Venus in Taurus…

I kind of think that if the logic of the composite chart is true, that there is a manifestation of a relationship, it’s hard to stop loving. Even if it doesn’t work out, you don’t talk to them, you don’t care about them anymore, it’s always there. Whether it’s activated or not is different.

I also like to think that if I invested a significant amount of time in someone, than some part of me has love for that person, because of whatever way it touched me, even if I refuse to admit it to myself, or refuse to let them into my life again.

venus in virgo. i think it’s possible to stop loving someone. i loved someone deeply for five years and then little by little i started to want more from the world. on the other hand there are a few people i will always love - but maybe that’s because they left first. anyway, i think you either grow together or you grow apart. same thing in the other direction, you can grow to love someone you weren’t madly in love with at first. at least that’s what my venus says…

Another Venus in Virgo here. I think that the “visitations” we get from past loves who return to us in dreams is evidence that love never dies. That is, if you define love in broad universal terms.

I tend to think that everyone we meet shapes us in some way - and that the quality of love you feel for some people may change and diminish over time. But even if it fades, it’s still there, a thread woven lovingly into the tapestry of your existence.

Ahhh… what IS love!?

I really resonate with the way you explained it, marlon-tenthirtyone.

But, I also do think it is possible to stop loving someone,or at least I agree with what Elsa said which is “as far as I know”. I may feel some universal love, caring, knowing for some beings who have behaved to the point that I no longer can consciously acknowledge that I love them. If I even do. It is complicated for sure.

That said there are also those who I cannot express love to anymore at all, for trust and other reasons, who I truly do love, though I do not want to be them (if partners) or even closely connected to them (others).

Venus in libra(house 9 equal or 8 placidus). Mars in Aquarius house 12 conjunct asc.

For me, once I love someone….I cannot imagine not loving them, because there is something about them that somehow went straight to my heart and that’s it. There are fleeting crushes, feelings that stir, but deep love….no, I can’t think of anyone that I have stopped loving whom I love…doesn’t mean that they haven’t hurt me or that I have not forgiven them. I can forgive and not have encounterings with them anymore, but I still love the person whom they are because there was something about them and that may not have anything to do with how or why they hurt me or disappointed me.

I am Venus in Pisces and many times with the people that I love, I have been able to see the child that they once were, the dreams they might have had and I can’t help but love that person….when you can see the little 7 or 8 yr. old fighter, devil, shy, poet, lyrical, ornery, being in them….that’s it for me.

Love does not go away, in my opinion….real love transcends.

“Love does not go away, in my opinion….real love transcends.”

With Venus mashed with Neptune, this seems right but leaves me confused. If I feel I no longer love someone does it mean I never loved them in the first place? Or have I erased the love I felt to ease pain somehow?

I mean, if they showed up in my life would I love them again or was I deluding myself the first time?

Deluding then, or denying now or maybe there are times loves can fade away or be actually be destroyed?

I also agree with the point that is someone doesn’t love you,….that’s it too, they don’t love you.

Has anyone here read about the different types of love? Erotic love, based on sexual attraction and passion. Philial love, which is about give-and-take relationships - being friends. And then you have Agape love which is that Unconditional love that humans yearn for and aspire to… loving unselfishly, without ego.

Maybe it just depends on what kind of love you had, or if you are still working toward love.

Isn’t one-sided love just infatuation or obsession?

Love takes work. If you love someone and they love you but you’re not working on creating love together, aren’t those loving feelings are just kind of unrealized - dormant, if you will?

And there is a fine line between love and hate. But what is hate really, but love turned upside-down? An ego-based emotional reaction to rejection or leaving yourself wide open and vulnerable emotionally?

I think when people manage to rise above such feelings they experience love at a higher level - closer to that Agape or unconditional state.

I gravitate toward astrology because it seems like it will bring me clarity in such matters, but ultimately I end up staring at things like “saturn square mars” and “his sun opposed your moon” etc. and just becoming more confused.

well, Dina, i agree with every single word you wrote!! you really put it out there, and defined it. real love never goes away- it will change- the only thing cetain is change- death rebirth
- beautifully said-my preachy sag venus loved the part about the energy tapestry- so visual
- it is a lesson that i am learning just in the last 2 years, love should not finish, but let it transform- rising above. pluto really cooked my ass, and i have feeling that it is just the beginning…he is pacing over n.node and within a sniff of the asc point.

venus in 28sag 12H-ASC

There are people that I loved once but because of the way they treated me I don’t love them anymore. I just don’t.

I wish them well and hope they are happy but I just don’t love them anymore. I can have compassion for them, and even be friends with them, but I just don’t love them anymore.

It’s like the Tom Petty song for me “Straight Into Darkness” there was a moment when I really loved her but then one day the feeling just died.

there are people i’ve felt love for that i no longer do. i don’t wish them ill or anything, but it’s not there anymore. i also don’t consider it fake or imaginary or anything like that, because at the time, i loved them the only way i know how to love. i know some people always have a spot in their heart for former loves or whatever, but i don’t.

i always kind of felt like that sometimes, a connection has served it’s universal purpose and no longer serves the participants. there are other connections i have that the love stays - it doesn’t matter how long it’s been since we’ve connected.

mars in Scorpio.

After thinking about this, I’m coping out and saying “all of the above”.

Love is a state of being - there are a million ways to experience it and a million ways to love someone.

I LOVED my ex-husband when I married him. We went through some shit, and I don’t love him anymore. -DID- I love him? Very much. But I don’t anymore.

I think there are also situations in which no matter what occurs between two people there’s always love present on some level. The enduring, transcendent love other folks are talking about. It can either be luck (being tied to someone in such a deep way, even when it’s latent) or it can be miserable (having that ghost around for ever).

It’s energy. It’s how other people’s energy mixes with yours and how it affects you; that’s what determines the strength of the bond.

Venus in Taurus…

I have always told my boyfriends (who then became exes) that I will always love them, and it’s true. But, I also tell them that the intensity, the breadth, the love itself does change once the relationship is over…I still love every man/woman I’ve ever loved, but that does not mean I wish to retain or continue with the relationship. Love morphs for me, from something all-encompassing, to something that gets buried but not forgotten…I don’t know how else to explain it, but from the comments it seems as though I’m not the only one

Yet another Venus in Virgo, conjunct Pluto and Uranus.

There are a couple of men who I still have feelings for, even though I broke up with them long ago. Is it love? Not sure. But I definitely didn’t love those who I was able to move on quickly from. I missed being with someone, being partnered, not necessarily THEM.

Sometimes, I picked them simply because I wanted the illusion (I have Jupiter and Neptune in the 7th, not conjunct) of a relationship, when there was nothing there to bond us. They were simply available at the time. That was really foolish on my part. I wouldn’t have even bothered with them if it wasn’t for that silly “need”.

(that bouncing state between delusion and recognition is a turbulent perplexion)

questions like this always end up “What Is The Nature of Truth” for me. it just all breaks down into “what can I know?” do I really know what “love” means? are we all even talking about the same thing? even if I can make a statement that turns out to be empirically true for me, does that make it universally true?

I usually just decide (like Pascal) that I choose certainty as a wager. I place my belief where I feel there’s more to win/less to lose. but still, belief and truth are two separate things.