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1 Minute Astrology - Control Freak Meets Control Freak: Elsa P vs Dentist With Boundaries
1 minute astrology video
How I learned not I could not (and should not) try to control people at work…
Are you a control freak? Tell us about one of your boundaries!
19 Responses to “1 Minute Astrology - Control Freak Meets Control Freak: Elsa P vs Dentist With Boundaries”
Well, I adopted his philosophy. Life is way to short to do things you don’t want to do just because people want you to. If you’re willing to take the possible hit to your business, why not? Why not be happy at your job?
There’s teeth-pullers, and then there’s teeth-cleaners! But yeah, I see this. State your business - and “your bidness” - without apology.
Yeah, these days I see that as akin to someone coming to me for horary astrology (which I don’t do and don’t like) and insisting I perform because I am an astrologer. In that case, I would refuse and I would likely come across the same way this guy did..
I am just surprised that you were arguing with some guy who was about to pull your tooth out lol! I am terrified of dentists!
the face you made at 1:36 is just hilarious!
Off subject, but I love your new shirt! It suits you 
Getting your teeth cleaned is a reasonable expectation though
“Getting your teeth cleaned is a reasonable expectation though”
Maybe. He sure as hell didn’t think so and it didn’t matter what I thought because it was his office. And he told me I was free to call another dentist who would do both…
Anyway, I learned a lot that day. I really never imposed my expectations on an independent business person again.
There is a level of service you can expect from a department store clerk but if they guy/gal has their own shop - well then it’s theirs to run as they damned well please.
When it was all said and done, I admired him. But not without some contortions prior…
it just occured to me this dentist? He’s probably one of the people I just wrote about here:
http://www.elsaelsa.com/archives/2009/01/21/people-with-unusual-life-experience-jupiter-uranus/
How funny Satori!! Just last year I decided I don’t do long hair perms or spiral perms. I hate doing them, but I felt like I still had to do them ,weird. Then I thought WTF I don’t have to do it anymore, since I have been in business for myself for the last 8 years,lol. I finally got it,hahah. I don’t like to be mean but when I don’t set bondaries I end up being resentful, when it is my own damn fault,HELLO.
I have a lot of cardinal in my chart and I do have a tendency to be a control freak.. though more in a sense where, “Don’t tell me what to do!” kind of way.
lol… in my (past) life as a designer, I tell them I don’t do back end programming and I don’t do identity design/branding. I just don’t because it’s not something I enjoy. 
i stopped feeling guilty abt not being an elementary teacher who has her door open at the crack of dawn for the early birds…kids still try to sneak in early and i’m usually a snap turtle…i tell them…’go out and play’ (supervised..where they are supposed to be)
once i open the door…i open my heart…
but mind the clock!
Learning to say NO was sooo freeing in my life. And it took about 45 years! I can’t tell you how many times I said yes to something I really didn’t want to do, and tossed and turned during the night worrying about it, losing sleep, because that’s what some of us folks who’ve got Capricorn do! Now I know that when someone asks me to do something and I get that anxious icky feeling in my gut, it means “Say no” and if I don’t listen, I only have myself to blame. If people complain or get nasty or talk behind your back, too bad… accept it or just go away!
I think the world would run a lot more smoothly if everybody set these boundaries. People do a good job when they’re doing what they want to do. Otherwise, not so much.
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Eeks.. I get it, but that dentist sure sounds anal- or should I say oral?