what I really felt most comfortable with people of a similar culture but someone who is a freethinker like myself

I dated a European Portuguese guy when I was in my 20s. I’m white as can be, of German and Italian descent, and have Jupiter right on my descendant, ruling my 9th house. He was the love of my life, but for many reasons, none of them cultural, we couldn’t be together.

His parents were long gone (he was 14 years older than me), so I don’t know what he or his relatives (he was also an only child) would have thought of him dating a young, blonde American girl. I’m sure my parents wouldn’t have approved, more because of this big age difference than the cultural difference.

My parents grew up in culturally defined area, where you only married someone of your own culture (Polish with Polish, Italian with Italian, etc.). They would have been horrified if I dated someone of another race. They didn’t like me dating Irish guys because of old neighborhood prejudices. They know that all of that is completely irrelevant today, bu thow they were raised is ingrained in them.

I’ve had relationships with so many from other cultures that I could open up my own branch on the United Nations with my ex beaus, my dears. I’m over 50 now and was only married for one year. Persians, Palestian, Korean, a Chinese, East indian/South Asian, American Jewish, one German for a very short duration. Why travel when it can be brought to your door and your and your house hold?

The last one is an upper class WASP on the social register. That’s still on, sort of.

Venus in Leo, in tropical. Venus in Cancer in vedic. About five planets in the 11th house in tropical Less so in vedic but then my Moon goes into Satabhishak in vedic. Honoary Aquarian any way you look at it. Ketu in the4 7th, Rahu int he first. Same birthday as the late Mr. M. Jackson. I gotta kuja dosha which has done wonders for me picking the wrong fellows.

So do the query responder pool at hand meant that mostly Venus in leo and Sag are the ones having the foreig affairs or that we are the only ones bold enough to be answering your request?

I am in a “cross-cultural” relationship, but it doesn’t seem like one, since my boyfriend is so much my kind that questions of nationality or culture fade into the background. I’m american, and my man is from a very remote area of Europe. He grew up in a communist country, served in their army, worked as a contractor in a middle eastern country in the 80s and was able to defect from there. So he is not particularly identified with his home culture. However, we were raised very differently. I had a typical middle-class american upbringing, while he grew up in a house without running water or electricity. These differences have been more significant than the cultural differences.
I have Venus in Leo, 11th house (trine moon/jupiter in 7th).